State Laws Sanction Physical Assault Against Children

by Dirk
(Atlanta, Georgia, USA)

I have been reading some of the blogs on your site. It is unbelievable what adults are capable of doing. I have a 13 year old daughter that has a mother that is very mentally abusive. As we have been divorced for ten years, I have always been concerned about my daughter's welfare. Recently, they had a dispute and my Ex slapped my daughter's face multiple times. When my daughter tried to get away from the situation, she was yanked by her hair back in. It was reported to DFCS. They did nothing. The Police even got into the situation a day later, and told my Ex and my daughter that in the state of Georgia it's perfectly OK for this type of punishment. It's unbelievable that in the U.S. that this type of child abuse is acceptable. I have hired an attorney to sue for custody.


I know this case is nothing as terrible as some of the posts on this site, but this has got to STOP. I'm determined to contact my local representative to find out why a parent can strike a child and it be OK, but if it was 2 adults, it's a criminal offense. There seems to be no justice in today's world.

Thank You for allowing me to send this to you.

Dirk

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Dec 12, 2007
Legislated child abuse . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

I share in your outrage, Dirk. What you describe is nothing short of legalized child abuse. The state of Georgia does not have a very good track record when it comes to issues of child abuse. I sincerely hope your state representative will work toward a system that does not permit assaults against children. Please keep my visitors and me updated on this disturbing matter.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Dec 12, 2007
Laws aren't for the Kids (Original posting Dec 10/07)
by: LLS from Buffalo

Hi Dirk,
As an abused child I was always afraid to tell. Not just because I was threatened with punishment, but because of the system and how it handles things. Many kids, right now, are keeping quiet because they know they will be sent back to a situation and be punished moreso for having told on their abusers. It happened to me. The system says the best place for the child is always with the parents. So even when they order counseling when the kid is away from them or not, It is my firm belief that those parents are going through the motions just to get their kids back. When they do, they often tell the kid how naughty they were for putting mommy or daddy through that kind of pain (counseling) That kind of crap goes on and on and on. I know this is true. Sometimes kids will get the hang of it and video tape or arrange to live with another family before they report the abuse and stack the case against their abusers. It's rare, but kids have to be really smart to get out from under these messes. Counseling in school is an excellent thing to recommend to your daughter. It will encourage her to go, talk, and tell. Good luck.

Dec 12, 2007
Your ex must be crazy!(Original posting Dec 10/07)
by: Francine

Dirk, I'm so sorry about what happened to your daughter. You might want to try some counselling (so does your daughter). You ight also want to keep fighting for your daughter. When you'll go to the court, you might want to consider telling the judge that your ex abused your daughter and that the police didn't care. Good thing you hired an attorney to sue your ex-wife for your custody of your daughter because your attorney might not allow your ex to keep your daughter any longer.

Dec 12, 2007
Darlene: (Original posting Dec 11/07)
by: Dirk

Thank you for putting my story out there for others to see. I am going to do my best to help others who may be in this and worse situation. Today I have sent emails directly to the Governor and State Representatives. Im curious to know how they may respond. I will not let it lie here even after I receive custody of my daughter.

I plan to work hard on pushing towards new laws in the state of Georgia especially because they are very vague. My politcal values usually dont fall in postion of greater government control of personal values but this is a definet area of need. I will keep you and your web visitors up to date with my achievements.

Thank you again and God Bless.

Dirk

Jan 23, 2008
Haven't heard from you in a while
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I was wondering whether or not the Governor and State Representatives replied back to your emails?

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 08, 2008
Sorry been gone so long!
by: Anonymous

Darlene-

Sorry I havent been here for a while as I now have custody of my daughter and has been quite an experience. I havent had much of a chance you having my daughter around full and trying to spend as much time as possible with her.

I never got any reply for the seven emails I sent. They were to my state reprentatives and the federal congressman and senators for my area. Also the governors office had no reply. Its a shame that none of these people even care about the law. Americans only concern is who can get the most money and it has alot to due with what politians are willing to work on! Forget the people that put you there. Im not giving but have not pursued any more. You wil hear more from me in the future.

Mar 18, 2009
Failure with the System
by: Anonymous

Dirk, I am dealing with a very similar situation with my son and granddaughter. Granddaughter is 17. They have been away from the abuser for approximately 18 months. Our teenager is exhibiting inappropriate behavior both at home and at school. She has evolved from a sweet, gentle compliant person to very unpleasant and difficult. She was verbally and physically abused for years and years. In our case, the Child Protective Services got involved and just wrote it off as a child acting out and causing the mother anguish and loss of her temper. My gut feeling is that there is so much resentment, bitterness and anger that has built up for so many years, that she has become calloused and has lost site of the person she once was. She also has been disappointed in the system turning things around to make her look like the culprit. She has been in counseling but currently is not. Since I am not a legal guardian, I am very limited in what I can do to help, except be a listening post and give her a quiet and safe place to live. My question to you is, has your daughter shown any of these symptoms? I hope she hasn't, but would like to hear any comments you might have.

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