Child Abuse Commentary

Child Abuse Commentary: Write your experience here!

Do you have a child abuse commentary to share?

  • Perhaps you are a parent, guardian or child care worker with inside or personal knowledge about the legal system.
  • Perhaps you want to share information about a personal child abuse court case, court ruling or other experience that you are aware of.
  • Maybe you’re tired of not being listened to.
  • Tired of not getting your point across.
  • Tired of the system getting a voice while you’re relegated to the ranks of the voiceless.

You’ve come to the right place.

I can’t promise that writing what you know will change the circumstances. But I can tell you that sharing what you know can have great purpose.

Sharing can help you and others realize you are not alone. And perhaps, by bringing light to the darkness of what is injustice or just plain cruelty, change can ensue. This is a place where you can have your say.


Some respectful Do's and Dont's:

  • Cite the facts and how you or the offended party was impacted by the lack of action or the injustice that was doled out. Feel free to express in detail what happened and the resulting aftermath.
  • Don’t name full names of the offended, especially if it’s a minor.
  • Keep in mind that this is a place to share, not shame.
  • Don’t name names of perpetrators, unless it can be easily verified that the person you are naming has been charged.
  • Don't name names of social workers, judges, etc if the information you are sharing has not already been made public. This "don't" is not in place to silence you further. Rather, it's in place to avoid any legal ramifications for both me and this website.
  • Keep in mind that this page was created in order to provide you with the opportunity to share and disclose the details, while also ensuring no privacy laws are broken.

PLEASE NOTE: This webpage is intended to provide an outlet for people with personal knowledge of child abuse or the system. It is not intended as an advice column. I cannot offer advice on specific cases.

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Child Abuse Commentaries on this Site:

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A False Perception 
I was severely abused growing up. I had my nose nostril ripped in half, I was pushed down a flight of stairs, had a bag of black licorice jammed down my …

No Court Date 
My daughter was not given her "Day in Court": I found out just over three years ago that my daughter was sexually molested by her dad - my husband …

Abuse Not Punishment 
I agree that baring and exposing a kid for a spanking is a form of abuse, especially for older kids. I grew up in the 60s when spanking was normal and …

System of Silence 
My name is Clare. I was a victim of the system's failures and more. And abuse. All my life I went through it, been controlled. Domestic abuse of my family …

Dwelling On Past 
I've read quite a number of the accounts of childhood abuse on this website and they are all terrible. My concern though is that the focus seems to only …

Brother Uncle and Saviour 
When my brother announced that his wife was pregnant my heart jump and i was so happy for him and my sister in law. My self i am gay and the thought of …

Don't Want to Go 
I really don't want to go to this wedding...   I'm the scapegoat in a narcissistic family. Mom is the narc, dad orbits, older brother is the …

Children Abused in Care 
I am originally from Liberia West Africa but live in Oslo Norway 8 yrs and 4 months now. I was accused falsely that I beat my children, that I didnt …

A Corrupt System 
I was a Child Abuse Investigator for 7 years. When I was there one month and was about to get my own cases, we visited a home, a mother had a premature …

Too Unbelievable 
Because of my own abuse as a child, on my 18th birthday, I promised myself I would never forget. I made a vow to God that day that somehow, some day I …

A Long Road 
After being placed in foster care due to my mother fleeing from my abusive father (alcoholic, physically abusive, threatening her/our lives) I was abused. …

My Foster Daughter 
I and my wife have been foster parents to abused teens. One of them, whose sexual abuse from an early age by a man she mistakenly thought was her real …

Epic System Failure 
2002 my daughter at the time 18 mo. disclosed some concerning statements of possible sexual abuse by her father! At the time I didn't realize her statements …

This World 
You know Darlene I've been on here a long time. Is there a point when you stop suffering and you get mad about what's going on in the world around you? …

No Help For Son 
My 12 year old son has molested his 10 yr old sister. He was molested as a small child. We contacted CPS as we were advised to do and they have us putting …

Shattered Lives 
As of lately men are slowly coming forward and breaking the silence. They need to know that there is no shame in coming into the light and it doesn't …

Grandchild Committed Suicide 
Grandparent of a child that committed suiscide at 23 years of age:  I don't know exactly what to say or what to do now that my Grandson killed …

Trauma is not Always Intentional 
Unintentional or misguided actions that cause trauma: I saw a comment by another poster about female perpetrators and I was wondering. You …

Don't Protect Abusers 
Don't let it happen to your child: I have already written on my story childhood Horrors and yes there is so many of them and they are all sad, the …

Aware of Child Abuse 
Am writing to you today to bring some of my urgent concern to your attention about two people. I was told by an anonymous source an member of Mr. family …

