Relationship Violence Stories
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I created this relationship violence stories page for people who would like to share their dating violence experiences. Write them and I'll publish them.

  • Perhaps you've never before disclosed what happened to you.
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  • Or perhaps you're concerned someone will say something inappropriate.

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What is relationship violence?

Relationship (or dating) violence is defined as the emotional, physical and/or sexual assault of one partner by the other in a dating relationship where the couple is not living together. Couples include:

  • Male/Female
  • Female/Female
  • Male/Male

Some dating violence statistics:

  • Almost 4 of every 10 females and 1 of every 3 males report being violent at some point in their dating careers.
  • More than 1/4 of victims and 3 of 10 offenders see violence in a dating relationship as a sign of love.
  • The average age of the first violent relationship experience is 15 years.
  • In Canada, 1 woman every 6 minutes is sexually assaulted.
  • 30% of female murder victims are killed by their intimate partners.


Are you a survivor of dating violence?

Has your dating partner ever assaulted you:

        •  physically
        •  sexually
        •  emotionally

Have you been too afraid to speak up about the abuse you've suffered through at the hands of your partner?

Have you been told that the abuse you suffered through "was your fault?" It WASN'T your fault!

If you've answered 'yes' to any of the above questions, this is the place to tell your story. Telling what happened to you could help someone else in the same situation, or even better, it could stop someone from getting into the same situation!

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Assaulted in School 
My story if definitely not as bad as so many people but reading everyone else's stories really helped me so I think I should share mine too :) I am …

Extremely Controlling Boyfriend 
It's taken me a while to come out and tell my story. But I feel like it's the right thing to do, as I want to help people before it's too late :) 2 …

Lost And Useless 
Well I fell In love with this guy when I was 15 almost 16 and I ran away with him and I got pregnant and he was a really good guy and he told me he would …

Cornered and Punched 
Well every day since I lived with him then I would say everyday, I wanted to leave him because he terrorist destroying girlfriend's relationship with their …

No Longer a Victim 
I am a victim of all three types of abuse. It all started just over a year ago. On May 4th 2013 I met B--. I still regret going to meet him that day. When …

No Way Out 
Im lindsey.. I've been in abusive relationships my entire life. It started with my stepfather when I was 5 or 6, I can't actually remember. At the time …

Scared to Disclose 
I've posted on your site in the past, Darlene, regarding abusive and controlling relationships within my family. At the time of doing this, it was really …

Staying with an Abuser 
Im a 39yr old female and was living with an abusive man for 5yrs. I stayed in this relationship because i thought that the man loved me but i was wrong. …

Relationship Violence Story From Lakea 
I started dating this guy when i was 17 this was my first time having a boyfriend well he was dating this girl was friends with at my table me and him …

Relationship Violence Story From Alexis 
I'm 20 years old I recently ended my relationship 3 months ago with my ex-boyfriend of nearly 2 years I met him from one of my guy friends from senior …

Relationship Violence Story From LJ 
It all started when I met someone I believed to be the best thing that ever happened to me. His name is J---. We started dating. It was never a normal …

Relationship Violence Story From Ambryn 
D-- has been beating me for years and years. We live together but we aren't married. My family does'nt want anything to do with me. I don't have a phone, …

Relationship Violence Story From Byron Part 3 
This is my third time writing on this site about the same problem. Me and my bf have been together for 3 1/2 going on 4, yes I'm a bisexual male. Well …

Relationship Violence Story From RZ  
I was in a unhealthy relationship it started when I was 12. I was dating my best friends older brother. It started off at a good start I thought until …

Relationship Violence Story From Frances 
You think you know someone:  It was August 2009. I was in a good place in my life. Me and my then 6 yr old daughter were great. Then I met …

Relationship Violence Story From Fading 
The father of my child endured horrible abuse from both his parents. I have tried so hard to help him get past the hurt, shame and hate. But he is so angry …

Relationship Violence Story From Melissa 
When I met A--, everything seemed picture perfect. We met through mutual friends, deciding to date as our "love" grew. Quickly in our relationship, he …

Relationship Violence Story From Sylvia 
NOBODY SEEMS TO CARE ABOUT MY SON AND ME:  In 2003 I began dating a guy for a year, he left me for another woman that he met while in college …

