Child Abuse Story From Anon For My Best Friend

by Anon
(Location Withheld)

My best friend is 13 and she has gone through a lot. Recently I haven't been spending much time with her, and she came up to me and told me that she is being abused by her parents saying crazy things like, "My mum just tried to drown me in the bath" or "I was hit on the head with a weighing scale" but I don't know whether to believe her.

I have looked up online that children are making up stories about their parents hitting them, and I feel sorry for those people who have to make things up to get friendship.

I want to believe her but it's happened once already to me and I don't know if I can handle it. I try to support her but as I help her she tells me more crazy stories and I'm scared.

I just want to know whether she is telling the truth, but I don't know whether to tell her to tell an adult or if I should keep it a secret. I keep asking myself what if it's not real, and then I don't know what I will do.

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Sep 06, 2009
Try not to judge...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your friend is quite likely telling the truth, but even if she isn't, it's not up to you to make that determination. If your best friend is 13, that likely makes you old enough to report abuse yourself. But if you are having trouble with this, then speak to an adult for some support, an adult who can help you and thus help your friend. Your job is not to judge whether or not what she is telling you is real; your job as her friend is to believe her, as crazy as her "stories" may sound. You want your friend to be safe, so you must tell and get her some help. It is up to Child Protective Services to make a determination. I suggest you check out my page titled Child Abuse Intervention here on the site for some information about intervention. Thank you for sharing yours and your friend's story with my visitors and me.

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Sep 07, 2009
For my best friend: That she is and no more
by: maurice

Anon, you care enough to write your doubts about whether or not your best friend is telling you the truth. You call her the best which means you have built up a trust with each other over a time. Anon, I am not going to add to the assuring words of Darlene to you. All I will say is talk to your Older closest of friends, maybe an adult whom you have faith in or indeed a school counsellor in confidence. As she is your best friend, I've no doubt you want to cherish her as such and make her safe from abuse. Keep believeing her and the truth will come to the top for both of you. Darlene's words Anon I would encourage you to think about and also to act on because she is your best friend. You care, your concerned, You sure want your best friend to trust herself and you in what she tells you. True friendship is built on trust and respect for each other.I hope your friend is not being abused but there maybe some level of it if she is telling you. Be brave and strong for each other. Great you expressed your feelings on Darlene's site. Her words are a great help to you.

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