Child on Child Sexual Intrusiveness in Daycare Facility

by Kat
(Manitoba, Canada)

My grandson attended a daycare. When he began he was still in diapers. He started having nightmares about a particular boy. He then said that this boy had touched his private parts. We contacted the daycare and first they did not believe the story. They then pulled the boy aside and asked him if he had been abused. He responded no to both touching my grandson and of having himself been abused. I called child and family services and they said because the older boy was 7 and my grandson was 2 that it was simply childhood curiosity. He still says very inappropriate things and acts like he knows more about sex than he should at this age. He has been pulled from the daycare and will be home cared from this point on. You try to protect your kids, you try to trust people and form relationships but this kind of thing is so common. I am broken hearted for my boy.

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Dec 13, 2011
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The situation is a very difficult one when dealing with a sexually intrusive child. I don't know enough about the circumstances to comment one way or anther as to whether or not the case was childhood curiosity. However, when there is a 5-year difference in age, especially when the younger child is a toddler, the red flags are waving very strongly. One can only hope the 7-year-old boy is getting the help he needs to ensure the sexual intrusiveness stops. As for your son, keep his routine normal. If you notice behaviours that are disturbing, first and foremost stay calm. This is important so as not to upset your child. His ability to read you and your body language could cause more damage than you might imagine. Get him the help he needs if there are disturbing behaviours or if there are changes to his eating, sleeping or playing habits. He might not show any outward behavioral problems, just keep an eye out. If he starts being sexually intrusive himself, ensure he gets the right kind of help; someone with experience dealing with such sexual cases. I send you and your son love, light and positive energy, Kat. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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