Child Abuse Commentary

I've created this child abuse commentary page to fill a niche that has developed with visitors to my site. I've been receiving article submissions through my child abuse page that has made me recognize the need to generate another forum for people to express themselves.

Are you a parent, guardian or child care worker with inside or personal knowledge about child abuse or the system?

Do you want to share information about a personal child abuse court case, court ruling or other experience that you are aware of?

Tired of not being listened to? Of not getting your point across?

Now is your chance to have your say. Share your unique point of view!

PLEASE NOTE: This page is intended to provide an outlet for people with personal knowledge of child abuse or the system. It is not intended as an advice column. I cannot offer advice on specific cases.

You're probably not alone--your personal experience could resonate with other readers on this site. Share your child abuse commentary with them.

Check out the child abuse commentaries on this page...

Sexual Child Abuse: What Do Boyfriends Think?  I want to start off by saying - I know this isn't an advice column - and I'm asking for a perspective, but am not interpreting it as advice for my situation....

Child Abuse in the Hands of CPS  Be careful...they will say you abused your child when he reacts to being removed from you:  When my soon to be ex husband's girlfriend started making ...

Child Abuse: Questioning the System  Why Doesn't The System Work Anymore????  I am married to a wonderful man that has a five-year-old son. Almost 2 years ago he received temporary ...

Child Abuse Poem: Little Girl Down The Lane  Little Girl Down The Lane.

Little Molly
doesn't understand.
She doesn't understand why
He lives in her dreams.
He hides behind her dollhouse with
...

Girlfriend Sexually Abused by Father  I had a girlfriend for 2 years. She was from a nice family and everyone in her family were supposed to be very kind people. I and my girlfriend were spending ...

Tearless But Tearful Child Abuse  Today I witnessed a horrific occurrence while at work. While doing a garbage run in the store, I heard the loud voice of a customer, ".....see this is ...

Child Abuse Poem  Why did it happen to me?
I was just a little kid.
Trying to survive in this big world.
I tried to make it stop.
Why wouldn't it stop?
I didn't do ...

Child Abuse Story From Anon For My Best Friend  My best friend is 13 and she has gone through a lot. Recently I haven't been spending much time with her, and she came up to me and told me that she is ...

Child Abuse: Again The System Fails Children  Why Can't we get help?  I am the step-mother of two beautiful girls. Five years ago I met this wonderful man and fell in love with him. We seemed ...

Child Abuse and the System  Child Abuse and the System: When child protective services and the courts refuse to act.

Child Abuse of My Grandson  I just want people to know what has and is going to happen before they make me disappear. My son died because of the abuse he suffered as a child by the ...

Child Abuse Story About Nick From Alex  I promised a friend of mine that I wouldn't tell anyone about his childhood but I can't keep it no longer. This child abuse survivor went through a lot ...

Child Abuse Story About Rose From Sophie  This is not a story about me, but mostly about my long-time best friend Rose. We've been best friends since second grade and we are now about to go into ...

I Witnessed My Best Friend Being Abused  My best friend, Angelina, and I were in our classroom late one afternoon. School was just over and we decided to stay in class and chat for a little while,...

My Son Now Confirms Sexual Abuse  Did it happen or was it a dream:  My son was troubled, I thought from the abuse he received when visiting his dad. I took him to doctors and talked ...

Child Abuse is Not Fair  I feel that no child should be harmed from child abuse. I also feel if a girl can have a baby then she should take care of it. She or her husband or boyfriend ...

Parents Respect Your Children  I have an advice to give to all the parents in India. I know I'm younger to you all (with due respect to all the parents)...please never doubt on your ...

A Quote for Child Abuse Survivors  I found this quote and would like to share it:

"Out of the most suffering the strongest of people emerge, but the largest of characters are covered ...

Child Abuse on Military Bases  I am so sick of hearing of stories about children who are being abused on base! Not because I don't believe them, but because it is a tragedy that our ...

Confused by Accused Child Predator  I'm confused. My mom is with an accused child predator but he says the wife accused him because he caught her cheating on him. A lot of people agree or ...

My Friend is Suffering Child Abuse  I am 14. My best friend is getting physically abused by her father. Her dad is not the most caring person when he is not drinking. Now he drinks all the ...

A Poem for Kayla  This is a poem I wrote for my granddaughter, which I got custody of because of neglect and abuse. She has been in counseling for 20 months now. She started ...

Child Abuse Poem From Lizzy  I'm Sorry Mommy:  I'm Sorry I'm Sorry I'm Sorry
That's all that goes through my mind every day.
I'm Sorry I am a burden. I'm Sorry I was born....

