Trauma is not Always Intentional

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Unintentional or misguided actions that cause trauma: I saw a comment by another poster about female perpetrators and I was wondering. You know we categorise much abuse as deliberate and often sex or power related. I think maybe the sex driven is often more a male thing and maybe the female is perhaps a power thing.

Anyway what I really wanted to write about is what about well-intended actions that result in trauma or that in the cold light of day with the passing of time and the change of attitudes could be considered abuse.

Like the parent who demands perfection from their child or pushes their child to perform academically or in sport or dance or drama. Or a parent who perceives a problem or weakness with their child and out of their best intentions to fix the child cause trauma. These days for example if a child has too much energy in class then they are off to the doctor to be prescribed medication. In days of old other methods may have been used to control behaviour. Well-intentioned I mean but still to the child they cause stress and resentment perhaps.

Anyway I do not want to distract right now with my past memories as everyone's past is different.

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