Relationship Violence Story From Taylor G

by Taylor G
(San Jose, California, USA)

My boyfriend and I had been dating for about one year and our relationship was not going very well. We were constantly arguing over simple things and always angry or upset at each other. One day in particular we were in a rather nasty fight and he told me that he was done and was ready to break up. I told him that we needed to talk about it first because he was mad right now and should be thinking clearly when making this decision. He called me a few not-so-nice names, and I started crying. Then he told me to stop being so whiny and to shut up. I told him never to talk to me like that ever, and he started getting even more mad and slapped me across the face. But the way he hit me, he hit my mouth and my ear. My lip started bleeding and to this day I still have a scar where my teeth broke through the skin. After that he quickly punched me in the stomach and left on his bike. Later that night he called me and told me we were over. I didn't talk to him anymore since then. Although it's been a little over a year since we broke up, I still have a hard time trusting that people will not hurt me again.

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Jun 08, 2009
Understandable fear and apprehension...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Taylor, this guy betrayed your trust, and he left you scared and scarred after giving himself permission to strike you and harm you. Of course you would feel mistrust.

You stood up for yourself and told him in no uncertain terms that he was not to speak to you in the way he did; I applaud that, Taylor. You showed self-respect by not allowing him to treat you with disrespect. You had—have—that right. What you may not have known is that you were dealing with someone who was very troubled, someone who resorted to violence against a woman when he didn't get his way. This boyfriend assaulted you; and for that, he should have been charged.

Please remember that while there are some men like this, the vast majority of men are NOT like this. Believe me, there are some WONDERFUL men out there; I know because I am married to one of those wonderful men.

You are still raw from this terrible experience. If there is a way for you to arrange some counselling for yourself, I strongly recommend you seek it out, Taylor. A counsellor may be able to help you with your emotional trauma, as well as help you to understand why you chose someone like this guy in the first place. If you can figure that out, you are much less likely to choose a violent man again. If you can figure that out, you are much more likely to choose a loving, caring and supportive man; a man you can trust. Loving, trusting relationships do not included constant fighting. You deserve better than that.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
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