Relationship Violence Story From Haley

by Haley
(Location Undisclosed)

This is the first time I have ever really talked about it but it still leaves fresh images in my mind. He was perfect, sweet, nice, handsome. He was everything I'd ever wanted. He was my childhood best friend until we just ended up together. things were really good at first he was sweet, and kind. He made me feel on cloud 9, like I wasn't really there, and the feeling was addicting. One day we were driving around in his car until we parked somewhere and he told me he loved me, It felt great but I wasn't sure I felt the same so I didn't say it back. This is when he punched me in the arm, hard enough that I was shocked and started tearing up and told him I wanted to go home. He didn't say anything just drove me home and said sorry. I got out and went to my room and started crying he then called and said sorry many times so I shrugged it off. From there on out things got worse and worse, in front of people he would be so sweet. but when we were alone he would always get angry and hit my legs or my arms, just so that if he did leave a bruise no one would see it. Sometimes he would grab me so hard that I would have his finger prints bruised on my arms. He wouldn't let me talk to any other guy and if I did he would yelled at me and punch me. I never really told anyone for the fear that he would hurt me more if I told. Then one night we were going on a date. He pulled up at my house and I got in the car and he asked me if I wanted to skip dinner and just have sex. I was a virgin at this time and did not want to loose it now, in a car. After I said no he started yelling and hitting me so hard. He hit me so hard that I fell out of his car onto the curb and he drove off. I laid there for what felt like forever until my mother came out and found me. I later broke up with him. He still talks to me and tells me he's sorry, but I don't believe him. I try so hard to stay away from him after everything he has done. I just had to tell my story. Thanks.





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May 09, 2011
Haley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm SO proud of you for breaking up with him and not believing him when he says he's sorry. You can be so proud of YOURSELF for that. His "sorry" is part of the cycle of violence. It follows the violent episode, and is called the "honeymoon phase". In this phase, he can be lovey-dovey, and he might even make promises, but these promises will not be kept. Eventually, there would be another violent episode (as you can attest to). And with each cycle, the violence would intensify and escalate, putting you in more and more danger. What I will say now is tell everyone you know—family, friends, school counsellor, teachers, etc—that you've broken up with him and why. This is important because these people are your support system. Talk to your counsellor about resources that are available to you, on campus and in them community. Then lean on those resources. You didn't deserve to be mistreated and assaulted. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Haley, you had the courage to get out and stay out; I commend and applaud your actions. You're an inspiration for many other victims of relationship violence. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 10, 2011
ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:
by: maurice

Empowering words from Darlene: You can be so proud of yourself: Haley her comment is so loving, so empowering: Read again, slowly feel her words where they touch you most in your heart brcause Darlene's words to you are from the depth's of her larger than life woman's heart: Great and good for you that he did not lead you on with his deceptive feelings for you: He showed his true self with his violent streak: Maybe they are there because of abuse or he saw his father do it to his mother: It seemed okay: I am so happy for you now, you get on with living your life to the full: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:

May 16, 2011
Congrats.
by: Anonymous

I know exactly what your talking bout. I still havent told anyone bout the stories, but i luckily got away from him and have a new boy. My story is the same as yours. Not the same events, but the same kind of relationship. Only doing it when we were alone and in places that no one would be able to see. Im proud you could leave and i hope something like this will never happena gain.

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