Child Abuse Victims and Intimate Relationships  Child Abuse Victims and the Ones Who Love Them as Adults:  I found this site as I researched the effects of childhood sex abuse when they become ...

Fourteen and Wants to Get Pregnant  This little story of mine breaks my heart. We have a young lady of fourteen years who sits for us. She dropped a bomb shell on me the other night driving ...

My Friend Experienced Childhood Sexual Abuse  My friend is a native female who was adopted out to a white Mormon family. She began to be molested around the age of 5 by the father and 1 or 2 sons. As ...

Child Abuse Story About a Child Named Adrianna Part 2  An update:  I was just posting this on here to tell the people who have read my last one that Adrianna is recovering quickly. She's gained 10 lbs ...

Child Abuse Story About a Child Named Adrianna  Adrianna is almost two. She can't walk and she is just now starting to hold her head up. My preacher and his wife are her foster parents. Her mom wouldn'...

Child Abuse: As adults only now realizing it  We, who have been abused, need as much help and support as we can get:  I would just like to thank you for your site (and I will be buying your ...

Child Neglect and a Working Single Mother  I'm a single mother of four. The fathers were drug users and go in and out of jail. I worked my way off welfare after 14 years. Started working a state ...

Child Abuse Commentary From Cathy – A Near Tragedy  This story is in response to Marina from Prince George re: Clifford Olson (Canada's most notorious serial child killer). When I was 14 years old, in ...

When both parents sexually abuse their children  I feel anger toward parents who sexually abuse their children. It's a sign that their own childhoods must have been so rotten that they really should ...

Defending Sexually Abused Children  Defending my child sexual abuse (CSA) children...EXCRUCIATING BATTLE!  Oh, I'm so angry. I reported a male family member for child sexual abuse....

Comments made me realize I need help for child abuse  Reading this site's comments has really made me understand the abuse that is really in this country. My childhood abuse from my family and in my in-laws'...

From Canada's Eastern Shore: Thank you Darlene!  I'm guessing you're really busy maintaining this site. I see you've worked all through the Xmas holidays to post our stories. I can't really thank you ...

STOP CHILD ABUSE  We need to put a stop to this child abuse. It's not just our children that are being killed, it's our future, and we can't let these scumbags ruin our ...

Child Abuse Story From Anonymous for Mother  I am not abused, and I have never been. I'm actually not sure if I am allowed to post this about someone else. However, my mother was terribly abused as ...

You Provide Helpful Comments  I just wanted to say how helpful your comments are. I read many of the child abuse stories and am trying to get better myself as well...your comments are ...

This Site: A Place to Connect with Other Child Abuse Survivors  I was doing research on the effects of child abuse and stumbled on your site, Darlene. I find your site is very well organized, and helps give those of ...

Shaken Up by the Reality of Child Abuse  I have perused your site and am moved by the monumental support you offer to those who visit.

The reason I initially visited your site was for research ...

Thank you!  I've been researching sites on abuse in childhood, as I want to make this my dissertation. Yours has been comprehensive, open and enlightened. Here we ...

Effects of Witnessing Child Abuse  Shh...  I've written about this before, but I feel like I need to get it out of the way again, because I still see these people at random times....

A Child Abuse Poem: Daddy's Little Girl  I hope it is OK to post a poem here.

As she swings higher and higher
She thought to herself, this is what little girls do
But she did not feel like ...

When Child Abuse Victims Become Bullies  Note from Darlene:  Generally, I do not post bullying stories, because bullying does not fall under the realm of child abuse. Some would disagree ...

My Daughter was Sexually Abused   What do you do when you have no knowledge of sexual abuse? What do you do when you feel that people aren't there to help you and direct you in life? What ...

PLEASE Help Stop Child Abuse  I am an 11-year-old girl with something to say:  Even though I haven't been abused, I know how it feels. It is a horrible thing to be done to innocent ...

Aware of Physical Child Abuse and Neglect  I was abused as a child by my adoptive parents. I am now 22 and have a life. I know a girl who is the same age as me and has 3 kids and no education. She ...

My Little Cousin is Abused  I am 16 years old and my two-year-old cousin is my life. I babysit him all the time and honestly feel like he is my own child. I would do anything for ...

Sexual Abuse Effects From Sarah  I can't believe what I did!  My parents brought me to the hospital yesterday because I threatened suicide. My father brought me to the hospital ...

Child Abuse: I Have a Say Too  I am not a parent. I am only 12 years old, but I think that I should have a say in child abuse. I think kids are cute. But what parents do is cruel. I ...

Child Abuse: Jesus Can Help  Child abuse is horrible.

Absolutely horrible.

