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Apr 11, 2014
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

There is a lot more to female perpetrators than those who are male. Power is a factor, perhaps more so than males. It's a tough call since there isn't a lot of studies in that area. Sex is also a factor, but preference is much more complicated than that of males. Control must also be factored in.

As for the well-intentioned but misguided parent that causes trauma, the fact is, parents are not perfect. They are human, and as such, make very human mistakes. Most don't set out to cause trauma, but sometimes they do. There are few parents who don't, in hindsight, have regrets over the way they raised their children. Especially when they see that they are the cause of a great deal of pain. When parents know better, they do better. The key for the child to heal often lies in understanding. Not at the expense of denying the pain that is very real. That must first be felt and released. But when we understand from where our parents came, what they intended, then forgiveness is abound. And it's through forgiveness that the deepest healing can begin. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on these issues with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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