Child Abuse Commentary

I've created this child abuse commentary page to fill a niche that has developed with visitors to my site. I've been receiving article submissions through my child abuse page that has made me recognize the need to generate another forum for people to express themselves.

Are you a parent, guardian or child care worker with inside or personal knowledge about child abuse or the system?

Do you want to share information about a personal child abuse court case, court ruling or other experience that you are aware of?

Tired of not being listened to? Of not getting your point across?

Now is your chance to have your say. Share your unique point of view!

PLEASE NOTE: This page is intended to provide an outlet for people with personal knowledge of child abuse or the system. It is not intended as an advice column. I cannot offer advice on specific cases.

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You're probably not alone--your personal experience could resonate with other readers on this site. Share your child abuse commentary with them.

Check out the child abuse commentaries on this page...

A Safe Environment for Child Abuse Survivors to Post Their Stories  Darlene, thank you for this site. I've suffered from emotional abuse at the hands of family members since I was 6 years old, and am slowly working my way ...

Child Abuse 60 years ago  I was 3 months old when I was abused. I am now 60 and still do not know the truth. I was abused violently and was in the Children's Hospital in Boston ...

Child Molestation/Rape is a Vicious Cycle...REPORT to POLICE!  Child Abuse is a vicious cycle of repeated events!!! Isn't it ironic? when I was a teenager, my father—leading insurance agent for 25 years, musician ...

At This Age the Child's Mind Still Recalls  Darlene, first let me say thank you for this all-inclusive website.

What brought me to you was research on sexual abuse for a blog I will write, but ...

Violence is Not the Answer to Child Abuse or Bullying  I would like to thank you personally Darlene, for taking the time to respond to my post (see Pamela's story on this site) and for getting back to me ...

My Friend Endures Child Abuse  It all started when my friend was 4 and her mom started going out with her brother's dad. He would physically and emotionally abuse her mama. When she ...

My ex girlfriend's abuse needs to be heard  I dated this girl for a month. In that month, it was horrifying. I dumped her because her mother and sister were so manipulative. They were the nicest ...

Child Abuse Is Wrong  My point of view for child abuse is that I think that it should be stopped for good. Not only is it the parents' fault for hitting their child, but at ...

My Cousin  When my cousin was younger, her mom used to hit her for no reason. I asked my cousin one day why her mom hits her. She told me that whenever her mother ...

A New Beginning  Just one! One voice speaks and one person listens. So many years went by and not one. Then it happened...millions, millions and still counting.

I always ...

Thank you so much for this site  Thank you so much for this site. I'm researching a middle grade book. So many abuse victims need to be heard. You offer them the chance to shout.

I'...

Positively affected by books on child abuse  My Hero...Dave Pelzer  I just read a book called "A Child Called 'It'" by Dave Pelzer. It made me mad, because as a little kid, Dave used to be ...

A thank you from P  Darlene, I want to thank you for the support you have given me. Since you reached out to me, as I think of those beatings my mother 'saved' for me, the ...

Emotional Abuse Definition on Your Site  I noticed the definition of emotional abuse on your site is limited to an adult abusing a child. I came to your site while researching emotional abuse ...

Mother of abused son: Shannon  I left my now ex-husband after seeing him hit our 18-month-old son with a screwdriver in the head repeatedly. The custody battle is still going strong,...

Friends are witnesses who can help stop child abuse  The abused have to leave the abuser in order to stop being abused. The abused are controlled, manipulated, and afraid that no one will believe them. I ...

Targeted Child Abuse  I was the middle child of four children. Both my parents were present in the home. I had an older brother, an older sister, and a younger sister. All of ...

Is Your Child Really Safe at School?  What is a parent supposed to do when you send your child to school and then find out later the school will release your child to anybody that walks up ...

My Friend's Story of Healing  Reading all of these stories makes me cry. How to get rid of child abuse when you are being abused? Talk to a counselor and/or call the police. I know ...

The Real DFS  My 2-year-old cousin, Cheyenne, visited her father every Thursday and Tuesday from 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM. We (meaning my family and I) had no problem with ...

OH REALLY?  I HAVE BEEN THROUGH MORE THAN YOU CAN YOU CAN POSSIBLY IMAGINE! FOR YOU TO DISCREDIT BRANDY SHIRLEY IS AN INSULT TO ME,SHE HAS BEEN MY THERAPIST FOR THE ...

My ex has tried to kill my daughter; the system does nothing  I have a 1 ½-year-old baby girl. When my ex was pregnant with her, she told me she wanted to kill my daughter. I thought nothing of it at that time, but ...

Arrested for Child Abuse  I was arrested for child abuse. I was sitting in my house, taking care of my 8-week-old baby when I noticed a truck full of kids pull up in front of my ...

Child Abuse in a Foreign Country  The abuse didn't happen to me. It happened to someone that I loved very much.

I was working in a foreign country, and became involved with someone who ...

My mother went through child abuse  My mom was beaten up by her mom and she was told she was worthless and all of that stuff. She was dragged up the stairs by her hair and her head was slammed ...

Adoption saved my newborn from abusive father  I wasn't really ever abused as a child, but I was as an adult. I was in a very abusive relationship with my now ex-boyfriend for almost 5 years. We started ...

Incest runs rampant in my family  I come from a sexual child abuse family. None of it ever happened to me, but my brothers and sisters got it. My father would beat and sexually abuse my ...

My best friend is an amazing person  My best friend was physically and sexually abused growing up. We were best friends, and still it was hard for her to tell, me even after it all was done....

