Relationship Violence Story From Annymonous
( Location Undisclosed)
It's not your Fault:
It was summer of 2007 and my mom was having a 40th birthday party at her house. A girl the same age of myself was friends with my mom for the past 2-3 years (at the time, is no longer friends now.) Her family was invited. The day before the party her and my mom picked me up from my apartment. We made a stop at her family's farm first to pick up one of her brothers. We went back to my mom's and hung out a bit. He seemed nice enough (at the time). So, he came over the next day, along with his mom, one brother (14) and youngest sister (6). We became friends and started hanging out a lot. After a few weeks we actually hooked up.
About November is when it started turning bad.
I ended up pregnant and that's where it really hit rock bottom. He started slapping me in the face, tripping me and calling me names. He would constantly say you did it to yourself (especially when I had morning sickness). There even was an incident when he picked me up (4 months prego) and was about to throw me down the stairs. Thankfully his mother was there to stop him.
That night his own father (who is an incest sex offender-didn't know at the time) followed me to the kitchen and gave me a hug. He said you just looked like you
needed a hug. Then he started fondling me and telling me things like how he is attracted to me. I didn't know what to say. I was in shock at this! He left the room after this.
I stayed there 3 more weeks until I decided I can't stay here any longer. The entire family is abusive to each other and outsiders. This was no life for my baby. The baby was the reason I continued to stay. I left there in March of 2008.
Always remember it's not your fault, it is theirs. They are the abusers. Now I continue to fight for my son who is currently being abused by his father. Never let anyone push you around.
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