Potential Child Abuse

by Zoe
(California, USA)

I recently became involved and dating with a man who has his daughter (18) living with him. A neighborhood girl Under 14 frequents the home and visits with the daughter. ( Sleeps over ,etc.)


Often the girl (neighbor) is at the home when the daughter is not home. I do not agree with this as it's the man and the under age girl alone. It simply does not look good.

Also, he has been late to visiting me because he is spending time with the girl.

A couple of weeks ago I stopped by he was laying in his bathrobe (obviously naked underneath) on the sofa and she came out of the daughter's bedroom. They were the only ones home. The girl also uses his cell phone and stores her own photos and numbers on the phone.

I expressed by unhappiness with this and told him out of respect for me he should of had clothes on. Also, that he not let the girl use the phone. He disagreed stating that it was his home and he could wear whatever he wanted.

I am now distancing myself and this could have been a potentially good relationship.




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Feb 17, 2012
Zoe:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Follow your gut. Don't just "distance" your Self from this guy. What you've seen is clearly signs of at the very least wholly inappropriate behaviour from this guy. My red flags of concern are waving at full mast! Report your suspicions to the authorities. Do it now! Even if there is no sexual abuse going on, this young teenage girl needs the help of a clear-thinking adult. It's best to err on the side of caution than to let this girl possibly go one more day in an abusive situation. Contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you witnessed. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Do the right thing, Zoe. Report him, and don't deny what you believe him to be. Your internal voice is trying to tell you something. Thank you for sharing this with my visitors and me. I send you and this 14-year-old girl love, light and healing energy.

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