Relationship Violence Story From Audri

by Audri
(New Jersey, USA)

I was a freshman in High School (my big year) We were in the crowded hallway in school, then i felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around to see who it was. It was Him. I didnt know him but he was cute. (as every teenage girl would say) He gave me a compliment, "you know you're really gorgeous, just thought i'd let you know." This made my day. I couldn't stop thinking about him. When i got home from school, i logged onto Facebook as i usually do. I had a friend request. It was from him and i immediately accepted it. He would IM me sweet things and then he asked for my number. So i gave it to him. We talked and talked and talked. He was everything i looked for in a guy. He finally asked me to be his girlfriend, and of course i said yes. So now we walked down the hallway hand in hand, he walked me to my classes, and we sat together at lunch with all of his friends. He was a junior, so this was big for me being a "freshman" and all. I was so love blind i couldnt see that i was distancing my friends and ditching cheer practice to be with him. Then it happened. Him being well-known he was invited to all parties. So he wanted me to come with him to a party. I knew kids would be drinking since they were juniors & seniors. So i had a bad feeling. I told him no but he soon convinced me like always. The party was getting out of hand so i scanned the house for him. I finally found him, tipsy, but stable. I told him i wanted to leave so he listened. We got in his car parked far from the party. He seemed angry so i simply touched his arm to see if my boyfriend was okay. He turned around so quick and slapped me hard. He never explained why he slapped me. All he said was that he was sorry. I forgave him. Big mistake. He was held back by the teacher in class one day so i was walking myself to class. Then my guy friend started walking with me. We were talking and catching up on things but i didnt think it was bad to talk to him. I soon learned that when my boyfriend grabbed me arm and told my guy friend to "keep on walking." now i was late to class and facing a veryyy angry boy. As soon as my friend was out of sight, he grabbed my wrists & slammed me against a locker. He called me a whore and a slut for talking to other guys. Then out of nowhere he slapped me again. This time harder. I walked alone to class that day 5 min late without a pass=detention. I was now becoming more popular with my boyfriend being a junior so now everyone noticed my bruises and red marks on my cheek. Ppl asked but i always had an excuse. They believed me as always. I remember the worst night of my life. It was prom and he asked me to go. Wait more like told me i was going with him. My parents werent so excited about me going being so young but i told them not to worry. Wrong. We danced the night away and for the first time i had my sweet boyfriend back. Until he saw me talking with my friends. Talking to other ppl=flirting or talking about him. He beat me that day. He kept punching my arms and legs. Kicking me in my stomach. Places where i could cover up. As he was hurting me he kept calling me names. "Youre a sl*t! F***ing whore! Get up sl*t! Get up!" i was too hurt and sore to get up. So he beat me some more. He apologized for and i just cant seem to give up on him :/ i love him too much. Im a sophomore now and i'm still with him. I don't know what I should do.

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May 14, 2011
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Get out! Get out NOW! And then tell everyone you know why you're breaking up with him. Lean and your family and friends during this difficult time. Tell your teachers and counsellor so that they can help to keep you safe. You are on the cycle of violence with this guy; and you keep going back as a result of the honeymoon period and what you believe him to be. He is not the guy you think he is. When you see the sweetness, it's all part of the honeymoon phase. I repeat, it's not who he really is; it's a phase that always dissipates. He's an abuser and he's manipulating and controlling you. He's not only bad news, he WILL escalate the violence with each cycle. You are in danger staying with him. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser:

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, Audri. That's not happening with this boy, and you must understand that it never will. He needs help; and you can't give it to him. You do not deserve to be abused or assaulted in any way. Phone the number above for the sake of your safety. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 17, 2011
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by: maurice

Audri: Only blame your own low self esteem from now on if you stay with him: You are all Darlene say you are; you are intelligent; you are active in your high school as a fresher and sophomore: I know a number of families whose children have educated me what a sophomore is all about: Trust your parents they value, love and cherish you, want what is the best for you want you to be safe from males like that idiot, control freak; Popular among other idiots who are not aware of his otherside: Surfice level he is a hero while deep down he is a coward and a freak: You learn a good lesson from him, never allow another male whom you want t5o build a relationship with you to touch you without your permission: Take charge of your own destiny: With your cheerleader buddies; friends: have natural and true friends: to walk with you, talk with you, trust you and you them to share your fears and hopes about good relationships building: Between ye I am certain you will keep idiots like this guy far from girls; Darlene has given youloving, advice: real: from her heart: Get as far from him as is humanly possible; Surround yourself with young women your own age who will help you make this false speciman of maleness known for his violence to you; Have always a healthy mind in a healthy body; Don't be fooled by him any more: You take charge of your own life NOW

Jun 05, 2011
life CAN be good
by: Anonymous

oh sweetie. i was exactly where you are now 5 years ago. my boyfriend was sweet, and funny, and well liked. and then he started beating me. and it started with small things that i couldnt really explain to anyone, so i shrugged them off. before i knew it, i had grown accustomed to abuse... of every type. and i still stayed. if i left, i came right back. i still cant explain why, just as most women that have been in the same situation cant. but i will tell you this, it took him trying to kill me and me joining the army to get the courage to get away from him. please Audri, i beg you, dont make the same mistake so many of us make. the first step in leaving is terrifying, it is. but i promise it will only get worse if you stay with him, and life on the outside is waiting for you with open arms.

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