Relationship Violence Story From Cassie

by Cassie
(West Virginia, USA)

I was raped: 
One day my boyfriend wanted me to go out to meet his family and then i ended up staying the night at his friends house well we all wanted to get drunk so they went a bought a liter or jack daniels and i just kept drinking when i started to drink i became promiscuous and then people began to kiss and my boyfriend got mad and left the room thats when he tried to move my shorts over and put his penis inside me i told him not to but i was so drunk my body couldnt push him away i kept trying though but my body was too weak i was 16 then i just turned 17 but it was not the first time stuff like that has ever happended to me.

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May 15, 2011
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I hope you're no longer with this rapist. I hope you've broken it off with him. Understand this, when you're drinking you cannot consent. Period. End of story. What he did was criminal. It wasn't your fault, even if you were drinking. Always remember that. What I will say here is that you're absolutely right about being too weak to fend off or fight off an assault. With each drink a person has (especially a woman), the risk for sexual assault goes up exponentially, in part because of the depressant effects on the body. Alcohol does not just affect the brain, it diffuses into every cell of the body. Not only is is difficult to say no when drinking (and guys know this), it becomes increasingly difficult to maintain your balance, strength and cognitive functions. Again, it's NEVER the victim's fault for any kind of assault. What you can do is understand the risks associated with alcohol, and then make choices for yourself that are less risky. At this point, I do hope you'll consider seeking out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with all this. Consider contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning ( if necessary), information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser:

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
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May 16, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

With Darlene's empowering, loving encourageing words to you Cassie please be in a safe place: Live your life to the full: The Demon Drink yes sadly it has all the effects Darlene quotes: It does make one weak: abuserable by another less intoxicated; That is why sadly into todays world Teenagers are putting themselves in the same risk as found yourself: They are drinking heavily and as in my time they saying between us was after so many drinks pants down; No inhibitions etc and then the abuse happened: The amount of teens being raped is a high percent or becoming pregnant; Causing many a pain in homes and families: Beginning a whole new world of broken homes and families: Parents (The Majority) are loving and do cheirish the child that went too far in drinking with their so called friends: Then abuse which as Darlene rightly say is nevr the victim fault: Thanks Cassie: You gave Darlene the opportunity to advice and ask you to get on with living yur life to the full while educating all her visitors at the same time: Be safe, Stay safe:

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