Relationship Violence Story From Shanelle

by Shanelle
(Location Undisclosed)

I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months. I live with him in our own house. Im going to give some background information to maybe why we are like this. When he was a child he never knew his father and his mother was hard into drugs so he lived with his grandma. She was a wicked woman and beat him everyday of his life. He told me she even hung him from a tree by his neck infront of his family and they all laughed. And for me growing up i was poor, and molested a few times. My mom divorced my dad when i was 8 and imediatly started dating a guy who always used to beat her so for the past 9 years of my life i have been in and out of womans shelters but my mom always went back to him, i am proud to say just recently she has left him and found a good man. But back to me and my boyfriend, our relationship started out good, he was hard into drugs and me hard into drinking though. we both have quit, but he started to get very jelous. i am a soical butterfly and had tons of friends but i find myself not having one in the world now. The abuse started when we would drink together, he wouldnt let me leave. And it has escalated to big amounts, hes held me down with knives to my throat, hit me, choked me out ALOT i think thats his favorite move. He threatens to kill me almost every day of my life. I talk to no one. but dont get me wrong i hit him too. I am sharing this because today things were aweful. He checked my facebook and i said hello to a "guy" friend of mine. he freaked out and started yelling and then choked me out then smashed everything in the house. I wonder if its cuz his child hood he acts like this and cuz of mine i think its ok.





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