Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed

by Name Withheld
(Location Undisclosed)

Hopeless but strong: 
I am 14 and just ended 8th grade. I have been freinds with this guy since the end of 6th grade. we became best friends. i trusted him and we were so close. he started acting weird and sexually towards me. if i went to a football game he would show up with some of his friends and follow me around and sexually harass me. it got worse at school. they would push me against the wall and start touching me and making me do things i didnt want to do. i know its hard to believe this happened at school, it did. he then started texting me threatening me that if i didnt do this one thing that he would rape me. he started getting really profane and rude. he would be really mean. he told me that i better meet him at some mall. so i went but i bought my other guy friend just in case he would try to do anything. but he left me, alone with him. it as awful, i dont realy want to share what happened there but it wasnt good at all. ive told some of my friends but i dont know if they understand. i feel awful but i dont want to sound so weak and hopeless.





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Jul 22, 2011
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

From where I stand, you're strong and anything BUT hopeless. There is ALWAYS hope. Believe that.

This guy is bad news. He can't be trusted. He'll never be trustworthy again. He's using your vulnerabilities to get what he wants from you as a form of blackmail. And he's using your belief that you're friends against you; he is NO friend. Don't allow yourself to get trapped into believing he'll ever be your friend. He won't. He lost that privilege when he turned on you. Your vulnerabilities only work against you as long as you want to keep things secret. Don't keep anything secret. Tell tell and tell some more. But not just your friends; they can't really help you, although they can be a tremendous support. Tell a counsellor at school, a trusted teacher. Talk to your parents about what is happening. If you're in the USA, contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what this guy is doing to you. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Another resource is the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

You don't deserve to be treated this way. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. When that's not happening, you must make choices that are healthy for you; and that means telling and keeping yourself safe. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Does Your Relationship make the Grade? by: Darlene Barriere
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Jul 22, 2011
tell
by: Carrie

It really isn't hopeless. What Darlene says is true do tell someone. You will not feel so alone. I was terrorized, molested and raped by a boy when I was between 9-14. I only wish I could have gotten the help I needed back then. If you get the help you need now, you can have a healthy happy future. Take care of you, you are worth it.

Jul 23, 2011
We are family with darlene on her site sitting at the table of a caring professionally trained woman
by: maurice

Name Undisclosed in what you wrote so truthfully with courage I have come to know a very intelligent young thinking beautiful young woman: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF: WHY??? because I am Amazing, the architect of my destiny: Beautiful, both inside and out: Courageous, willing to take chances: Now take the biggest chance NOW: Read Darlene's comment, Her heart is saying loving, encouraging, affirming, the truth, words of Care for you: You are trustworthy because you are speaking from your heart to her on her safe haven site: You have become part of her large family of visitors who can empatise and understand your feelings: I bet you are Xcited about living and loving life: Up up and away and live YOUR life to the full: Live well: Laugh often: Love much: let my motto be from this day after Darlene's heart words to me: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: Yes you guessed right: Because I am WORTH it: I bet you are zestfull Happy to be me: Be safe, stay safe: a good distance from that bad, bad guy and his mates; Surround yourself with real, true and good friends: especially at least two your own age and gender: I believe this to be most important for everyone to have such: I need them, so do we all: Become active and alive in your school, comunity, college by taking part in TEAM sports so that you will have a healthy mind and a healthy beautiful body: your motto kicks in here: I encourage as I have for the past 4o years young people to take part in team sports: It is the healthiest way I know they can make real friends: have many aquaintances that will bring a smile to each others face when they meet: Seriously take to your heart Darlene's empowering, encourageing words to you from her woman's heart: It's love itself for you personally: A school counsellor or a trusted teacher is a good place to begin: You are UNIQUE Unrepeatable: I think you get my message: Be gentle and kind as I would say is your nature on yourself: My motto: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:

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