Defending Sexually Abused Children

by Bongo
(USA)

Defending my child sexual abuse (CSA) children...EXCRUCIATING BATTLE! 
Oh, I'm so angry. I reported a male family member for child sexual abuse. The CSA went unreported in my family...now it is spreading to a new generation. I WON'T HAVE IT! DO YOU HEAR ME?! I WON'T HAVE IT SPREADING TO ANOTHER GENERATION. I AM SCREAMING THIS FROM THE ROOFTOPS!


I can't understand how these people (family) can stand by and watch it happen again. Since reporting the CSA to the authorities, I have experienced relentless attacks from the family. The one sister that is most adamant that the CSA didn't happen has a daughter who decapitates her dolls and has ropes hanging from her ceiling fans to hang her brothers (this isn't normal!).

Anyway, I'm NOT retracting...these are just some of the astounding (read DISGUSTING) abuse stories in the family. I WILL NOT BE SILENT AGAIN!

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Jan 16, 2009
Screaming from the rooftops...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I commend you for not allowing this inter-generational child abuse to continue. Too many would have walked away, defeated or demoralized. The children need someone like you to stand up for them, because they don't have much of a chance on their own.

Thank you for sharing with my visitors and me, and for refusing to stay silent.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 19, 2009
I feel the same way too
by: Anonymous

My own child was also a victim of sexual abuse by a family member. it started when she was just 11 years of age and lasted for about a year when she finally broke her silence recently. it was really a heartbreaking moment and for a mother not able to protect her child at that time...i have reported the matter to the authority, arrested him and put him behind bars awaiting trial. i am too, is facing pressure from some family members to just let him go and drop the case. but how could i let this monster get away for what he has done to my innocent child. it is my obligation as a mother to fight and defend my child and i will not keep silent or vow to pressures from anybody even if they disown me.

Jan 19, 2009
To Anonymous re: I feel the same way too
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Stay strong with your convictions. Your daughter needs you, and you are definitely going about things in the right way. Family does not have the right to even suggest what your family wants you to do. Shame on them!

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 16, 2009
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by: John Noel

***Comment deleted by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster***

Note from Darlene: John, it's been almost a week since I asked for more details. If you can provide me with some verifiable proof (as I stated in my comment below), then I will reconsider posting your comment here.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir



Apr 16, 2009
To John N. who has left a comment that I have not yet posted:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Joel, I'm so sorry to learn of your situation.

Regarding your as yet un-posted comment, I would not be operating this site in a responsible manner if I were to allow the post without verification. Under the circumstances, I can only post a person's full name if you can provide me with some verifiable information about this man either being charged or even being questioned in relation to this crime. I understand your frustration and that you are trying to get justice for your daughter...perhaps you can send me an online news story (with the URL of where to find it) from a reputable source; otherwise, liability laws prevents me from publishing his full name. I trust you understand the position I'm in.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir



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