Relationship Violence Story From Brittany

by Brittany

i am still dealing with my abusive problem... i was sixteen when i met my boyfriend. at first it was all love.. but it soon got bad. i convinced my mom to let him move into to our home after dating him for almost six months. my mom was not happy at all but she knew that was the only way that i would stop running away and staying out late. After he moved in it started by just talking to me ugly and calling me names. Then one day we got into a really big fight and he slapped me . I told him to get the hell out of my house and he did. But one day later he called me saying he was sorry and that i was his every thing . ( I am a only child and i was raised just by mom . dad was never in the picture)so i moved out of my house that day and started living with him. At first it was nice but then be slowly started abusing me.he would beat me up at least two or three times a day. I am now 19 about to turn twenty and i am still in this abusive reltionship. i am too scared to tell my mom because it will break her heart into a milliion piceices. ive been hiding this from every one i know. i feel sooo alone. I know the way he treats me is wrong and i threw him in jail once. but i just keep going back. He always says he gunna kill himself and its gunna be all my fault . I know i need out of this relationship. this website is the only thing that i can express my feeling without being put down or hit. soo thank you for listening

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Jun 29, 2011
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. And you deserve to have the support and encouragement from the people who love and care about you. When you keep the secret, you keep yourself isolated from the very people who can step up and give you the support you need. And you really need that support right now. I know you don't want to hurt your mother, but I suspect she knows more than you realize. As hard as it would be for her to find out the real truth, it would really break her heart to learn that you didn't go to her when you need her most. And it would devastate her if something terrible happened to you. But what you need most is to get out of that abusive relationship. Your boyfriend is a typical abuser and you're living in the cycle of violence. It will NOT get better. In fact, it will continue to get worse as the violence will escalate, putting you in grave danger. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser:

You deserve this kind of help, Brittany, but you must first believe that yourself in order to step up and help yourself. Nothing will change otherwise. You've taken a very brave first step by writing here. Take the next necessary step. You're worth it. YOU REALLY ARE. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 30, 2011
Please Oh Please Be gentle, kind, act now and get help
by: maurice

Brittany: great you searched for and found Darlene's site: Let this be the turning point in your life: Surround yourself with real friends especially your own age and gender: Most important to have a good and true friend in your life right now: You'll be the winner: once you read all the words of affirmation, encouragement, love, care, concern, honest words Darlene has written to you from her heart: You had the courage to ask for help NOW you need to talk and tell someone very close to you that you trust implicitedly: Mother's are wonderful and great women, their motherly insticts (the most of them) that is know there children dilema's even though they are not communicated or related: think about that: These are the mother who love and cherish their children So Brittany you'll be the winner once you begin to LOVE yourself: This so called boy friend is a bad yoke: not worthy of the name Male or be part of the male species: He has no respect for himself so how then could he have it for you: You are precious and special: I am the most important person in this relationship: It ain't ahealthy friendship for you to be in: Get out NOW: Follow step by step Darlene's wanting the best for you advice from her heart personally to you: You spoke from your heart: you were honest and truth full: You found a safe place, haven, to express your true feelings: Don't blame yourself just prove yourself intelligent, you know he is a violent individual, uncaring, un-loving bad: He won't change so get away from him NOW: I will I can I must because I am WORTH it: One sure way is to begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body: all my many friends here know that I believe this is a gateway to build natural and true friends: You are far too young not to wanting such in your life: Get out there with your friends and like-minded people your own age and gender: (important: Play team sports, you have gifts and tallents so share them with others in a healthy and natural way: You'll bloosom and grow in mind and body: Dream your dreams and make the difference in your life and in others: Brittany get a life for yourself (real): change your life styles and start living your life to the Full from TODAY; Get that violent maniac out of your life: Safeguard yourself: Stay in Education: I deserve the best after all this sicko of a man put me through: Darlene has speoken but you must act on her woman's knowing and professional words to you from her heart: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: BECAUSE I AM SPECIAL: UNIQUE: AND WORTH IT: I LOVE ME SAY IT BRITTANY I LOVE ME:

Jan 10, 2012
i understand
by: Anonymous

i keep going back to my guy its unexplainable you feel like its love but then when you think about it its not cause you hate them I keep going back cause my guy says im the only one in his life and will kill himself i think i just go back to try and have a nice time as if it will make up for all the abuse hes done i just want the nice guy i love and have false hope that he wont hit me this time maybe it will be ok and i just cant stop. the things he has done are horrifying hes threatened me with knives beaten me very badly broke my stuff calls me names controls me but i still go back so i understand how you feel your not alone.

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