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Relationship Violence Story From Violet
i have never hated anyone as much as i hate him. we hadnt been together that long (6 months) but im young (21) and i thought we were in love. we were both in uni and we were celebrating the end of the semester. i had to work early the next morning so i wasnt drinking, he was and he had had far too much to drink. however, he kept offerig me alcohol throughout the night and seemed disappointed when i had said no. given that he had been drinking, i offered to drive him home.
while we were driving we started arguing about why i chose to stay sober. this argument continued all the way back to his house. when we got there, i went to see him in because he was very drunk and i loved him and wanted to make sure he was alright.
as i made sure he was in bed and okay, he tried to kiss me. i wasnt so keen on the idea given that he was drunk and i was concerned about his wellbeing. he did not take that too well. given that he was angry i got up to leave except he was quicker. he grabbed me and dragged me back to the bed. as i tried to get up, he pushed me back down and in the process, punched me in the cheek. i tried to get away again, but he punched me again, this time on my forehead. after that i didnt try to fight back again. he raped me. eventually he
stoped and fell asleep. so i took the opportunity to leave.
i was so upset at what happened but i still went to work the next day. i tried to keep to myself, but one of my closest friends at my work saw the bruise on my cheek and asked me what had happened. this friend was a rock throughout all of this horror.
the worst part was later in the day when he started calling me to find out where i was. i never once picked up the phone, but i listened to the voicemails he left. not once was he apologetic. he blamed me and tried say that it wasnt rape because we had had sex before. i have never spoken to him again, but this experience has made less trusting of everyone. i used to be the girl that went out of her way to help everyone, now im far too cautious to care about most people.
it's been 3 months since this happened, i still have a bump on my forehead from where he hit me. i have a feeling it is going to be there forever, as a lasting reminder of what happened.
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