Your Pages on Sexual Child Abuse Related to Female Perpetrators and Their Victims 
Hi Darlene: asking you to update your pages on Sexual Abuse - specifically "Female Victims" and "Male Victims":  I'm a survivor of female perpetrated …

Child Abuse - When Authorities Overstep and Put Children in Harms Way 
My whole life as a child I grew up without my parents love my mom would do for my brothers and sisters not for me it was like I was being punish for my …

Child Abuse - Posting Research Links 
For Darlene: I watch quite a few sites and one site has various forums. One of the forums is a research forum and I recently noticed that there was a …

Social Worker Determined to Listen to Foster Childrens Claims of Abuse 
I am in that situation currently. I work as a contract social worker and the children I've been supervising visits with are making claims of abuse. DSS …

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Child Abuse - When the Authorities do Nothing 
The child abuse wasn't to me,it was a little girl and it was her great grand mother. The little girl looked to be around 7 yrs of age.Her hair was pulled …

Child Abuse - Child Protection Agencies That Do Not Protect 
Adults that act like teenagers and have no impulse control: I am a grandparent who is fighting so very hard to let the world know my grandson is …

Child Abuse - Social Worker Destroys Stable Home for Child 
This is a Story of mental child abuse caused by a Social Worker employed by DHHR. The Parents were Drug Addicts that were reported by a Drunken Felony, …

Child Abuse - Clarifications of Rules on This Site 
After reading the rules I feel another slap in the head. How can I write my story when the rules want me to be kind and gentle to the evil trash strangling …

Child Abuse in Florida - A Corrupt System 
My children have been mentally, physically and sexually abused for the past 3 years by their father, and paternal grandmother. I had medical decision making …

Not Sure Where to Take Child Abuse Case Now 
I have just stumbled across this website by pure chance 5 minutes ago and boy am I pleased I did. I was searching google with "child abuse case didnt go …

Child Abuse - Ohio Children Services Do Nothing 
Our future should be more important:  Im from Ohio and the children service is sitting on there butts getting paid.. How can nothing be done …

Child Abuse - My Son is Missing Through Child Protection Courts 
Last nite my missing son A-- who is illegally taken from myself Patricia on falsified documents ,cover ups of child molestation physical ,emional abuse, …

Child Abuse - Story From a Daycare Worker 
Okay, so this isn't my story, but I do play a role in it. So, I work at a daycare in the town I go to college in (I'm a junior). Anyhow one day I'm at …

Sexual Child Abuse Happens to Males Not Just Females 
To All Our Brothers:  This is scars in Arizona, I would like to say something to all the men and little boys out there who were abused. I was …

Child Abuse at Lake Park Wild Rice Childrens Home 
the lake park wild rice children's home in fergus falls mn abuses kids they should be held accountable.for years iv'e been trying to get everyone attention …

Child Abuse and When Unwanted Haircuts Become Torture 
An visitor's opinion:  I'm going to do the commentary that describes the haircut torture my awful parents inflicted just because they could …

Child Abuse - Labels As Emotional Abuse 
I don't really want to tell you this b/c I am afraid ppl will judge me.I think saying a child has oppositional defiant disorder is emotional abuse. It …

Child Abuse Story From Princess Andie TM 
Sent away, my sister & I...not knowing what was to become:  Many, many years ago when I was (15) & my sister (12), my Mom had decided to send …

Stop Child Abuse 
This blog gives so much insight into the issue of child abuse. The stories from the people who actually had to deal with this issue, although sad, are …

Child Abuse Commentary by Paul 
Was on another web site but got the distinct feeling it was geared toward women I had posted for several days off and on there. I feel like I am not being …

Child Abuse - How Reading These Stories Have Impacted Me 
How I feel:  I am doing a project for school and this website really helped! It makes me stop and think how fortunate I really am. It is hard …

Child Abuse - No Help From the System 
My 14 yo stepdaughter has been trying to get help from abuse from her father (my ex husband) for years now. I divorced him because of abuse and the poor …

A New Category of Child Pornography? 
Where to start...I was toying with the idea of going back to school for my master's in social work degree (I have my bachelor's degree in social work) …

Child Abuse - Who are Fighting for the Children 
I have knowledge of neglect going on. I called cps in TX and was told that even though the person resides in TX the neglect was happening over state lines, …

Child Neglect During a Heatwave 
There is a heatwave in my province. It so severe, Environment Canada put out a warning. That is why i's so upset by the fact that a 3 year old girl was …

Child Abuse and What I Learned From The Hunger Games 
I didn't think I'd get sucked into The Hunger Games Mania. But I saw myself in alot of it. The "man" who had hurt me so badly was the sadistic President …

