Friends are witnesses who can help stop child abuse

by Patricia S
(Palm Springs, California, USA)

The abused have to leave the abuser in order to stop being abused. The abused are controlled, manipulated, and afraid that no one will believe them. I know first hand physical abuse by my own mother. I was afraid. Later, I married an abusive man, and I had 2 children. He was jealous, overpowering, controlling and abusive.


Now I have grandbabies that I'm concerned about because I know they are trapped in abuse by their own father while my daughter participates. Neither knows the difference between discipline and abuse.

Okay, these are three incidents. In each incident, I was not allowed friends and neither are my grandbabies. WHY? Because friends can be used as witnesses. Abusers don't want that, so they take precautions and protect their abusive environment from friends. In my opinion and experience, friends are an enemy to any abuser.

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Apr 18, 2008
Friends as enemies to abusers...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When abusers do not allow their children (or spouses or dating partners) to have friends, or do not allow them to communicate with their families, thereby isolating them, it is a huge red flag.

To ALL My Visitors: If you know or suspect child abuse is taking place, contact the appropriate child protection agencies. You could be saving the life of a child.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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