Relationship Violence Story From Jasmine 
I'm really nervous about writing this but I have to get it off my chest. I've been in and out of abusive relationships my whole life and shortly after …

Relationship Violence Story From Dylan 
When I was 16 I moved into a flat hours away from my hometown. I got a job and became really close with my manager. One day he told me he needed a place …

Relationship Violence Story From Emily For my Sister Lucy 
Life is too short:  I have a sister Lucy that had been abused badly by the ex-boyfriend! It killed me to hear my sister cry due to the abuse! …

Relationship Violence Story From Nicole 
Im 20, i really dont do this but I'm.... kind of forgotten who i was. I hope no one ever has to go through this.... I've been with this guy for 3years, …

Relationship Violence Story From Jan 
My childhood sexual and all-entailing physical/sexual abuse during my teen years that I thought would end when I finally moved from my mother's home after …

Relationship Violence Story From Father of Two Daughters 
New Boyfriends:  Im a father of 2 girls. they are now 22 and 25. my older daughter had been with a man for 6 years and had 4 children. she …

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Relationship Violence Story From Tiger 
I have had six-year relationship with a very manipulative and scary guy i dont uderstand why i stay i just do. but heres what hes done to me. Hes thrown …

Relationship Violence Story From Rachel  
Story of Abuse and Assault:  When I was 14, I was physically abused by my first boyfriend I had ever had. He loved to use me as his punching …

Relationship Violence Story From Melissa  
I am glad I split up with such a violent person:  Basically I met a lad over Facebook and we started talking almost everyday we arranged to …

Relationship Violence Story From Autumn 
WARNING: Graphic depiction of a sexual assault:  i'm 15 and a sophomore in high school. i was raped last month by my 17 year old boyfriend, …

Relationship Violence Story From Alexis 
I am 18 years old and I have recently ended my seven month relationship with my ex boyfriend. Everything was going perfectly, but what I did notice was …

Relationship Violence Story From Anon 
I was abused as a child by my mum, when my dad left us. I think she blamed me for the fact that she never achieved anything in life and I held her back. …

Relationship Violence Story From Shanelle 
I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months. I live with him in our own house. Im going to give some background information to maybe why we …

Relationship Violence Story From Erika 
I'm 27 and about 3wks ago I ended a 3 yr relationship with the father or my 16 month old daughter (he is 24). 2 yrs of our relationship consisted of lies, …

Relationship Violence Story From Hannah B 
I am 13 years old a couple of months ago I was sexually assaulted by my ex boyfriend age 14. ( I was going out with him at the time) he held me down. Forced …

Relationship Violence Story From Vesper 
Never knowing happiness:  I don't know when it started. or how it happened. sometimes i wonder whether i let this happen to me. but one thing …

Relationship Violence Story From Amy 
When i first met my ex boyfriend J---, I thought everything was great. He did everything to make me happy and make me feel great about myself. It was like …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed 
Hopeless but strong:  I am 14 and just ended 8th grade. I have been freinds with this guy since the end of 6th grade. we became best friends. …

Relationship Violence Story From Tabby 
I was 13 and he was 15. I was texting my friend L-- he wanted me to meet up with him at so at 12 am I sneaked out and ran to. I could see his blonde brown …

Relationship Violence Story From Brittany  
i am still dealing with my abusive problem... i was sixteen when i met my boyfriend. at first it was all love.. but it soon got bad. i convinced my mom …

Relationship Violence Story From Cateyes 
Mr Right...  It all started in 3/10 I met this man in the emergency room we both were sick that day. we exchanged numbers and then we were …

Relationship Violence Story From Marie 
Well me and my bf have been dating almost 6 months. The abuse started a couple of months ago. I've herd from people a befor we even started that he was …

Relationship Violence Story From Erin 
I started dating this guy when I was 19 years old. At first things were great, he was nice, kind, and always around. He would come over all the time, …

Relationship Violence Story From Cassie 
I was raped:  One day my boyfriend wanted me to go out to meet his family and then i ended up staying the night at his friends house well we …

Relationship Violence Story From Audri 
I was a freshman in High School (my big year) We were in the crowded hallway in school, then i felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around to see who it …

Relationship Violence Story From Haley 
This is the first time I have ever really talked about it but it still leaves fresh images in my mind. He was perfect, sweet, nice, handsome. He was everything …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undislcosed 
What did I do?  Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. he was really nice and good at first. but about 4 months into …