Duty to Report - Child Physical and Sexual Abuse 
I am an adult resident of Manitoba and have been made aware of some gross negligence & abuse that has been occuring to 2 precious children for a number …

Child Abuse Commentary From Anon 
I read some of the stories listed and feel great sadness for those of you who have had your lives damaged by the selfish actions of others. I was sexually …

Child Abuse - The System Does Not Benefit Children  
Abusive systems do not benefit abused children:  People who have not experienced the trauma of child abuse often believe that “The System” …

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Child Abuse Story From Name Undisclosed125 
I wonder what's wrong with me:  Ever since I was young I was being molested by my father and my step grandfather. My dad would come and touch …

Child Abuse - Lost and in Fear For My Children 
Six years ago my kids were placed in srs (Social and Rehabilitation Services) custody so i gave their grandparents temporary custody not realizing the …

Child Abuse Story From Name Undisclosed124 
i was molested from a pretty early age well as far as i can remember. i was molested by so many people. im worried if my stepdad might rape me and ill …

Potential Child Abuse 
I recently became involved and dating with a man who has his daughter (18) living with him. A neighborhood girl Under 14 frequents the home and visits …

Child Abuse - My Daughter Still Affected as a Teen 
My Daughter's abuse by her father is affecting her to this day:  He was abusing her even as an infant....it was escalating by the day and so …

Words From a Child Abuser 
I wanted to comment on the exchange with a child abuser. On September 18th 2010, I crossed a line that never should be crossed by a mother. Before I go …

Child Abuse By the System 
How would you like to have your 14 yr old daughter come to you after years of mental abuse at the hands of her mom and finally confide in you that mom …

Oklahoma Does Nothing About Child Abuse  
Oklahoma does nothing about child abuse. To start it off I am an eye witness to a man who would fondle his 12 year old daughters breasts and I mean rubbing …

Child on Child Sexual Intrusiveness in Daycare Facility 
My grandson attended a daycare. When he began he was still in diapers. He started having nightmares about a particular boy. He then said that this boy …

Child Abuse - Turn of the Light 
A child who's protected and held to rise, lives with sunshine and rainbows, puppies and butterflies. Sadly, but true not all would appear to have …

Child Abuse - Speaking Out Years Later 
How do you speak about something so extreme that happened years ago and remain anonymous? This is something that has never been reported:  …

Child Abuse - No Help For Sexual Abuse Victim 
My son's 17-year-old girlfriend is being abused in her home:  My sons 17 yr old girlfriend has been sexually abused by her brother and beaten …

Abuse Against Someone Who Cannot Defend Herself  
Non-Verbal Autism & STD:  My daughter was raped but it wasn't considered a rape until the "STD" became her enter voice brought fourth. I have …

I Have The Feeling I Was Sexually Abused As A Child 
For as long as I can remember, I have felt like I was sexually abused, whether it means I witnessed a sexual deviant act, had someone close to me that …

Child Abuse - CPS in Delaware a Total Joke 
My 3 year old granddaughter who lives with me 80% of the time went home for a few days and came back with bruises and said "daddy hurt my bottom" I thought …

Child Abuse - Child Endangering and Corruption in Pennsylvania 
I am the father of two little girls, ages 4&6 and they live with me in Pennsylvania. Their mother has admitted in court to giving one child beer to put …

Child Abuse Commentary From Rebbeca 
I think I may have missed some signs:  I am writing because I called CPS on my former boyfriend. We are not in a custody battle and if I wanted …

Child Abuse of Zahra Baker 
I'm not Zahra, but I heard about her in the news and was devastated by it. She was 10 years old when she died. She had beaten cancer twice in her short …

Child Abuse Commentary From Emily L 
I just want to thank you Darlene for gathering all the information in the form of articles on the various types of abuse - from ignoring to actual violence... …

Child Abuse - Mercy For You 
Mercy for You:  If you could see inside when you say mean things to me. You'd see the hurt and pain I bleed. You tear me apart and so I …

Child Abuse - The System and My Advocate 
I am hoping 2 help others& myself,I have 2grandsons live with me,but #3 has been put back with mother&father,yes the system.In 2008 were in Michigan,had …

Save a Child From Child Abuse 
long story . dated woman with child 8yr old female. a man that has in police statement admited to being aroused to orgasm by touch of this girl he is self …

Child Abuse - Who is the Vicitm 
My disabled daughter was molested and raped by a family member. We didn't find out until it had been going on for more than three years. When he was questioned, …

Child Abuse - A Molester in Our Neighbourhood 
There was a woman that I was friends with about 1 year ago. She had an 8 year old son. Anyway, to make a long story short, she had a boyfriend who was …

