Incest runs rampant in my family

by Bonnie
(Toledo, Ohio, USA)

I come from a sexual child abuse family. None of it ever happened to me, but my brothers and sisters got it. My father would beat and sexually abuse my brothers and sisters. He would make them do things with each other. He would make them do things to him. My mom never did anything. She would leave and go back, leave and go back. My sisters would run away. The cops would bring them back. This shit happened over 35 years ago.

My dad was molested by his mother, along with 9 sisters and 4 brothers. My mom, she was molested by her mother's boyfriends and her 6 brothers. None of them ever even went to jail. Never once were they in trouble.

I still don't know how my mother stayed with my father. I would have killed him if it were me. My father raped my sister, and what did my mother do? She slapped her in the face and screamed, "Why you messing around with my husband?"

Get this...about 5 years ago, my mom left my dad because he was chasing some 21-year-old girl around. She divorced his ass over some girl, but wouldn't leave him for her own kids! She makes me sick. Now they are back together.

We just found out last November that my little brother was molesting my nieces, even having sex with one of them. He is now in prison for the next 28 years of his life. He will be an old man when he gets out. I look at it as he's paying for all the sins of this long line of family history. I just hope now that all the men in this family now know they'd better keep their hands to themselves or they will go to prison. My sisters aren't weak like my mother. They put their own flesh and blood away for touching their kids. I'm proud of them.



So to all of you who have been touched, who have been raped, don't keep your mouth shut. My brother got away with messing with them girls for 12 years. He started on them when they were 3 years old. You tell. You run and you tell. Get them nasty people off the streets before they do it to someone else, because it's just a matter of time before they end up hurting someone else.

Note from Darlene to Bonnie: I moved your post to this page from Jessica's child abuse story comment page, a page reserved for comments directly to Jessica. I'm sure you understand.

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Mar 13, 2008
Remember, BOTH men and women in your family were offenders
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your message is an important one. Thank you for reinforcing that message for my visitors. Just don't forget that it wasn't just the men in your family who were molesters; there were women in your family who molested as well. So don't just be watchful of the men.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 05, 2009
My brother
by: Anonymous

Yes, My brother molested both me and my sister as very young girls. I am middle age how and it is still hard to live with. I question him about it and he walk away from me more like ran away from me. It has been two years and I have never heard from him. Although he has worked for Birmingham, Al. and Midfield police departments. He thinks after all the years he owes nobody nothing.

Younger sister

From Darlene: I completely understand your need to name your abuser and to yell it from the rooftops, Anonymous. I only wish I could give you (and my other visitors) this opportunity without concern for reprisals, but the fact is, allowing full names of abusers to be printed on this site when there has been no conviction or even charges laid puts my integrity and what I do on this site at risk. I have therefore removed the name of your brother in your comments above. Please understand that doing so was in no way intended to invalidate what he did to you or the lifelong pain he has caused you. I hear your pain, I really and truly do.

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