Relationship Violence Story From Byron Part 3

by Byron
(Location Undisclosed)

This is my third time writing on this site about the same problem. Me and my bf have been together for 3 1/2 going on 4, yes I'm a bisexual male. Well recently things haven't been going good for us. I've managed to move out my boyfriend house until I turned 18 and that decision made him really mad, but I had to focus on me get my head on right and worry about finishing high school. While I was living with my mom again I managed to get my license and a car and I'm on the track of graduating high school. Well one day me and my boyfriend got into a huge argument and he slapped me leaving a bruise on my cheek. So when I was hanging out with my friend S-- he saw my cheek and I lied to him. My boyfriend was looking for me after the argument and saw me with S-- so he hopped out his car and approached us and tried to snatch me by my arm and S-- grabbed me and told him to leave me alone and pick on someone his own size then they got into a fight. I tried to break it up but my boyfriend pushed me out the way like it was nothing my boyfriend beat S-- really bad and I tried to run to S-- but my boyfriend grabbed me and was shouting I'm his ni**a he can't have me I'm his property and started to stick his tongue down my throat and I managed to slip away from my boyfriend to go to S-- but he told me he didn't want anything to do with me I'm not his friend anymore I'm a fa***t and walked off. I slumped to the ground and started crying he was my only true friend and he was gone because my boyfriend. Later on my boyfriend started to get irritated that I wasn't living with him anymore and started to think maybe I could be cheating. So I moved back in with him. Then his cousin moved in, and trouble followed him right in. They were both in the same gang, his cousin knew we were dating but promised not to tell. Me and his cousin always got into to, he was always bullying me started problems with me, calling me ho*s and what not I'm not right for his cousin. When my boyfriend was gone he would always hit on me and tried to keep it on the low, I think that's why he always bullied me because he was scared I was going to tell. Well one day me, my boyfriend, and his cousin decided to go to a party and my bf wanted to drive my car and I said fine as long I'm driving and he started and argument there. Saying I'm not driving not to mention my own car but that I wouldnt go if I kept b******g so I said no and he snatched my keys from me and when we were on the freeway we were all smoking but him and his cousin started to drink and he was driving really fast scaring me and I told him to slow down and he said stop acting like a b**** so we finally arrived to the party and we were there for like 1hr and a 1/2 and he said he was ready to leave and I told him I wasn't so he walks to the car and I guess he expected me to be following him but I didn't. I was talking to realy nice guy and my bf comes storming back in the party and snatches me by my neck and practically drags me out the party. When we arrived to the house we got in a huge fight he pushed my face to the wall and my head hit it pretty hard then I tried to swing back and when I hit him he looked at me as if I didn't even phase him then he punched me in face and I fell to the ground noticing he busted my nose and ran to the bathroom and he took my keys and left. e aren't always fighting we do have fun too, I'm not trying to make him out as a bird person I just want to share my story. But one day his cousin started something terrible I didn't forget to this day. I was at school one day and this boy that really liked me kissed me and I pushed him off and his cousin saw that was the day he picked me up from school so we was silent the whole ride home then one day he set me up I was told to go to the store to get sum swishers and cigarettes and while I was gone his cousin told him I kissed another guy at my school. So when I got back he was waiting for me at the door. He asked me what happened at school and I told him nothing so he punched me face really hard and he said I'm gonna say this again what happened at school and I said I swear I don't know what your talking about and he punched me again. So he said keep lieing and he's going to beat the s**t outa me and I told him some boy kisse me at school and he got mad on a level I've never seen before and he snatched me by my hair and threw me in the room on the corner off the floor and started kicking me punching me throwing me around and shouted why I didn'tteltell him and I told him I was scared too because of how he would react. Then he picked me up and started to choke me and I swear I thought I was going to die he let me go before the last second before I passed out I flt myself going unconscious he started whaling on me again kicking me in the face my ribs whatever was open. His cousin set me up, but for what just to sere me get beat. Pathetic. I remember he caught me cutting myself and he nearly killed me. He tells me I can't smoke cigs only weed but yet him and his cousin smoke them in front of me all the time. When he gets drunk I keep my distance out of discomfort and I'm scared. My boyfriend want to move back to his hometown New York Brooklyn with me and his cousin. I'm really scared to for one the beatings haven't let up, his cousin and I has so much tension you can cut it with a knife and last I'm not going to have any family out there no support no friends no one to talk to no nothing. But I'm 18 now so I guess I got decisions to make cruel world Smh.





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May 03, 2013
Byron:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You deserve better in your life. You are living your life believing that you don't deserve better, that it's better to have someone in your life —even an abusive partner—that it is to be alone. But the fact is you ARE alone. You aren't in a healthy relationship. And things will continue to worsen if you stay with this abuser. The violence will escalate and become much more frequent. You are not destined to stay in this relationship. But you must choose something better for yourself, you must first get to the point where you realize that you are worthy of dignity and respect and love. Real love. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

As always, I send you love, light and healing energy, Byron. Thank you for sharing more of your story with my visitors and me.

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