Child Abuse and the Legal System 
I did not grow up in a home with abuse but lived with an abuser for 15yrs. I had 4 children with the abuser and my children are my life. In group we have …

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Child Abuse - A Mothers Secrets 
As a mother, our first instincts are to protect our children in any case, right or wrong,,but how far will a mother go to protect a child from a serious …

Standing up to a Child Abuser 
Who do you think you are? You try to tell me who to be! You make up lies and tell me things, Of people I don't want to be. And once you realize this, …

Emotionally Neglectful Child Abuse 
I'm at my wits ends. I was abused as a child, but honestly I'm not posting this about me. I've dealt with my past. But I'm in a situation that is completely …

Child Abuse - Failure to Protect 
During the 2010 school year at the high school my granddaughter goes to, a teacher was engaged in sexual misconduct in the classroom. He took pictures …

Child Abuse - Being Supportive To Others 
i have never been abused befor but i have seen situations like the ones i have heard about on this website. I have very close friends that have been sexualy, …

Child Abuse - Screening of Daycare Providers 
When i was younger, and just started daycare, my parents liked the provider. It turns out she was sexually abusing me. My parents found this out because …

Child Abuse - Spinning in Circles in the System 
My son is 4 years old. We have been through 4 children's services investigations and nothing has been done. He still has to visit his father. I have many …

Child Abuse - Child Raped By Her Father 
I am from a women organization and also helping child rights. I had recently come to learn that a child was being raped by her father and the mother did …

A Special Comment From Sandra 
Your amazing!  I just wanted to tell you how much this site has done for me! You must be an angel, really, because I don't know what else you …

My Son is Molesting My Daughter 
Today my nine year old daughter has come to me telling me that her thirteen year old brother had been touching her and performing sexual acts on her. I …

Great Job on This Child Abuse Website 
I just wanted to tell you- WOW You have done an incredible job with this site I hope it helps people in need and educates others to help those in need. …

Child Protection Services as Child Abusers 
Protections Services are Here to Help - At What Cost?  Imagine those employed to serve and protect you waking you up out of bed, giving you …

No Legal Consequences for Child Abuser 
Minor's Counsel tells Judge, Father was not aware of child abuse in his home:  I would like to know how it is possible for a (alleged in the …

Child Abuse Should Not Dominate Your Life 
Why you shouldn't let any kind of abuse dominate your life:  Although right now I can't be sure if I was sexually abused or not, there is something …

Child Abuse - Stop It Now 
Im fourteen years old when i was little my life change so much. Reading these stories i know im not alone. Anyone out there reading these children or adults …

My Daughter's Child Abuse 
My daughter is now 2 years old and her father was her abuser. Was mine too, but that is a different story. He started sexually abusing my daughter when …

Child Abuse – System Does Not Work for Children 
In the summer of 2005 my daughter tells me mothers boyfriend refused and didn't let her and bro in the house, even after she became sleepy. forced them …

Child Abuse – Feeling Your Pain 
I just don't understand why the people who work with Child Welfare cannot be held responsible when a child gets abused in foster care. It is the duty of …

Child Abuse By Only One Parent 
Child abuse by Father but divorced Mother is Interrogated, harassed and accused:  My four children, ranging from ages seven to thirteen, have …

Child Abuse – No one is Listening to the Children 
WHY CAN'T THEY LISTEN TO THE CHILDREN?  My two wonderful grandchildren ages 3 and 4 are being abused by their father. He has court ordered …

Domestic Violence and Child Abuse 
Domestic violence-child scared-access rights:  I was in a domestic violent relationship for a period of quite a few years until the police …

Child Abuse in Foster Care 
My son was abused mentally emotionally and even beaten by foster carers/adopters there dosent seem to be anywhere for him to talk about it as we hate social …

Child Abuse in Foster Home 
My 4 year old was abused in foster home:  I am a 30yr old mother of three. My children were taken from me back in april of 2009. my two youngest …

Child Abuse Ignored 
I am a father of two young boys - i live everyday with regret and anger - their mother was abused from age 6 to 14 by a stepfather - she revealed this …

Child Abuse Commentaries by BMW Princess 
Sometimes it seems like bad people get away with everything. Sometimes it seems like their darkness is choking out the light. I believe there are some …

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Child Abuse in Florida 
When my oldest daughter was 4-she told me her father abuse her I believe her took action-report it to law enforcement, got her in immediate therapy. I …

Child Abuse - Parent Let Little Boy's Teeth Rot 
I am disgusted with a relative of mine who let her preschooler's teeth rot..by feding him junk food all his five years of life and he just had to have …

