Domestic Violence and Child Abuse

by Tania
(Perth, Australia)

Domestic violence-child scared-access rights: 
I was in a domestic violent relationship for a period of quite a few years until the police were called out to my property and he was arrested. I am in the process of going through family courts, because the abuser is wanting access to his little boy who is now six. The child has refused to see his father at a supervised contact centre, 3 times. This has gone back to the court and they have put the supervised visits on temporary suspension until a single expert witness is involved. My poor son doesnt want anything to do with his father, because of what he has witnessed, and seen over the years. Yet he still has to be interviewed again by someone else he doesnt even know, to tell them again he doesnt want to see his dad, when will this all stop? The horrible thing is, is that even after he has been found guilty of domestic violence, he still has access rights, and the poor child just cant understand why he has to see his dad, when he is scared of him. What do I do? I am spending all of this money for lawyers for what, so an abuser can be supervised for awhile and put on an act in front of them until he gets unsupervised visits, what a joke that is, why so many kids are continuously abused, and the family courts are to blame for this and their new law about fathers have rights no matter how bad the abuse.

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Apr 04, 2010
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your son's story with my visitors and me. I can only hope the courts really DO what's in the best interest of the child.

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Apr 05, 2010
Ck. with local advocay agencies for advice
by: Mac

Recovery is not an easy path but one with new hope, freedom, & happiness. Ck. with local advacy programs for legal advice to help you & your son. Keep supporting your son, as he has the right to being heard,&the right to not see his father, as his physical, mental & spiritual self is at risk & vulnerable.
Things are better for survivors, but the system still has along way to go.but progress takes time, innocent voices are finally being heard, and changes are being made to help protect those innocent ones.If you get yourself & your son in an advacy shelter,being there may be a more protected enviornment,& that could help him with issues of visitation,etc. Proud of you for getting both of u out of that situation, & for sticking by your childs side.Conintue to do so. Ck. this sites resource links for help too. Remember both of you are not alone, & your in our thoughts & prayers. Keep the faith!

Apr 08, 2010
The Law is an ass: most of the time:
by: maurice

It is hard to believe it 2010 that your child right's are not taken into account. His fears: his little gut feelings being once he is close to that bad man Called his Father: I only hope and pray the Courts see common sense and the natural request of this little boy. That is the awful predicament you as his loving caring mother find yourself in: Paying out your well earned money to fight for your child rights: There should be a neutral group of Lawyers free to fight for your rights and that of your child: I hope you will Be successful for the sake of your child. My thoughts are with you.

Jan 06, 2012
suffering the same
by: Anonymous

I am responding to your post, i to am going through the exact same thing, I have three daughters and a son (my son is currenty excluded as he is newborn) My eldest daughter has been showing signs of trauma her two younger sisters forced to see a man who they are fearful of but to young to express there feelings one of them only speaking her first few words it stinks how the courts respond to this sort of behaviour in fathers - My ex is abusive has alcohol and drug issues and has a long history of suicidal intentions and mental health, psycotic episodes and hospitalization and he still gets to walk away with my children for visitation it is very scarey and it prooves even after women take the strength they have and walk away from an abusive relationship they are then given more trauma of watching their children have to go with a man who is a danger to everyone who crosses his path. I really hope that changes can be made to stop this from happening. Stay strong for your children and for yourself as i am trying to do with every bit of strength i have left in me.

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