Relationship Violence Story From Dylan

by Dylan
(Location Undisclosed)

When I was 16 I moved into a flat hours away from my hometown. I got a job and became really close with my manager. One day he told me he needed a place to stay because him and his roommate kept arguing. I said he could stay at mine. That's when it all started. He began constantly insulting me. Telling me I was fat and ugly at every oppurtunity he had. Then he started starving me. He would put padlocks on the cupboards, and watch the fridge constantly. If I answered back or was rude to him, he would threaten to kill me. He would Say it was for the best because I needed to lose weight. (I still ate when I wasn't at home, but I started believing what he was telling me.) After a while I stood up to him, and he became really violent. He would literally follow me around the house kicking me and shoving me into walls and doors. He was only a few years older than me, but I was so scared because he was so much bigger and stronger than me. He would drag me around by my hair at least 3 times a night and he'd make me take my top off and stand against a wall for hours. If I spoke or made practically any noise he would cut marks into my back with a kitchen knife. It was literally Hell. A few days later he began locking me in his wardrobe, by wrapping a belt around the handles. I was forced to sleep in there for most nights, with nothing but a ripped blanket. Whenever he let me out, the first thing he would do was hit me. He woul hit me with literally anything- books, belts, shoes, beer bottles. He then started inviting 5 of his mates round every thursday. I would have to sit naked on the floor in front of them, while they took it in turns to 'Touch' me or hurt me. The one who made me cry won the game. This was the night I dreaded the most every week. The men who were in their late 20s would punch me, strangle me, burn me and hold my head under water for as long as possible. I put up with all of this until I was 18, when my mate noticed I had cuts and bruises all over my body. I told her everything.





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Aug 15, 2012
Dylan:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm delighted that you spoke up, and I can only hope that you are now in a safe place. This man was and still is dangerous, if not to you, certainly to others. Always remember that you have no shame in what happened to you. You are not to blame. The fact that you were living with a roommate at all at the age of 16 tells me you come from an environment that was not healthy. This put you in a very vulnerable place. This sick excuse of a man took advantage of your vulnerabilities and your youth in the most vile ways. Please consider reporting and disclosing what he did, not only to protect you, but possibly others as well. And please consider seeking out some form of counselling or therapy in order to gain some perspective, in order to help you develop a healthy self-esteem, and in order to deal with the repercussions of what you endured, both at the hands of this sicko, his friends and perhaps from your own parents or guardians. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. I send you love, light and healing energy, Dylan. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Aug 15, 2012
The Horror
by: Anonymous

Dylan, I really hope that you're out of that house now and that you're in a safe place now...and thank goodness you survived! Your so-called manager and his slimy friends are deeply troubled, helpless bullies who chose to use your youth and vulnerabilities for their sadistic gratification. Beating you, strangling you, burning you, torturing you and even starving you are just enough to throw those horrific, poor excuses of human beings to jail for a long time. Oh, and they're wrong. You're not fat; you're not ugly; you're beautiful; never believe any of those nasty lies that they were spewing. Oh, and I'm glad you told someone; I just hope those sick, sadistic beasts get incarcerated for all those terrible crimes that they committed against you because you did nothing wrong.

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