Sexual Child Abuse: What Do Boyfriends Think? 
I want to start off by saying - I know this isn't an advice column - and I'm asking for a perspective, but am not interpreting it as advice for my situation...I …

Child Abuse in the Hands of CPS 
Be careful...they will say you abused your child when he reacts to being removed from you:  When my soon to be ex husband's girlfriend started …

Child Abuse: Questioning the System 
Why Doesn't The System Work Anymore????  I am married to a wonderful man that has a five-year-old son. Almost 2 years ago he received temporary …

Child Abuse Poem: Little Girl Down The Lane 
Little Girl Down The Lane. Little Molly doesn't understand. She doesn't understand why He lives in her dreams. He hides behind her dollhouse with …

Girlfriend Sexually Abused by Father 
I had a girlfriend for 2 years. She was from a nice family and everyone in her family were supposed to be very kind people. I and my girlfriend were spending …

Tearless But Tearful Child Abuse 
Today I witnessed a horrific occurrence while at work. While doing a garbage run in the store, I heard the loud voice of a customer, ".....see this is …

Child Abuse Poem 
Why did it happen to me? I was just a little kid. Trying to survive in this big world. I tried to make it stop. Why wouldn't it stop? I didn't do …

Child Abuse Story From Anon For My Best Friend 
My best friend is 13 and she has gone through a lot. Recently I haven't been spending much time with her, and she came up to me and told me that she is …

Child Abuse: Again The System Fails Children 
Why Can't we get help?  I am the step-mother of two beautiful girls. Five years ago I met this wonderful man and fell in love with him. We …

Child Abuse and the System 
My son just went through a very traumatic experience while on his weekend visit with his father. He had an accident in his underwear (of poop) and his …

Child Abuse of My Grandson 
I just want people to know what has and is going to happen before they make me disappear. My son died because of the abuse he suffered as a child by the …

Child Abuse Story About Nick From Alex 
I promised a friend of mine that I wouldn't tell anyone about his childhood but I can't keep it no longer. This child abuse survivor went through a lot …

Child Abuse Story About Rose From Sophie 
This is not a story about me, but mostly about my long-time best friend Rose. We've been best friends since second grade and we are now about to go into …

I Witnessed My Best Friend Being Abused 
My best friend, Angelina, and I were in our classroom late one afternoon. School was just over and we decided to stay in class and chat for a little while, …

My Son Now Confirms Sexual Abuse 
Did it happen or was it a dream:  My son was troubled, I thought from the abuse he received when visiting his dad. I took him to doctors and …

Child Abuse is Not Fair 
I feel that no child should be harmed from child abuse. I also feel if a girl can have a baby then she should take care of it. She or her husband or boyfriend …

Parents Respect Your Children 
I have an advice to give to all the parents in India. I know I'm younger to you all (with due respect to all the parents)...please never doubt on your …

A Quote for Child Abuse Survivors 
I found this quote and would like to share it: "Out of the most suffering the strongest of people emerge, but the largest of characters are covered …

Child Abuse on Military Bases 
I am so sick of hearing of stories about children who are being abused on base! Not because I don't believe them, but because it is a tragedy that our …

Confused by Accused Child Predator 
I'm confused. My mom is with an accused child predator but he says the wife accused him because he caught her cheating on him. A lot of people agree or …

My Friend is Suffering Child Abuse 
I am 14. My best friend is getting physically abused by her father. Her dad is not the most caring person when he is not drinking. Now he drinks all the …

A Poem for Kayla 
This is a poem I wrote for my granddaughter, which I got custody of because of neglect and abuse. She has been in counseling for 20 months now. She started …

Child Abuse Poem From Lizzy 
I'm Sorry Mommy:  I'm Sorry I'm Sorry I'm Sorry That's all that goes through my mind every day. I'm Sorry I am a burden. I'm Sorry I was …

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Child Abuse Victims and Intimate Relationships 
Child Abuse Victims and the Ones Who Love Them as Adults:  I found this site as I researched the effects of childhood sex abuse when they become …

Fourteen and Wants to Get Pregnant 
This little story of mine breaks my heart. We have a young lady of fourteen years who sits for us. She dropped a bomb shell on me the other night driving …

My Friend Experienced Childhood Sexual Abuse 
My friend is a native female who was adopted out to a white Mormon family. She began to be molested around the age of 5 by the father and 1 or 2 sons. …

Child Abuse Story About a Child Named Adrianna Part 2 
An update:  I was just posting this on here to tell the people who have read my last one that Adrianna is recovering quickly. She's gained …

Linda's Posts Formerly Linda's Room 
A brave survivor posted his story today. He gave us a glimpse into a life marred by an abuser's deception, betrayal, and depravity. He gave us, also, …

