Relationship Violence Story From Michelle

by Michelle
(Location Undisclosed)

I never thought in a million years that I would be in an abusive relationship EVER. I had great friends, grades, family and a life until I met him, A. I was madly in love with him and I felt like I was the luckiest girl in the world, which I was because now I had someone that liked me.


But things weren't like what you see in the movies. The relationship became horrible. It was physical or verbal, it was emotional and mental abuse. I had the worst time of my life. HE didn't allow me to wear nailpolish or "look good" in front of people. He thought that I was being disloyal to him. So I stopped, I change styles alot so my friends thought that it was just another style phase I was going through. After he said I couldn't wear nailpolish and dress my best I knew something weird was going on but I didn't say anything thinking to myself:....it's no big deal I mean I don't HAVE to dress good everyday.

Then it slowly turned onto another step. I wasn't allowed to see my friends. Not even in his presence. The only people I was allowed to see were my family. I kept making excuses with my friends everytime they wanted to hang out to the point they just stopped calling me altogether. I was miserable and lonely without my 'girlfriends' in my life. I used to cry sometimes and I spoke to him about it. He always said "It's me or them...your choice." I was stupid enough to think that I was madly in love with him that I chose him. Things only got worse. He never treated me like his girl, he never said I love you or you look pretty. He made me feel like s**t all the time. Sometimes he used to ignore me and he used to ditch me and hang out with his friends.
THIS HAD BEEN GOING ON FOR 2 YEARS UNTIL ONE DAY I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.

I broke all the rules, got a manicure, dressed up really nice and tried to patch my friendships with all the people that I lost. When he confronted me about it and threatened me. I used to irritate him and if he tried to touch me I would freak out. He finally got the picture and backed out because I had transformed into making him back off.

My life is getting better and I'm glad that I broke off from him. If you're in the same situation as I it's not worth it, this isn't love it's torture. Don't make the same mistake I did. Smart people can make the stupidest mistakes and that's what I did.




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