Child Abuse - Spinning in Circles in the System

by Name Undisclosed
(Location Undisclosed)

My son is 4 years old. We have been through 4 children's services investigations and nothing has been done. He still has to visit his father. I have many notebooks of documentation. This is his 3rd counselor. The first one didn't report a disclosure so I did. (nothing was done) the second one said she couldn't help because of his age. He has disclosed to the current one. She reported it but then seems to be downplaying the seriousness of it. He will be spending a week with him the week after next. The case worker and counselor tell me he hasn't told them anything concrete when he has told specifics. Also, I have it on tape. I have asked for a support group of women who may be going through the same thing but have not received any support. It is hard to see my child act out these behaviors and tell me things on a daily basis and my hands are tied to help him. It is so unfair. I would like to hear from someone who had a breakthrough in this vicious cycle of no help for my child. I would hate to think I have to live like this for the next 10 to 12 years.





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Jan 10, 2011
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I can't even begin to know how you feel. The system certainly doesn't seem to be working for your son. One of the challenges you face is being accused of trying to deny access to your son's father without cause, even with the documentation. Child protection agencies are often more concerned about what they perceive as custody issues between parents than they are about protecting the children involved. You didn't identify where you live; but if you're in either Canada or the USA, try escalating the report to someone higher up in the child services organization. Consider escalating to your local member of parliament (Canada) or congressional representative (USA). Perhaps another visitor on my site can offer more in the way of concrete advice or suggestions. Stay vigilant for both you and your son. Thank you for sharing this with with my visitors and me.

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Jan 11, 2011
My thoughts are with you both; You are a good Mother
by: maurice

Sadly there is no perfect solution to any form of protection to safeguard children: We think irt is great to set up legislation for the rights of children when we know the present system is so inadequate in valueing and respecting your child: When you a genuine Mother seeks help to protect him and being sidelined with red tape at each turn: My heart goes out to you and your child: Be brave: Be strong: Be persevering in making sure you child is safe and protected: Darlene has given you love and support and some pratical advice on what to keep doing: You are a good and great Mother: Keep being strong for both you and your child:

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