Child Abuse Story About a Child Named Adrianna 
Adrianna is almost two. She can't walk and she is just now starting to hold her head up. My preacher and his wife are her foster parents. Her mom wouldn't …

Child Abuse: As adults only now realizing it 
We, who have been abused, need as much help and support as we can get:  I would just like to thank you for your site (and I will be buying …

Child Neglect and a Working Single Mother 
I'm a single mother of four. The fathers were drug users and go in and out of jail. I worked my way off welfare after 14 years. Started working a state …

Child Abuse Commentary From Cathy – A Near Tragedy 
This story is in response to Marina from Prince George re: Clifford Olson (Canada's most notorious serial child killer). When I was 14 years old, in …

When both parents sexually abuse their children 
I feel anger toward parents who sexually abuse their children. It's a sign that their own childhoods must have been so rotten that they really should …

Defending Sexually Abused Children 
Defending my child sexual abuse (CSA) children...EXCRUCIATING BATTLE!  Oh, I'm so angry. I reported a male family member for child sexual abuse. …

Comments made me realize I need help for child abuse 
Reading this site's comments has really made me understand the abuse that is really in this country. My childhood abuse from my family and in my in-laws' …

From Canada's Eastern Shore: Thank you Darlene! 
I'm guessing you're really busy maintaining this site. I see you've worked all through the Xmas holidays to post our stories. I can't really thank you …

STOP CHILD ABUSE 
We need to put a stop to this child abuse. It's not just our children that are being killed, it's our future, and we can't let these scumbags ruin our …

Child Abuse Story From Anonymous for Mother 
I am not abused, and I have never been. I'm actually not sure if I am allowed to post this about someone else. However, my mother was terribly abused as …

You Provide Helpful Comments 
I just wanted to say how helpful your comments are. I read many of the child abuse stories and am trying to get better myself as well...your comments are …

This Site: A Place to Connect with Other Child Abuse Survivors 
I was doing research on the effects of child abuse and stumbled on your site, Darlene. I find your site is very well organized, and helps give those of …

Shaken Up by the Reality of Child Abuse 
I have perused your site and am moved by the monumental support you offer to those who visit. The reason I initially visited your site was for research …

Child Abuse Safe Haven 
I also have had CPS lie on reports and a judge dismiss me from court even after several occasions of neglect, anal bleeding, corporal punishment and leaving …

Thank you! 
I've been researching sites on abuse in childhood, as I want to make this my dissertation. Yours has been comprehensive, open and enlightened. Here we …

Effects of Witnessing Child Abuse 
Shh...  I've written about this before, but I feel like I need to get it out of the way again, because I still see these people at random times. …

A Child Abuse Poem: Daddy's Little Girl 
I hope it is OK to post a poem here. As she swings higher and higher She thought to herself, this is what little girls do But she did not feel like …

When Child Abuse Victims Become Bullies 
Note from Darlene:  Generally, I do not post bullying stories, because bullying does not fall under the realm of child abuse. Some would disagree …

My Daughter was Sexually Abused  
What do you do when you have no knowledge of sexual abuse? What do you do when you feel that people aren't there to help you and direct you in life? What …

PLEASE Help Stop Child Abuse 
I am an 11-year-old girl with something to say:  Even though I haven't been abused, I know how it feels. It is a horrible thing to be done …

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Aware of Physical Child Abuse and Neglect 
I was abused as a child by my adoptive parents. I am now 22 and have a life. I know a girl who is the same age as me and has 3 kids and no education. She …

My Little Cousin is Abused 
I am 16 years old and my two-year-old cousin is my life. I babysit him all the time and honestly feel like he is my own child. I would do anything for …

Sexual Abuse Effects From Sarah 
I can't believe what I did!  My parents brought me to the hospital yesterday because I threatened suicide. My father brought me to the hospital …

Child Abuse: I Have a Say Too 
I am not a parent. I am only 12 years old, but I think that I should have a say in child abuse. I think kids are cute. But what parents do is cruel. I …

Child Abuse: Jesus Can Help 
Child abuse is horrible. Absolutely horrible. Reply from Darlene: Mike, you did not say whether or not you yourself are a survivor of child …

Female Sex Offender Additions 
Bravo for your recent additions vis-a-vis female sex offenders. Reply from Darlene: While I thank you for the accolades, the page you are referring …

How should I have dealt with witnessing child abuse? 
Today, I was shopping with my baby at my local grocery store, when I saw a father whack his daughter--about 6 or 7--over the head for stepping away from …

Past Child Abuse Affects My Marriage Today 
I am 53 years old and still suffer from childhood trauma from my parents. Although my and wife I are totally in love and care deeply for each other, I …

