Relationship Violence Story From Kate

by Kate
(East London, UK)

His name was J a womens fashion magazine editor. Met him on FB he was writing me messages for like a year. I thought it was spam so I never replied but then I made friends with mutual Ldn party models so I found he was real and spoke to him more. Eventually we met up a couple of times, he was staying with his publisher S, I came round when he was alone and he got on top I told him to stop but he just stuck his thumb in my mouth and told me to suck. Then another time he had his mate's derelict 3 floor building to himself after he had sex with me he slapped me round the face. He use to make do Coke with him too. When he was angry with me he'd be silent and ignore my texts and calls. J was v childish, lying and cold. I cant believe I let a monster like him take my V, I had a lot of shame and angst. However, now I workout and meditate, from time to time I check his FB and he's a complete diff person! Maybe it was me I shud have walked away; I was so depressed, low but his sex was bulls-eye! And then he would feed me short monologues from his life, "I'm lonely, my parents never wanted me....I've got all this success but no-one to share it with......" which he laced with "I've told you things about myself that I've never told anyone else". He's so funny, sweet, sophisticate and his friends would think I'm talking about someone else if I told them! I can't talk to him properly he's so moody I can't be me round him the last 2 times the sex was bad. He also never uses protection I've been pregnant twice My body refused 1 then the other I just drunk n overworked out! I haven't been the doctor the last time he was so judgemental so I jus feel like an idiot. I wish I was still a V.

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Aug 30, 2010
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Never tie your self-esteem with that of someone else. You are worthy without anyone else. And you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Rather than wishing something else had happened, consider that you are now more experienced in life as a result of what happened, and you will now make better healthier choices for yourself. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Aug 31, 2010
from someone who remember s when listen to advise dont put self in bad situations again you be fine great heart
by: Anonymous

first off who knows if he is the same person on his fb, that might be a place for well men like him , who knows , you should go out with friends never alone meet someone go in groups anyway, so someone knows where you are you go off or warns you say no that guy nut and such,
alot of people get hurt, dating and all these day and old days too, you chalk him off as fun but wrong kind of fun , bad for you kind of fun, the vigirn stuff , save your heart soul for love , it doesnt sound like love anyway, next time you look for fun you be in control safe all that, dont let it go that far, you go out groups then you allow someone take you dinner or whatever thats it dont go home or wherever, if you serious you be certain that that person too serious ask, then BEFORE YOU GO TO THAT POINT, right up front say i dont like this or i dont like that after you get clear what intentions are on both your and other persons side, then if someone crosses your boundries then well legal stuff all kind of embarassing things you can do,
if you loved him you would have know i dont see love and he is drug addict and wierdo to some degree, think , men well fair weather when you got youth and looks and things money then you find out later who loves you in the end, those that hurt you better off with out anyway i know that hard fact but its so true and the babies god knew not meant to be they be renincarnated in when the time comes i beleive that i am christian, maybe sounds stupid to you but thats what i beleive, in,
god knows what he is doing we dont. i wish i was young and your time in life i was attractive young back then but i dont envy you the hardships i give advise to be safe friends there groups , and to be selective and caustious but still have fun and wait to get serious for the very very right person, just still try to have fun no druggies though and hits slaps yeah i dumped someone backin the day sam3e type sent me roses for a month after i left too bad threw flowers out each day i think goood i was, you got to get tough with those type back dump em who cares about him you got good heart save it please for great guy going to come along,

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