Reply from Darlene: Mike, you did not say whether or not you yourself are a survivor of child abuse....

Female Sex Offender Additions  Bravo for your recent additions vis-a-vis female sex offenders.

Reply from Darlene: While I thank you for the accolades, the page you are referring ...

How should I have dealt with witnessing child abuse?  Today, I was shopping with my baby at my local grocery store, when I saw a father whack his daughter--about 6 or 7--over the head for stepping away from ...

Past Child Abuse Affects My Marriage Today  I am 53 years old and still suffer from childhood trauma from my parents. Although my and wife I are totally in love and care deeply for each other, I ...

A Safe Environment for Child Abuse Survivors to Post Their Stories  Darlene, thank you for this site. I've suffered from emotional abuse at the hands of family members since I was 6 years old, and am slowly working my way ...

Child Abuse 60 years ago  I was 3 months old when I was abused. I am now 60 and still do not know the truth. I was abused violently and was in the Children's Hospital in Boston ...

Child Molestation/Rape is a Vicious Cycle...REPORT to POLICE!  Child Abuse is a vicious cycle of repeated events!!! Isn't it ironic? when I was a teenager, my father—leading insurance agent for 25 years, musician ...

At This Age the Child's Mind Still Recalls  Darlene, first let me say thank you for this all-inclusive website.

What brought me to you was research on sexual abuse for a blog I will write, but ...

Violence is Not the Answer to Child Abuse or Bullying  I would like to thank you personally Darlene, for taking the time to respond to my post (see Pamela's story on this site) and for getting back to me ...

My Friend Endures Child Abuse  It all started when my friend was 4 and her mom started going out with her brother's dad. He would physically and emotionally abuse her mama. When she ...

My ex girlfriend's abuse needs to be heard  I dated this girl for a month. In that month, it was horrifying. I dumped her because her mother and sister were so manipulative. They were the nicest ...

Child Abuse Is Wrong  My point of view for child abuse is that I think that it should be stopped for good. Not only is it the parents' fault for hitting their child, but at ...

My Cousin  When my cousin was younger, her mom used to hit her for no reason. I asked my cousin one day why her mom hits her. She told me that whenever her mother ...

A New Beginning  Just one! One voice speaks and one person listens. So many years went by and not one. Then it happened...millions, millions and still counting.

I always ...

Thank you so much for this site  Thank you so much for this site. I'm researching a middle grade book. So many abuse victims need to be heard. You offer them the chance to shout.

I'...

Positively affected by books on child abuse  My Hero...Dave Pelzer  I just read a book called "A Child Called 'It'" by Dave Pelzer. It made me mad, because as a little kid, Dave used to be ...

A thank you from P  Darlene, I want to thank you for the support you have given me. Since you reached out to me, as I think of those beatings my mother 'saved' for me, the ...

Emotional Abuse Definition on Your Site  I noticed the definition of emotional abuse on your site is limited to an adult abusing a child. I came to your site while researching emotional abuse ...

Friends are witnesses who can help stop child abuse  The abused have to leave the abuser in order to stop being abused. The abused are controlled, manipulated, and afraid that no one will believe them. I ...

Targeted Child Abuse  I was the middle child of four children. Both my parents were present in the home. I had an older brother, an older sister, and a younger sister. All of ...

Is Your Child Really Safe at School?  What is a parent supposed to do when you send your child to school and then find out later the school will release your child to anybody that walks up ...

My Friend's Story of Healing  Reading all of these stories makes me cry. How to get rid of child abuse when you are being abused? Talk to a counselor and/or call the police. I know ...

OH REALLY?  I HAVE BEEN THROUGH MORE THAN YOU CAN YOU CAN POSSIBLY IMAGINE! FOR YOU TO DISCREDIT BRANDY SHIRLEY IS AN INSULT TO ME,SHE HAS BEEN MY THERAPIST FOR THE ...

Arrested for Child Abuse  I was arrested for child abuse. I was sitting in my house, taking care of my 8-week-old baby when I noticed a truck full of kids pull up in front of my ...

Child Abuse in a Foreign Country  The abuse didn't happen to me. It happened to someone that I loved very much.

I was working in a foreign country, and became involved with someone who ...

My mother went through child abuse  My mom was beaten up by her mom and she was told she was worthless and all of that stuff. She was dragged up the stairs by her hair and her head was slammed ...

Adoption saved my newborn from abusive father  I wasn't really ever abused as a child, but I was as an adult. I was in a very abusive relationship with my now ex-boyfriend for almost 5 years. We started ...