A Safe Environment for Child Abuse Survivors to Post Their Stories 
Darlene, thank you for this site. I've suffered from emotional abuse at the hands of family members since I was 6 years old, and am slowly working my way …

Child Abuse 60 years ago 
I was 3 months old when I was abused. I am now 60 and still do not know the truth. I was abused violently and was in the Children's Hospital in Boston …

Child Molestation/Rape is a Vicious Cycle...REPORT to POLICE! 
Child Abuse is a vicious cycle of repeated events!!! Isn't it ironic? when I was a teenager, my father—leading insurance agent for 25 years, musician …

At This Age the Child's Mind Still Recalls 
Darlene, first let me say thank you for this all-inclusive website. What brought me to you was research on sexual abuse for a blog I will write, but …

Violence is Not the Answer to Child Abuse or Bullying 
I would like to thank you personally Darlene, for taking the time to respond to my post (see Pamela's story on this site) and for getting back to me …

My Friend Endures Child Abuse 
It all started when my friend was 4 and her mom started going out with her brother's dad. He would physically and emotionally abuse her mama. When she …

My ex girlfriend's abuse needs to be heard 
I dated this girl for a month. In that month, it was horrifying. I dumped her because her mother and sister were so manipulative. They were the nicest …

Child Abuse Is Wrong 
My point of view for child abuse is that I think that it should be stopped for good. Not only is it the parents' fault for hitting their child, but at …

My Cousin 
When my cousin was younger, her mom used to hit her for no reason. I asked my cousin one day why her mom hits her. She told me that whenever her mother …

A New Beginning 
Just one! One voice speaks and one person listens. So many years went by and not one. Then it happened...millions, millions and still counting. I always …

Thank you so much for this site 
Thank you so much for this site. I'm researching a middle grade book. So many abuse victims need to be heard. You offer them the chance to shout. I'll …

Positively affected by books on child abuse 
My Hero...Dave Pelzer  I just read a book called "A Child Called 'It'" by Dave Pelzer. It made me mad, because as a little kid, Dave used to …

A thank you from P 
Darlene, I want to thank you for the support you have given me. Since you reached out to me, as I think of those beatings my mother 'saved' for me, the …

Emotional Abuse Definition on Your Site 
I noticed the definition of emotional abuse on your site is limited to an adult abusing a child. I came to your site while researching emotional abuse …

Friends are witnesses who can help stop child abuse 
The abused have to leave the abuser in order to stop being abused. The abused are controlled, manipulated, and afraid that no one will believe them. I …

Targeted Child Abuse 
I was the middle child of four children. Both my parents were present in the home. I had an older brother, an older sister, and a younger sister. All of …

Is Your Child Really Safe at School? 
What is a parent supposed to do when you send your child to school and then find out later the school will release your child to anybody that walks up …

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Anne Enright: The Gathering  
I bought this novel from a small bookshop in Dunster, Somerset (UK) whilst visiting my partner's learning-disabled daughter who attends a special college …

My Friend's Story of Healing 
Reading all of these stories makes me cry. How to get rid of child abuse when you are being abused? Talk to a counselor and/or call the police. I know …

Hayley's Posts Formerly Hayley's Room 
I suffered abuse primarily at the hands of my brother, but I kept it hidden, even though I was hurting inside. It wasn't until I was 15 that I said anything …

OH REALLY? 
I HAVE BEEN THROUGH MORE THAN YOU CAN YOU CAN POSSIBLY IMAGINE! FOR YOU TO DISCREDIT BRANDY SHIRLEY IS AN INSULT TO ME,SHE HAS BEEN MY THERAPIST FOR THE …

Arrested for Child Abuse 
I was arrested for child abuse. I was sitting in my house, taking care of my 8-week-old baby when I noticed a truck full of kids pull up in front of my …

Child Abuse in a Foreign Country 
The abuse didn't happen to me. It happened to someone that I loved very much. I was working in a foreign country, and became involved with someone who …

My mother went through child abuse 
My mom was beaten up by her mom and she was told she was worthless and all of that stuff. She was dragged up the stairs by her hair and her head was slammed …

Adoption saved my newborn from abusive father 
I wasn't really ever abused as a child, but I was as an adult. I was in a very abusive relationship with my now ex-boyfriend for almost 5 years. We started …

Incest runs rampant in my family 
I come from a sexual child abuse family. None of it ever happened to me, but my brothers and sisters got it. My father would beat and sexually abuse my …

My best friend is an amazing person 
My best friend was physically and sexually abused growing up. We were best friends, and still it was hard for her to tell, me even after it all was done. …

Response to my abuser 
I was molested from the age of 10 to about 16. It was continuous, and after a while, it became part of my life. Until recently, I had suppressed all my …

Freud and the Edipal Complex 
Just read the history section. Great bibliography. Have you ever read a book by Jeffrey Mason about his experience in the Freud archives? I can't recall …

Jennifer's Posts Formerly Jennifer's Room 
work in progress, just testing how to work my pages at this point.

