Relationship Violence Story From Jan

by Jan
(Maryland, USA)

My childhood sexual and all-entailing physical/sexual abuse during my teen years that I thought would end when I finally moved from my mother's home after high school graduation has continued until this day into my adult-hood with spousal abuse, child abuse of our children, extreme domestic and family violence with her (my mother) at the root of every situation due to her proclaimed vengeance against my father.

According to her own sister and rants from her as early as I can remember, she vowed vengeance against my now deceased father via his children because her mother wanted her to get her high school diploma instead of getting married to my father early like her peers while she was pregnant out-of-wedlock. My father ultimately married her when she was pregnant with her second child, me, but her bitterness was so deep-rooted that she has been a masochist, child abuser and family domestic terrorist for more than a half-century to date. The worst irony is that she is a retired nurse and people who could have helped in my childhood are confessing details now because the white-collar crimes have seeped into their households.

After victimizing me and my two siblings after birth throughout adulthood, her crimes have now included my four children and my four nieces. The motivation for the masochism and child-abuse started with a conspiracy to commit insurance fraud that has mushroomed into a wide-spread, white-collar crime ring of relatives who were involved in the initial plot. The family members involved includes Ministers, Masons and individuals in every career field of which the fraud takes place. This well-organized permeation of family criminals has made it virtually impossible for me to get help anywhere. I left my ex-husband with my 4, but with numerous sabotaging tactics, they have made my son and I victims of extreme social isolation and almost totally dependent on the abuser again. My son and I are living in my car now as a result of the extreme retaliation for trying to get help! And my mother assisted my sister's ex-husband in obtaining custody/guardianship of my sister's youngest daughter that is not his biological child. My sister and her 3 daughters suffered extreme physical and abuse via him before she left him.

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Mar 05, 2012
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

All I can do is suggest you contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser:

I send you and your children love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 06, 2012
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Jan, what a sick, sadistically insane, depraved, deluded mother that you had to beat and berate you and even hire a lot of thugs to join her in her sadistic crimes against dare she! She and her fellow criminals are helpless bullies who chose to use your youth and vulnerabilities as well as everyone else's for their sadistic gratification instead of simply helping themselves/seeking to change their dysfunctional ways of life. Don't try to help them; try helping yourself and your kids instead; it's up to them to want help. They're really acting like little 1-year-olds trapped in grown-up bodies because they're trapped their terrible twos. Oh, and including her grandkids (your kids and nieces) into her crimes is like you and said kids going into the lion's den; those sick thugs really wanted you and your kids and nieces to "visit" them because doing so really gives them someone to bully for their sadistic pleasure. Oh, and you don't have to live in a car; in fact, there's always woman's shelters out there. Oh, and please look into reporting that sadistic beast of a mother and her slimy henchmen to prison ASAP. Children are gifts to treasure, not to abuse.

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