Relationship Violence Story From Rachel Z

by Rachel Z
(Michigan, USA)

I am a 14 year old girl, and everyday i deal with abuse from my boyfriend. He would grab me from my neck and throw me across the room, he would also hit me, he never lets me go out and see my friends, i always have to be with him, everydy of my life. I am very scared if i leave him because i dont know what he would do.





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Mar 22, 2010
Rachel:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You don't deserve to live this way. Lean on your family. Your parents are there to ensure you're safe. Get support from them. Don't be ashamed; none of what's happening to you is your fault. Don't isolate yourself or allow yourself to be isolated. Another resource is the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/ Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 24, 2010
I believe you are talking the truth
by: maurice

Get miles away from him, he is not worth you believeing you love him and he loves you. His behaviour has nothing to do with loving and respecting another. Rachel Z you are intelligent, you are nobody's fool. Please learn fast what is good in building friendships/relationships. Number one is respect for yourself, love yourself enough never to allow another to do anything to you that you know is not right for you. He may need loads of help and counselling from where is coming from because of the way he is treating you. You have your own inner pride and self worth Get out there and mix and intergrate with your cklass mates. school buddies, taking part in Team sports and cultural activities. That will help you to have a healthy mind in a healthy body. allow you to grow and mature in the safety of numbers and other likeminded people. Your true friends will stand by you and help you have positive thinking about yourself, Love, sex, etc. Sure being 14 you have alot of living to do.

Mar 24, 2010
Get out & get safe. you're worth it!!
by: Mac

RachelZ; Keep us posted on how you are doing. We will diffently keep you in our thoughts & prayers. Remember you are not alone, & that you need to get out of that relationship now before he kills you or makes you crazy girl!! Focus on you, your safety, & get yourself out & into a safer place so you can begin to heal & be happier.

Mar 24, 2010
raggy ann doll - get him one
by: Anonymous

wow,

14, where are your parents first off, or family , anyone, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP period
honestly, at your age you will get over it

my one question would be does he ever apologize
my second question is how long you known him

reasons, when someone apologizes maybe could be seen as hope not some nut, just immature person

reasons, this type of behavior leads to other behavior and worse , you dont know him well enough and future hold s troubles then , can be dangerous

i think

as far as relationships , 14 , as far back i remember 14 is too young, and then as far back as i remember someone i knew , later he became controlling , ruined my life , i ended up married to love my children, very very much, but stayed with him i am not sure because he wanted to or i wanted to honestly, took years to get him away from me, distance and years, and my kids then he was spiteful didnt come around to see them

my second husband later he had a saying
i am not a raggy andie doll

the reason he left his controlling x wife she too young and immature person.

and you are not a raggy ann doll either
sounds like all he wanted is control
there wouldnt be a relationship with someone like this, you might as well be anyone , he wouldnt care. just as long as he has control and if you put up with this how will you ever know if he cares about you or cares about control

life is so much more than that , at your age so much fun and all and future, i didnt let my young years go by , i had controlling person too
i worked around him and didnt let him run my life period had my life, the worst part and my last question to you is

why did he stop you from going out or from whatever he did, no one ever touched me
i was followed and such and told not to do this or that, but he touched you , physical
anyone touched me i called police or leave
and i am not talking about fooling around or little fights people have , reason i ask about apologize ing and that, i mean seriously
wont let you go anywhere, most boyfriends young guys they follow girls around , you get up go out in other room he comes out to be near you not to drag you around cave man style come on.

ok hope you be ok .


May 07, 2010
That just ain't right
by: Anonymous

Nobody HAS to go through stuff like that. It is hard to believe it hapens so often. I can't say that i've ever expierienced relationship violence but i know many people have. In fact one of my close friends has. I am sooo sorry you are going through this. Please just remember that you don't HAVE to stay with him. And you're not alone.

May 08, 2010
I hope you have been brave:
by: maurice

RachelZ please oh please be safe: You certainly know there a respecting, caring and loving boys out there for you: Learn from this idiot of a boy: He sure has not a clue how to respect himself not alone others his own age group especially YOU: suround yourself with genuine and true friends who will keep you safe from freaks like him: OK I want what is the best for you: I hope you took Darlene's loving affirming words to your heart and acted on them: Live well, Live safe, Laugh alot, Love much> I can: I will: I must because I am worth it: I am, I am, I believe you because I believe it myself:

May 31, 2010
please seriously read and consider
by: Melissa

I am an education specialist at a rape crisis center. I work with rape victims and also teach violence prevention. Dating violence and healthy relationship is a favorite of mine. I want you to go seek protection from your abuser. Many young adults confuse over protective and obsessive jealous boyfriend's attention for love. It's not. Love is not abuse and abuse is not love. Please go to the authorities and get an order of protection or a restraining order. You do not deserve to live like that. Please tell your grown ups too. They will help protect you as well. Do not take this lightly. Some physical abuse results in death. Good-Luck!!
and best wishes. I'm here if you need to talk :)
Keep your chin up!!

Jun 01, 2010
The most helpful encourageing words from one who cares and knows
by: maurice

Hi Rachel Z, Melissa in her comment put your position in perspective: With Darlene and her self you can live your life to the full without such a clown in your life (idiot, Control freak) You know the rest now: Get genuine friends around you at school/college your own sex who will help you deal with such a false guy: He has no love, value or respect for you. There is safety in numbers: your Parents and true friends will protect you from such feeble minded individuals: How dare anyone feel it is his/her right to treat anyone especially you Rachel z in such a way: Get rid of him NOW: Ok my second comment because Melissa encouraged me to say yes I care as we all do in Darlene's site about each other's welbeing: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body:

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