Relationship Violence Story From Annymonous

by Annymonous
( Location Undisclosed)

It's not your Fault: 
It was summer of 2007 and my mom was having a 40th birthday party at her house. A girl the same age of myself was friends with my mom for the past 2-3 years (at the time, is no longer friends now.) Her family was invited. The day before the party her and my mom picked me up from my apartment. We made a stop at her family's farm first to pick up one of her brothers. We went back to my mom's and hung out a bit. He seemed nice enough (at the time). So, he came over the next day, along with his mom, one brother (14) and youngest sister (6). We became friends and started hanging out a lot. After a few weeks we actually hooked up.


About November is when it started turning bad.

I ended up pregnant and that's where it really hit rock bottom. He started slapping me in the face, tripping me and calling me names. He would constantly say you did it to yourself (especially when I had morning sickness). There even was an incident when he picked me up (4 months prego) and was about to throw me down the stairs. Thankfully his mother was there to stop him.

That night his own father (who is an incest sex offender-didn't know at the time) followed me to the kitchen and gave me a hug. He said you just looked like you needed a hug. Then he started fondling me and telling me things like how he is attracted to me. I didn't know what to say. I was in shock at this! He left the room after this.

I stayed there 3 more weeks until I decided I can't stay here any longer. The entire family is abusive to each other and outsiders. This was no life for my baby. The baby was the reason I continued to stay. I left there in March of 2008.

Always remember it's not your fault, it is theirs. They are the abusers. Now I continue to fight for my son who is currently being abused by his father. Never let anyone push you around.

Annymonous

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Sep 28, 2009
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are so right when you say it's not your fault, that it is the fault of the abusers. Keep advocating and protecting your son. Keep doing what you need to do to keep him safe, and keep yourself safe in the process. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Sep 28, 2009
Well done good and brave mother
by: maurice

Great Annymous you were lucky and brave to have the courage to get away from that relationship of violence and abuse. Sicko's of the male species sadly nature begets nature in still a good number of families. You were unlucky to get caught up in one such. Darlene has given you words of love and support, great advice too from her heart to you and your little boy. Be sure be safe for both of you. Build a circle of caring, loving, trusting people around you both. Family & Friends are the answer to keeping yourself safe. Always believe in yourself. Love yourself, be gentle and kind to yourself. Build up your own self worth, self esteem. begin this day to build up a good positive mirror image of your wonderful and beautiful self. If you get the chance talk to a counsellor for re-assurance on how to keep yourself safe. Live well, laugh alot, love much. I'M SPECIAL AND I LOVE ME AND MY PRECIOUS SON.

Sep 29, 2009
you are a brave women
by: amyn

you are so smart and brave for getting out of that situation. I do however sometimes wonder what it is that makes a person turn from good to bad so quickly. Was he on any kind of drugs that you know about? or was it just how he was raised?

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