Child Abuse is Dangerous! 
People need to know how dangerous child abuse really is. Almost every day some child has died because one of their family members has killed them. The …

I Wouldn't Know What to Do! 
I am 16 years old. I have read about the stories that I think are awful...I am doing a presentation at school about it. If it happened to me, I wouldn't …

My Mother is a Child Abuse Survivor 
I found out that from the age of six years old, when her father left, that my mother was raped and abused by her stepfather. Not only did this man sexually …

Interested in subject of child abuse 
I am a teen girl. I am very interested in child abuse. And when I say that, I don't mean that I like the stories I read. But I've read so many books about …

Not Being Heard 
I am a woman of 58 who grew up on northern Canadian military bases. I was a child of 8 when I came to Canada with my parents and two sisters. At the age …

Adults Must Properly Supervise Children 
I was in elementary school, and there was a closed off space in the library. The closed off space was a pretend house that was made out of book cases. …

Abusers' Accountability? 
I've posted before about my situation. My mother targeted me to unload all her resentments from an early age. She was a bitter, miserable woman in a difficult …

Words of Courage 
I got molested once when I was 5. I never told anyone, but I don't talk to him anymore. I just want to say a couple of words or sentences, and hopefully …

Helping My Friend 
I volunteer at an advocacy center, so I see some children every day. I don't talk to them because I am a minor. But one of my friends gets hit by her dad …

State Laws Sanction Physical Assault Against Children 
I have been reading some of the blogs on your site. It is unbelievable what adults are capable of doing. I have a 13 year old daughter that has a mother …

The Torment Has to Stop 
Well I finally did it! The story, as most are, is too complex for here. But I finally called the police to see about charging both persons who treated …

Forgotten Father 
I'm a father of one, a beautiful 2 1/2-year-old boy, whom due to the flawed legal system in Nova Scotia, only sees his father 8 hours per week. Without …

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You Finally Killed Me! 
I just wrote this poem, and though it's not true, I wrote it because I want you to know I feel what people feel. She's laying here crying Does her …

How Wrong, How Disgusting 
I am a 17-year-old student still attending high school, and I am doing a research project on child abuse. I have just finished reading the book, A Child …

I Witnessed Child Abuse in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot 
This is not my story, but that of a small boy that I personally witnessed and subsequently reported to the state police! On the 15th day of November …

Abusive and Tactless Comments on This Site 
This commentary comes off the heels of highly insensitive comments written yesterday, November 9th, by someone using the handle of Anonymous under the …

My Daughter 
I have a daughter that told me, when she was 3, that her dad taught her to do a strip tease dance and put his peepee in her, and then she also said that …

Not Really Real 
I quit being a real person when I was 5 years old. I remember it. I started pretending I was a cartoon and nothing hurt me, like the coyote on Roadrunner; …

Can My Son Charge His Offender Years After The Abuse? 
I have a question that you might be able to answer for me. If a teenager was sexually molested as a child, but hasn't told anyone until they are teenagers, …

He Took So Much 
I often wonder what type of person I would be if I was never raped or molested. If I would be one of those girls I see from high school driving nice cars …

When BOTH Parents Sexually Abuse Their Child 
There was a woman who lived next door to me years ago in a different neighborhood than where I live now, and she told me that her son hadn't spoken with …

Sexual Abuse or Not? 
I don't know how long ago my abuse started with my cousin, and it stopped about a year before she moved to . . . somewhere . I love my cousin dearly, …

Targeting a Specific Child for Abuse 
I would like your thoughts on a parent targeting a specific child. I haven't found much information about that. I'm sure it is more common that people …

Recent "Allegations" of Child Abuse  
I am the mother of two young boys. I cannot disclose more than that as this is currently going through the legal process and I don't want to jeopardize …

Life of Changes: When No One Reports Child Abuse 
On June 08th 1996 a mom gave birth to a baby boy. The parents were so happy that after a long time marriage they finally had a baby boy. They have gone …

My Friend 
My friend was so scared she came to me. She told me her stepdad hits her. Then her grandma threatens to hit her. She told her dad. "Do you want me to do …

I witnessed child abuse 
I once seen a mother batter a little 3-year-old and bruised her. The mother used to ciggie burn her little kid. Reply from Darlene: Whenever …

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