Relationship Violence Story From Violet

by Violet
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i have never hated anyone as much as i hate him. we hadnt been together that long (6 months) but im young (21) and i thought we were in love. we were both in uni and we were celebrating the end of the semester. i had to work early the next morning so i wasnt drinking, he was and he had had far too much to drink. however, he kept offerig me alcohol throughout the night and seemed disappointed when i had said no. given that he had been drinking, i offered to drive him home.


while we were driving we started arguing about why i chose to stay sober. this argument continued all the way back to his house. when we got there, i went to see him in because he was very drunk and i loved him and wanted to make sure he was alright.

as i made sure he was in bed and okay, he tried to kiss me. i wasnt so keen on the idea given that he was drunk and i was concerned about his wellbeing. he did not take that too well. given that he was angry i got up to leave except he was quicker. he grabbed me and dragged me back to the bed. as i tried to get up, he pushed me back down and in the process, punched me in the cheek. i tried to get away again, but he punched me again, this time on my forehead. after that i didnt try to fight back again. he raped me. eventually he stoped and fell asleep. so i took the opportunity to leave.

i was so upset at what happened but i still went to work the next day. i tried to keep to myself, but one of my closest friends at my work saw the bruise on my cheek and asked me what had happened. this friend was a rock throughout all of this horror.

the worst part was later in the day when he started calling me to find out where i was. i never once picked up the phone, but i listened to the voicemails he left. not once was he apologetic. he blamed me and tried say that it wasnt rape because we had had sex before. i have never spoken to him again, but this experience has made less trusting of everyone. i used to be the girl that went out of her way to help everyone, now im far too cautious to care about most people.

it's been 3 months since this happened, i still have a bump on my forehead from where he hit me. i have a feeling it is going to be there forever, as a lasting reminder of what happened.




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Oct 27, 2010
Violet:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

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Oct 29, 2010
A true friend is a real friend
by: maurice

Violet: Stay miles away from this brute of a man and uncontrolled sicko: You deserve the best but you must love and care for yourself: You are no idiot, great you got away immediately from his grasp of false love: Respect is the most important thing between two people building a friendship and a relationship: Trusting yourself with another takes time so for future reference please know better from this learning: A violent awakening for sure: Stoned out of his mind: Punching you and then raping you: Darlene as always is loving and caring but I would say very firm with you in her advice: Talk to someone: Get counselling: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: Get her message please: Take it to heart all she wrote to you in her comment: You are highly intelligent to have the courage and the bravery to find her site and write in detail what that beast did to you: Love is a two way contract, you were probably in love but your hidden agenda alcohol lover was notH He did not respect you, he wanted you to be drunk too so that he could then feel it okay to do to you: You sure cared for him on the night: driving the car, puttting him to bed, making sure he was okay: Then for the beast to do what he did: Get well away from him: Don't be fooled to think you still love him: He won't change: A true friend is a real friend: I am certain you have one or two: So lean on them to protect you and give you good loving advice: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Oh yes Violet: Change your ways: begin taking part with your friends and likeminded people in sporting and cultural activities: You'll know the difference in a short time: Especially if it is team sports: There is safety in numbers away from such violent beasts of the male species: Be gentle and kind to yourself:

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