Relationship Violence Story From Laiba

by Laiba
(Location Undisclosed)

I was only 14 years old when I met the boy of my dreams. It was perfect we did everything together and it was nothing but love. I was a freshman and he was a sophomore at the time.


After a month into the relationship things started to change. Our relationship was never physical it was horrible mentally. I never believed in a million years that something like this would happen to me EVER but it did, which shows that it can happen to anyone.

He wanted me to be just like him. He never wanted me to hang out with my friends, wear nailpolish, talk, have a good time or just be me.

I was so stupid to think that I was in love that I believed him and stopped doing all those things. What's funny was that he used me like his personal asisstant. He used to have a great time with his friends but forbid me to see anyone.

Alot of people saw the change in me and wondered what was wrong. I just shrugged it off thinking that it was nothing. I was so brainwashed that I don't know what a friend or a true friend is anymore.




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May 06, 2010
Laiba:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

If you are still with this boy, break it off, NOW, and then lean on your parents for support; that's what they are there for. If you are still with this boy, things will escalate, things will get worse, much worse. You are worthy of dignity and respect; you do not deserve to be treated the way he's treating you. He's isolating you from your friends in order to keep control of you. Don't let that continue. Your friends are your support system. You didn't say where you live...if you're in the USA, please contact National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/ If you are no longer with this boy, then congratulations for getting out! Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 06, 2010
Been there and done that.
by: Linda

Laiba, dump this control freak as fast as you can. I met my husband at age sixteen and he treated me the exact same way as your boyfriend did you. Unfortunately, I was a fool and thought he loved me, That was my reasoning. I ended up having him force sex on me and I became pregnant. My parents made me marry the idiot and my life was hell! Don't let this man ruin your life. Yiou deserve so much more than a life of contol and brainwashing, because that is all he wants......Get away from the jerk. I hope you will lean on your parents and live your life happy.....LOL.

May 07, 2010
Don't blame yourself: Use it as a learning experience
by: maurice

It is quite natural Laiba what you did, so don't blame yourself, please and I mean please use it as a learning experience: I am sure you will and you will not fall into the same trap again: You are highly intelligent: You also found a safe place for you to allow others to learn from your bad experience: Teen learn from each other quickly so thank you for warning other teens: Laiba Darlene has given you absolute loving heartfelt advice with her words of love and encourageing words on the best way forward for you in your future relationships: Respect for yourself is the best starting point: Build up your own self esteem: get to know the wonderful and beautiful adolecent you are: I am certain you have a class or school friend or friends whom you trust with your secret feelings: Those friend s are your guiding lights: Always watching out for you: Wanting your to be safe at all times: Will allow you to live your life to the full while widening your horizons on the right thing to do in building relationships: These true and loyal friends are outside your natural boy girls relationships: Always believe in yourself: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: I believe this to be the most natural way to grow and mature into a beautiful person: So get out there taking part in sporting and cultural activities with your friends, school/college team mates: So live well, laugh alot, love much beginning always with yourself: I'm Special, I love me, Hug and cuddle that beautiful body of yours in front of the mirror: Era go on: There's no one looking at you: You'll feel good all over:

May 09, 2010
Horrible mental abuse
by: Robin

I went through this when I was a freshman in college. If you have not already, you need to stop seeing this boy completely. Do anything and everything it takes to move on and forget him - and do everything to make sure you do not run into him anywhere. You are right that this can happen to anyone. I suffered a severe depression as a result of my experience. Get away immediately. You deserve a kind and loving relationship.

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