Incest runs rampant in my family  I come from a sexual child abuse family. None of it ever happened to me, but my brothers and sisters got it. My father would beat and sexually abuse my ...

My best friend is an amazing person  My best friend was physically and sexually abused growing up. We were best friends, and still it was hard for her to tell, me even after it all was done....

Response to my abuser  I was molested from the age of 10 to about 16. It was continuous, and after a while, it became part of my life. Until recently, I had suppressed all my ...

Freud and the Edipal Complex  Just read the history section. Great bibliography. Have you ever read a book by Jeffrey Mason about his experience in the Freud archives? I can't recall ...

Child Abuse is Dangerous!  People need to know how dangerous child abuse really is. Almost every day some child has died because one of their family members has killed them. The ...

I Wouldn't Know What to Do!  I am 16 years old. I have read about the stories that I think are awful...I am doing a presentation at school about it. If it happened to me, I wouldn'...

My Mother is a Child Abuse Survivor  I found out that from the age of six years old, when her father left, that my mother was raped and abused by her stepfather. Not only did this man sexually ...

Interested in subject of child abuse  I am a teen girl. I am very interested in child abuse. And when I say that, I don't mean that I like the stories I read. But I've read so many books about ...

Not Being Heard  I am a woman of 58 who grew up on northern Canadian military bases. I was a child of 8 when I came to Canada with my parents and two sisters. At the age ...

Adults Must Properly Supervise Children  I was in elementary school, and there was a closed off space in the library. The closed off space was a pretend house that was made out of book cases. It ...

Abusers' Accountability?  I've posted before about my situation. My mother targeted me to unload all her resentments from an early age. She was a bitter, miserable woman in a difficult ...

Words of Courage  I got molested once when I was 5. I never told anyone, but I don't talk to him anymore. I just want to say a couple of words or sentences, and hopefully ...

Helping My Friend  I volunteer at an advocacy center, so I see some children every day. I don't talk to them because I am a minor. But one of my friends gets hit by her dad ...

The Torment Has to Stop  Well I finally did it! The story, as most are, is too complex for here. But I finally called the police to see about charging both persons who treated ...

Forgotten Father  I'm a father of one, a beautiful 2 1/2-year-old boy, whom due to the flawed legal system in Nova Scotia, only sees his father 8 hours per week. Without ...

You Finally Killed Me!  I just wrote this poem, and though it's not true, I wrote it because I want you to know I feel what people feel.

She's laying here crying
Does her ...

How Wrong, How Disgusting  I am a 17-year-old student still attending high school, and I am doing a research project on child abuse. I have just finished reading the book, A Child ...

I Witnessed Child Abuse in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot  This is not my story, but that of a small boy that I personally witnessed and subsequently reported to the state police!

On the 15th day of November ...

Abusive and Tactless Comments on This Site  This commentary comes off the heels of highly insensitive comments written yesterday, November 9th, by someone using the handle of Anonymous under the ...

My Daughter  I have a daughter that told me, when she was 3, that her dad taught her to do a strip tease dance and put his peepee in her, and then she also said that ...

Not Really Real  I quit being a real person when I was 5 years old. I remember it. I started pretending I was a cartoon and nothing hurt me, like the coyote on Roadrunner;...

Can My Son Charge His Offender Years After The Abuse?  I have a question that you might be able to answer for me. If a teenager was sexually molested as a child, but hasn't told anyone until they are teenagers,...

He Took So Much  I often wonder what type of person I would be if I was never raped or molested. If I would be one of those girls I see from high school driving nice cars ...

When BOTH Parents Sexually Abuse Their Child  There was a woman who lived next door to me years ago in a different neighborhood than where I live now, and she told me that her son hadn't spoken with ...

Sexual Abuse or Not?  I don't know how long ago my abuse started with my cousin, and it stopped about a year before she moved to . . . somewhere . I love my cousin dearly, and ...

Targeting a Specific Child for Abuse  I would like your thoughts on a parent targeting a specific child. I haven't found much information about that. I'm sure it is more common that people ...

Recent "Allegations" of Child Abuse   I am the mother of two young boys. I cannot disclose more than that as this is currently going through the legal process and I don't want to jeopardize ...

Life of Changes: When No One Reports Child Abuse  On June 08th 1996 a mom gave birth to a baby boy. The parents were so happy that after a long time marriage they finally had a baby boy. They have gone ...

My Friend  My friend was so scared she came to me. She told me her stepdad hits her. Then her grandma threatens to hit her. She told her dad. "Do you want me to do ...

I witnessed child abuse  I once seen a mother batter a little 3-year-old and bruised her. The mother used to ciggie burn her little kid.

Reply from Darlene: Whenever you witness ...

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