Relationship Violence Story From Niesha 
I was 13 and was in this relationship with my first love. I gave this person 2 years and 6 months of my life and all through the relationship he beat on …

Relationship Violence Story From Melissa 
I am in a relaionship with a man who can stay angry for weeks, isolating himself from our bedroom,and any other form of contact when we had an argument, …

Relationship Violence Story From Alex 
With its hard to know where to begin. There's a lot I can say, but it all makes me too upset and disgusted at myself. I am a 14 year old boy. And I guess …

Relationship Violence Story From Andy 
WARNING: GRAPHIC DEPICTION OF SEVERE VIOLENCE:  I'm 22 and this happened to me when i was 20 i hope people read my story and dont stick with …

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Relationship Violence Story From Nallely 
Even as i speak im still living with the horrors of my memory of what once was an abuse. It was physical and emotional. Sometimes i read other stories …

Relationship Violence Story From Byron 
Well my abuse started when I was about four im 16 now. My older brothers would molest me and I would think nothing of it such as they would touch me and …

Domestic Violence Story From Name Withheld 
Warning: The following story contains graphic violent and disturbing content:  I was at Gs house and then he hit me cause he said that I didn’t …

Relationship Violence Stories by Byron 
Abused by my boyfriends:  When I was around 13 I started to be attracted to other guys,but never told anyone because they would treat me different …

Relationship Violence Story From Kristine 
We've been together with my ex for almost a year the first 3months of our relationship it felt like it was perfect. Were living in together I’m happy and …

Relationship Violence Story From Alicia 
We dated for a total of a year and a half. When we met we we're both going in the same direction - no where - and we got drunk and he always smoked weed. …

Relationship Violence Story From Lyric W 
in january of 2010 i was raped by my so called boyfriend. we were both 13. i dated him because he was the cousin of my dad's girlfriend, she made me date …

Relationship Violence Story From Kiley 
"Who are you to judge me? Who are you to say im ugly, worthless & a whore? Not even 5 months ago I was your baby, your princess, your everything. What's …

Relationship Violence Story From Momo 
Im 15 years old and Ive been tlkn with T who is 19 ive only known the boy for about two weeks and he is already talking down on me calling me everyname …

Relationship Violence Story From Amanda D 
I started being abused when I was 17. It all started when I met this guy in the summer of 2009 my friend gave him my number. So I started texted him one …

Relationship Violence Story From Anonymous 
When I was 17 I had my first girlfriend. I was very much in love with her, but she had a lot more experience with both sex and relationships than I did. …

Relationship Violence Story From Alanna 
Im 15 years old, i uste to have a boyfriend that abused me and left so many bruises and i was to scared to get out of the relation ship, and i hid the …

Relationship Violence Story From Danelle 
Sadly, this is a huge problem that I am still dealing with. I met my boyfriend last year, in January. We both liked partying so I think thats kind of …

Relationship Violence Story From Lucy 
Worst 4 years of my life:  This happened about 2 years ago now, but ive never really spoken about it properly and feel i need to get it out …

Relationship Violence Story From Laurie 
My story is definitely not the worst:  You have anger problems. You explained that back while I was judging you, and I accepted it. I was stupid …

Relationship Violence Story From Ne' 
Scarred:  Abused by another teen from the age of 14 to 19, which includes Order of Protections No arrest and eventually broken bones. The other …

Relationship Violence Story From Jordan S 
When I first saw JC, I thought he was so cute and I would try to do anything to get his attention. Eventually, it worked and he started noticing me. At …

Relationship Violence Story From Violet 
i have never hated anyone as much as i hate him. we hadnt been together that long (6 months) but im young (21) and i thought we were in love. we were both …

Relationship Violence Story From Lynne 
Relationship Violence Story with a Happy Ending:  It was prom and i was super excited to be going with my boyfriend. The entire day and night …

Acquaintance Rape Story From Chelsea 
When I was 18 I was in a bar partying with friends nd was dancing with this guy i met...i dont know his name to this day.....I started feeling really wierd …

Relationship Violence Story From Stephanie S 
We first saw each other at a party he new my cuzin that was living with us so he visited him thats when we started talking then we started dating he was …

