Relationship Violence Story From Hannah B

by Hannah B
(United Kingdom)

I am 13 years old a couple of months ago I was sexually assaulted by my ex boyfriend age 14. ( I was going out with him at the time) he held me down. Forced me, shouted, threatened, hit and hurt me. It was so awful this is by far the worst year of my life. He is on police bail and we are now waiting to hear from the crown court prosecution. I found out a couple of weeks ago that he was arrested for the same thing when he was 12. I am so disgusted, I felt alone and I isolated myself and harmed myself and blamed myself. When all along I wasn't alone, I shouldn't have blamed myself because it wasn't my fault I said no and no means no. When I told him to stop and pushed him he should of stopped instead of jumping forcefully back on top of me and I shouldn't have harmed myself because it doesn't make anything better and it certainly doesn't solve anything. I am a victim of sexual assault, I will not let this ruin my life. I will be successful and will turn from victim to survivor. No one deserves this and I believe that together we can fight this! Thankyou.





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Sep 16, 2011
Hannah:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're absolutely right: no one deserves to be sexually assaulted. And I'm delighted that you now realize that what happened was not your fault. It is NEVER the victim's fault, Hannah. Fault is ALWAYS on the shoulders of the offender because the offender chooses to offend. He made the decision to assault you, and for that, he needs to pay the price. You've got a great attitude about survivorhood. I will also say that the effects may be more far-reaching than you yet realize. As you move through the various ages and stages of your life, you may find that what he did to you comes back to haunt you. You may find that trust is a difficult concept to embrace as a result of his actions against you. You may find yourself having difficulty in relationships because of the way he misused the power he had over you. If that happens, Hannah, please don't ignore it. Seek out the help you need. You didn't deserve to be assaulted by this sex offender. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Whether or not the legal system steps up for you, whether or not he is charged and convicted for the crime he committed against you, whether or not you get the justice that's owed you, the only thing you control is how you respond. An appropriate response will always be to seek out whatever help and support you need, without turning to self-destructive behaviours. You're worthy of so much more. Thank you for sharing your story and your all-important message with my visitors and me.

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Sep 17, 2011
I AM AMAZING: The Architect of my own Destiny
by: maurice

Hannah: You will be the winner over that 14 year old: He sure was starting off early in his life being violent to females: Sexually atacking you with force: He needs loads of help with loads of time in isolation to help him think about what he did to you and the little beast he is: You'll be fine Hannah: Darlene sure wrote a comment that will help you think positive: Be positive and act Positive in all you do and say about yourself and how you live your life to the full: I am amazing: The architect of my own destiny: Stay in education: Have a friend: Be a friend to each other especially in your own age and gender: Most important Hannah: You can talk the intimate talk with each other and share each others deep feelings on life and yourselves: I hope you have real support from your Family: Hannah: I believe that YOU having a healthy mind in a healthy body will help you to have real and natural friends with loads of aquaintances: So get out there taking part in TEAM sports: Sporting and Cultural Activities with your fellow students and like-minded friends: I am a firm believer this is the greatest respect young people and not so young can value and respect their bodies; You'll find it easire to trust too with your team mates and friends: He is only one sicko of a teenager: You be safe and stay safe: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: I will: I can: I must Hannah say because I am WORTH it. That you are: Remeber read Darlene's loving words to you from her woman's heart: Think about some form of counselling even with a school or college counsellor: I will: I can: etc etc Hannah

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