Relationship Violence Story From Tiger

by Tiger
(London, England)

I have had six-year relationship with a very manipulative and scary guy i dont uderstand why i stay i just do. but heres what hes done to me.

Hes thrown chairs at me
kicked the s**t out of me
slammed me in doors
locked me in rooms
broken 3 phones
beat me up with crutches
cut my leg open by throwing a cup at me
strangled me
smashed my head against the floor
controlled me
deleted my work
hacked my Facebook
smushed food in my face
ripped my hair out
pinned me to the bed and threatened me to tell him the truth then hits me whatever my answer several times
beaten me several times with huge bruises
given me 3 black eyes
cut my lip open
threw door at me
stuck his fingers up me in an aggressive way ie sexully
threatened to rape me
called me many names
steals my stuff to make me stay locks me in the house
throws me around
thrown meat juice in my face
cut himself in front of me many times
tried to put knife in my hand and put his neck to it
threatened me with knife several times
chased me down the road
spat in my face several times
strangled my dog and threatened to throw him in the train tracks as well as threatening to send him pound let him free out of house.
makes me sleep with no covers and or pillow
locks me in rooms turns lights off and electric so cant do anything but sit.
smashed a mop in my face
broken alot of my stuff by stamping on it ripping throwing it
torn alot my clothes off and on me
torn my paperwork up
taken money forcibly from my account and stole from my purse
that's the main bits im quite a calm person i have never been in a fight with anyone not even argument im very shy and quiet these are all unprovoked.

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Feb 09, 2012
To Tiger:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Whether or not you "provoke" this guy, he NEVER has the right to lay a hand on you or mistreat you in any way. No person has that right. You do not deserve to be abused and assaulted. This is not about you; it's all about HIM. He's the one at fault. He's the one who's chosen to abuse you. He has serious problems, but you can't fix him. You stay with him because you have a distorted view of what love is, and because you do not see your Self as worthy of dignity and respect. But you ARE worthy of dignity and respect. This guy WILL escalate the violence against you. You ARE in danger. Please contact the 24-hour National Domestic Violence
Freephone Helpline at 0808 2000 247. Check out their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser:

Treat your Self better than this guy is treating you. Call the number. You deserve the help they can provide. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 15, 2012
I see myself in your Story
by: Anonymous

It was 10 years ago since I left. I understand your pain and have all that done to me by my ex. Your explanation of things he's done made me wonder if you ended up with him. It is hard to leave and scary too. I went to a woman's shelter then supportive housing for a year. I felt as though my own family could never understand what I went through and in fact I was embarrassed at what I "let" him do to me (physically and sexually). I still am embarrassed but I have learned people don't see my past unless I show them.
It took me about 7 times trying to leave before I left for good. I left in my pyjamas with bedroom slippers on and still almost turned back. The hardest thing you will do is leave him. And the road to recovery is not easy but it is easier than that first step.
People are good, you are not a liar or any other name he calls you. No matter what bad choices you have made in your past or present, he is not the one to judge you. You are not special to him, he will treat the next woman exactly the same as you. (that was the hardest thing for me to finally believe) I do not mean to be hurtful and forgive me if I am. You writing your story here means you are getting ready to leave. No amount of love or caring will make him stop, change or take responsibility. I know I tried everything. I lived with the one thought in my mind "If only I did this or that right, then he'd be ok, wouldn't complain or have to hit me". It does not work because as soon as you "do right" the stakes get higher. The expectations get ridiculous. Get safe, get help from women organizations. they will embrace you and not judge you nor will they "make" you do anything you are not capable of.
Leave everything behind, it is all replaceable.
I hope you survive because your story only has two endings. One is the ending where you leave.
You can do this, I promise you.
Take this as my hug to you.

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