Relationship Violence Story From SC 
Young love and a baby:  It was love at first sight when I first met his eyes. We worked together at the time after I quit my job I ended up …

Relationship Violence Story From MJ 
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. The first year and a half we had a good relationship even though after 8 months of dating him i found out …

Relationship Violence Story From Nelly 
The scars will never heal - this is my painful story:  It happened when i met the "love of my life". his name i wont say but ill call him "IT". …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed 
Emotionally Lost:  Where do u go frm here the deginning of 2003 I met someone named c I was just getting out of a relationship and I felt he …

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Relationship Violence Story From Molly 
I'm 18 years old and when i was 15, i met my boyfriend, A. He was the best boyfriend anyone could ever have and i wanted to be with him forever, at first... …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed 
I am now 18 and it happened 2 or 3 years ago. I started going out with this guy who was 2 years older than me. He'd buy me things and was very sweet and …

Relationship Violence Story From Kate 
His name was J a womens fashion magazine editor. Met him on FB he was writing me messages for like a year. I thought it was spam so I never replied but …

Relationship Violence Story From Ms Anonymous Part 2 
Continued from Part 1:  I've spent 9 out of 10 nights in tears - crying myself to sleep. I've been miserable in the past few years, and the …

Relationship Violence Story From Caroline 
The Worst Night Of My Life:  This night still haunts me now, it's been months but nothing really dulls the pain. I have a best friend, and …

Relationship Violence Story from Ms Anonymous Part 1 
I didn't know yet, under what circumstances did the jerk marry me, but I married him for good looks. (Yeah, I was shallow once upon a time). I just thought …

Dating Violence Story From Amy 
About 3 years ago i met this guy named C. At the time, i was already in a relationship, but after a few months of talking to C, i decided I'd rather be …

Relationship Violence Story From Kaitlin 
I am 16 years old and i know i am kinda young but i was in a realtionship about 6months ago and i didnt really know what was going on until someone actually …

Relationship Violence Story From Tally 
This story is not mine but my best friend E's. The reason im on here is i need to know if im right in thinking her boyfriend is abusive and what i should …

Relationship Violence Story From Michelle 
I never thought in a million years that I would be in an abusive relationship EVER. I had great friends, grades, family and a life until I met him, A. …

Relationship Violence Story From Katie 
I'm 15 years old, dating a 16 year old. Ive been dating him since June, 08. At first it was perfect, like a fairytale. My family loved him, his family …

Relationship Violence Story From Kylia 
I met him when I was 13. I wasn't attracted to him, but going through a really tough time with depression, suicide and cutting, it wasn't long before I …

Relationship Violence Story From Laiba 
I was only 14 years old when I met the boy of my dreams. It was perfect we did everything together and it was nothing but love. I was a freshman and he …

Relationship Violence Story From Jarde 
Guys never loved me:  It all starts at 11 my first guy he use to treat me like dirt he loved but then he didnt i was the smallest out of all …

Relationship Violence Story From Porsha 
I had this boyfriend (of course) and before we dated, i was new to the school and i was kinda shy, and he was the first to introduce his self to me, i …

Relationship Violence Story From Bianca 
Baby Daddy:  Met him at the age of 13 he was 14 at the time, he was one of my serious relationship ; brang him into the family and i was brung …

Relationship Violence Story From Janet 
I met Jason when i was 19. We shared a few of the same classes in my college. It was my first day in transferred school. I didnt make an effort to know …

Relationship Violence Story From Icy Heart 
Julian was my first boyfriend...long distance boyfriend. I have had plenty before...but none like him. I met him at my dad's wedding and we hit it off. …

Relationship Violence Story From Rachel Z 
I am a 14 year old girl, and everyday i deal with abuse from my boyfriend. He would grab me from my neck and throw me across the room, he would also hit …

Relationship Violence Story from Trapped 
I started seeing my current boyfriend when I was 13. He was perfect to me, absolutely gorgeous, funny, popular, smart and also very rich. During the first …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed2 
Had me wrapped around his finger:  I was introduced to James on a family camping trip of my friend Emily's. He was her cousins best friend, …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed1 
He was perfect...  I met my boyfriend at work. I was 26, turning 27. Just getting over a five-year relationship with a really nice guy (which …

Relationship Violence Story From Lauren1 
My relationship at 16 started off great, everything in the world was right, and he was a great guy who treated me right. We hang out together whenever …

