My Daughter's Child Abuse

by Robin
(California, USA)

My daughter is now 2 years old and her father was her abuser. Was mine too, but that is a different story. He started sexually abusing my daughter when she was just a few months old. This went on off and on the whole time I lived with him. I tried to prevent and stop him from doing these horrible things to her. I prevented him from changing her diaper and from bathing her. He still did other things to her such as running his finger up and down her butt crack, dry humping her fully clothed, etc. DCFS became involved after he broke up with me. I had taken my daughter and fled to my parents home, but DCFS took me away from my daughter for 2 months. The investigation was supposed to be of my ex, not of me. Yet, my ex wrapped DCFS around his little finger and told them I had neglected her which is untrue and unfounded. I have witnesses to this. This whole time he's been under professional monitoring (I was also under this for the 2 horrible months I was away from my daughter.) Now my ex has been granted a monitor in his own living room and he can diaper and potty train her. He gets sexually excited watching pee and poop come out of females. I know this personally. Plus, the current monitor could barely keep him under control. She has been trying to be listened to by the lawyers and the 730 evaluator. She says that he shouldn't even be allowed near his daughter. I agree. The Commissioner went against California state laws. The law says that anyone who has allegations against them of sexual abuse can not change diapers, etc. Can anyone help us? I don't want to lose my daughter over this. This man should be in prison. If this were New York he would already be in prison.

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Jun 17, 2010
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I can only imagine what you are now going through. But other than say consider escalating your case with your state governor and/or state legislator or senate representative, I can only provide space for you to share what is happening with your daughter and the system. Perhaps one of my visitors can offer more information. As for the inclusion of full names, liability issues do not permit me to print the full name of your daughter's abuser. And I have a strict policy of not permitting email addresses on my site; this is to ensure the safety of all my visitors is maintained. I thank you for your understanding, and for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I do hope someone in the system will step up for the sake of your daughter.

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