Adults Must Properly Supervise Children

by Anne
(Ontario, Canada)

I was in elementary school, and there was a closed off space in the library. The closed off space was a pretend house that was made out of book cases. It was a really cool place to be. We had reading buddies. I was in grade one. The reading buddies were grade fives. When you are in grade one, grade fives look like twenty-year-old people. The group of reading buddies was mostly guys with a girl. I was sitting across from this guy inside the house. The guy started asking me questions about anatomy and I had to identify body parts. Explicitly. I had to do this silently because I didn't know what to say. This made me feel very uncomfortable and very ashamed of myself. I felt so ashamed because it made me feel so dirty. I felt dirty telling this stuff to my mom and I remember crying when I told her. I talked to the grade fives later on and I told them how it made me feel, but there was no adult around for this and I felt that this was an inadequate accomplishment. I have felt so bad and I did not like this at all and I did not like how it was handled.


I have never told anyone about this. This has impacted me today as an adult. I have serious issues with sexuality and men and dating and shame and stuff like that. I hope that no child ever has to experience this and that there will always be a sane adult watching over children to protect them, because this kind of stuff is unacceptable. I wish I could turn back the clock on this one.

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Jan 01, 2008
Underlying issues...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I believe there are other core issues here, Anne, more than what you were able to share in this commentary. I urge you to seek out a counsellor, someone who can help you deal with the emotional impact this, as well as possibly other situations, caused you.

And yes, I agree with you; children MUST be well supervised, AT ALL TIMES. To not supervise adequately is to be neglectful, and can cause long term serious consequences for children that will follow them well into adulthood.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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