Relationship Violence Story From Malorie 
I had a boyfriend who took me out on a double date. He had been emotionally abusive, but when I finally was around a nice guy, I felt confident. I could …

Relationship Violence Story From Shayla 
I was 17 and in a relationship with a man who was 34. He was sweet to me and nice. At the time I was a runaway. I had nowhere to go and he offered me a …

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Relationship Violence Story From Annymonous 
It's not your Fault:  It was summer of 2007 and my mom was having a 40th birthday party at her house. A girl the same age of myself was friends …

Relationship Violence Story From Dimond 
Well me and my boyfriend has been together for about five years and throughout our relationship it was times when I don't do what my boyfriend says he …

Relationship Violence Story From Senia1 
He told me he loved me:  I will always remember the day he said "I love you." It felt like my world had become better. We were dating on and …

Relationship Violence Story From Kaylynn 
Kaylynn's Beating:  My boyfriend J. was the best boyfriend you could ever imagine. He was sweet and he would be great with my little brothers …

Relationship Violence Story From Sam1 
Psychological, Physical and Sexual:  I came across this site and I wanted to share my story. It's quite disturbing but what I want to say to …

Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed 
Still Suffering:  When I was in college I got with the wrong crowd, and that is where I got my first boyfriend. It was fine at first, then …

Relationship Violence Story From Helen 
When I was in my early 20s (I'm now in my 40s) I went from the UK to the US on a student exchange programme. I stayed in New York for a few months and …

Relationship Violence Story From Ashley 
I met him 3 years ago. We worked together. He was so helpful, sweet, loving, his smile lit up a room, and his eyes had me hypnotized. Since we worked together …

Relationship Violence Story From Taylor G 
My boyfriend and I had been dating for about one year and our relationship was not going very well. We were constantly arguing over simple things and always …

Relating to Relationship Violence Stories 
Just to let people know that my comments to relationship violence story contributors are sincere/genuine:  Sadly, I spent a good part of my …

Relationship Violence Story From Stephanie H 
It all started when I was 15 years old. I was a super shy girl. My brother was 21 years old at the time and he was having a birthday party where there …

Relationship Violence Story From Elizabeth K 
Physical and Emotional Violence of a Teenager:  I was usually outgoing and opinionated until I met this guy Derek. It was quick love. It was …

Relationship Violence Story From Crystal 
My boyfriend and me have been dating for a few days. At first it was fun, but now he won't allow me to do anything he does not approve of. I can't talk …

Relationship Violence Story From Bety 
I was with this guy for 2 years, and at first he was the most charming man in the world. Little by little he started acting jealous, and I interpreted …

Relationship Violence Story by Dania 
"At this point, you can say it has been years." His words echoed. His words froze time. There was no argument to justify the feelings. There is never …

Relationship Violence Story From Sara 
It started when I was 16. I had just lost my father to cancer and my boyfriend at the time seemed to be the only one there for me. How wrong was that! …

Relationship Violence Story From Kristy 
This is actually the first time I have written about this. I am 22 years old and married, but I'll get to that. When I was a senior in high school …

Relationship Violence Story From Nilsa 
This happened to me 2 years ago, and it still drives me crazy. I'm too ashamed to tell anyone. My girlfriend Emily is the only one who knows. After school …

Relationship Violence Story From Madeline 
Help...:  I'm 19. I was emotionally neglected/abused throughout childhood - I may have been slapped once or twice. I don't want to go into …

Relationship Violence Story From Lauren 
I've been with my boyfriend for two years. We met when I was 17. There were always signs, but at first I really loved him. Now I really don't. I now see …

Relationship Violence Story From Nikki 
I'm 17. My boyfriend of a year tells me I'm stupid. He calls me pathetic. He always seems to point out the negative things about me. Just today at school …

Relationship Violence Story From Nicole 
I'm 17 years old and I have made the mistake of getting engaged. My fiancee is close to 20, I thought he was my dream come true. Currently he has been …

relationship violence story from sam 
I am thirteen. A couple months ago, I had a boyfriend and I really loved him. Twice he made me run away from home. He said that it was because he loved …

An invitation from Elaine Riley 
Hi! I just thought I'd tell you that I have a "room" in the OpenSpace part of this site. I've told my own little story of relationship violence there, …

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