Response to my abuser  I was molested from the age of 10 to about 16. It was continuous, and after a while, it became part of my life. Until recently, I had suppressed all my ...

Freud and the Edipal Complex  Just read the history section. Great bibliography. Have you ever read a book by Jeffrey Mason about his experience in the Freud archives? I can't recall ...

Child Abuse is Dangerous!  People need to know how dangerous child abuse really is. Almost every day some child has died because one of their family members has killed them. The ...

I Wouldn't Know What to Do!  I am 16 years old. I have read about the stories that I think are awful...I am doing a presentation at school about it. If it happened to me, I wouldn'...

My Mother is a Child Abuse Survivor  I found out that from the age of six years old, when her father left, that my mother was raped and abused by her stepfather. Not only did this man sexually ...

Interested in subject of child abuse  I am a teen girl. I am very interested in child abuse. And when I say that, I don't mean that I like the stories I read. But I've read so many books about ...

Not Being Heard  I am a woman of 58 who grew up on northern Canadian military bases. I was a child of 8 when I came to Canada with my parents and two sisters. At the age ...

Adults Must Properly Supervise Children  I was in elementary school, and there was a closed off space in the library. The closed off space was a pretend house that was made out of book cases. It ...

My Grandson is Being Abused  I've had custody of my grandson since birth. His mother was careless. She dropped him on his head, left him in the bath tub, left him unattended on the ...

Abusers' Accountability?  I've posted before about my situation. My mother targeted me to unload all her resentments from an early age. She was a bitter, miserable woman in a difficult ...

Words of Courage  I got molested once when I was 5. I never told anyone, but I don't talk to him anymore. I just want to say a couple of words or sentences, and hopefully ...

Helping My Friend  I volunteer at an advocacy center, so I see some children every day. I don't talk to them because I am a minor. But one of my friends gets hit by her dad ...

The Torment Has to Stop  Well I finally did it! The story, as most are, is too complex for here. But I finally called the police to see about charging both persons who treated ...

WJO - My Now Deceased Son   When I was five years old I was put in a foster home, and was beaten with everything you could think of. I was there from the age five to the age twelve....

Forgotten Father  I'm a father of one, a beautiful 2 1/2-year-old boy, whom due to the flawed legal system in Nova Scotia, only sees his father 8 hours per week. Without ...

You Finally Killed Me!  I just wrote this poem, and though it's not true, I wrote it because I want you to know I feel what people feel.

She's laying here crying
Does her ...

How Wrong, How Disgusting  I am a 17-year-old student still attending high school, and I am doing a research project on child abuse. I have just finished reading the book, A Child ...

I Witnessed Child Abuse in a Wal-Mart Parking Lot  This is not my story, but that of a small boy that I personally witnessed and subsequently reported to the state police!

On the 15th day of November ...

Abusive and Tactless Comments on This Site  This commentary comes off the heels of highly insensitive comments written yesterday, November 9th, by someone using the handle of Anonymous under the ...

My Daughter  I have a daughter that told me, when she was 3, that her dad taught her to do a strip tease dance and put his peepee in her, and then she also said that ...

Not Really Real  I quit being a real person when I was 5 years old. I remember it. I started pretending I was a cartoon and nothing hurt me, like the coyote on Roadrunner;...

Abusers Get No Sentence, Victims Get Life Sentence  32 years later and 7 years of abuse, and now I am left unsatisfied. My abuser died before being taken to court. I didn't have that satisfaction of a guilty ...

Can My Son Charge His Offender Years After The Abuse?  I have a question that you might be able to answer for me. If a teenager was sexually molested as a child, but hasn't told anyone until they are teenagers,...

He Took So Much  I often wonder what type of person I would be if I was never raped or molested. If I would be one of those girls I see from high school driving nice cars ...

When BOTH Parents Sexually Abuse Their Child  There was a woman who lived next door to me years ago in a different neighborhood than where I live now, and she told me that her son hadn't spoken with ...

Sexual Abuse or Not?  I don't know how long ago my abuse started with my cousin, and it stopped about a year before she moved to . . . somewhere . I love my cousin dearly, and ...

Targeting a Specific Child for Abuse  I would like your thoughts on a parent targeting a specific child. I haven't found much information about that. I'm sure it is more common that people ...

Recent "Allegations" of Child Abuse   I am the mother of two young boys. I cannot disclose more than that as this is currently going through the legal process and I don't want to jeopardize ...

Social Services Are Not Always to be Trusted  I must say that I am disgraced at the way in which child abuse cases are treated here within the UK.

I, for the last couple of years, have watched two ...

Life of Changes: When No One Reports Child Abuse  On June 08th 1996 a mom gave birth to a baby boy. The parents were so happy that after a long time marriage they finally had a baby boy. They have gone ...

Court Sanctioned Child Abuse  I've just spent the past half hour reading through stories, etc., and I didn't notice any mention of the Family Court. I'm in Australia and from what I'...

Backlogged System  It angers me to no end that child abuse charges have taken so long... My children and I reported the abuse in mid May and no charges have been brought ...

My Friend  My friend was so scared she came to me. She told me her stepdad hits her. Then her grandma threatens to hit her. She told her dad. "Do you want me to do ...

I witnessed child abuse  I once seen a mother batter a little 3-year-old and bruised her. The mother used to ciggie burn her little kid.

Reply from Darlene: Whenever you witness ...

This page was updated with a new posting July 11, 2008