Relationship Violence Story From Frances

by Frances
(Texas, USA)

You think you know someone: 
It was August 2009. I was in a good place in my life. Me and my then 6 yr old daughter were great. Then I met HIM. The man that would become the love of my life and the man I would always want. He was great. Responsible, hard working, family oriented. He was everything I wanted for a mate. It wasnt long before he consumed my life. Before I knew it I was being physically abused and my baby was emotionally abused by this man. He alienated her away from me. The relationship lasted 2 years. In this time we had a child together whom he physically abused. The last straw was when he fractured my jaw, broke my nose, and kicked my newborns car seat while she was in it. Its been a year since hes been gone. I lost everything I worked so hard for and me and my oldest daughter have no relationship at all and I never saw it until he left and my family started telling what they saw. I have my now 9 yr old in counseling and she takes medication for ADHD and depression and are working on becoming closer but its hard. Im trying to cope with what I feel I put her through by bringing this person into our lives. I have alot of guilt and feel like a fool for not seeing what was going on for myself. Its been a year and a half and we are slowly mending me and my babies. My 9 yr old wants me to go to therapy for what Ive been thru but I dont know.

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Dec 26, 2012
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your 9-year-old is very bright and insightful to see that you need some form of therapy or counselling. The best gift you can give your children is to treat their mother with dignity and respect and love, and to be very healthy for them. That's starts with YOU. As long as you keep beating your Self up for the mistakes you made with that abuser, you will not be fully present for your children. Don't keep punishing your Self for the choices you made. Get the help you need in order for you to understand how you made such choices, and then ultimately learn to made healthier choices. We all make mistakes; if all of us condemned our Selves to life sentences because of those mistakes, we'd ALL be living in self-imposed prisons. I don't even want to imagine a world like that. Take your daughter's advice: get the help you need, for your sake and for your children's. I send you love, light and healing energy, Frances. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Dec 27, 2012
right now i got people stealing my money an husbands my real marriage ok real retirement
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From Darlene - Webmaster: Frances, and my other visitors to this thread, I've deleted 3 separate comments from this particular commenter who leaves posts that are judgmental and wholly inappropriate. I cannot block her, but I'll continue to delete her comments before they ever go live on the site.

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