Child Abuse Story From Libby For My Friend

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Child Abuse Story From Libby For My Friend

by Libby
(United Kingdom )

I have never been abused, nothing bad as ever happend to me, but I have a friend and for a short amount of time she was being emotioaly abused. I do not wish to say her name, as she is now again happy; however I feel that I need to tell someone as I have been worried about her since then. Now let me remind you that this only lasted a weekend, and my friend is perfectly happy now.

She came to me one morning, scared out of her wits, she was worried about her step-dad. As all weekend he had been drinking away their money (as she put it) and whenever he was drink he would shout at her call her such horrid things that she could only mutter a few. He told her she was a wasted of human blood, a waste of time, she was unbelieveable hurt, as any one would be. Yet this led to her not wanting to be alone with him even when sober, he of course said sorry the moment he had remembered what he'd said,(or his wife reminded him). So one day she went down to her friends house, but of course someone had to pick her up, and it turned out to be her dad. The fact was he didn't crash but he smelled quite strongly of alcohol, such as she was having these awful images in her head, and she just was living in fear that they were going to crash, thankfully they didn't but her step-dad noticed her eyes were closed the whole drive home. Also she had been muttering what her mind could see happening though of course it never happend he saw the fear in he eyes when they finally got home. And he realised what he'd done and he swore to her that he would never abuse her emotions again,and he has stuck to this promise to this day and, well now she feels safe again

But she still lived in terror for a week still highly shaken, and I help her through. But all the time I never let on that I was appalled, by the way her mum stood by and let that happen, she told me shortly afterwards, was appalled with herself, and wished she could turn back time. She still regrets what she did but at least they are all happy now, but if anything ever happeneds to her again I will be the first to know. Though I'm pretty sure its stopped now.
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Apr 29, 2011

Libby:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You're a very good friend. It sounds as though your friend's stepfather has an alcohol problem, and when he's been drinking he takes his anger out on your her. And though it's possible he's now dealing with this problem, alcohol addiction recovery often ends up in relapse. So if your friend once again finds herself in an unsafe environment with him, encourage her to disclose to the proper authorities. You could be saving her life by doing so. Make sure she knows that she's worthy of dignity and respect, and that she's not the nasty things he calls her; those are all lies. And then make sure that you have a support system to lean on yourself, because it can be very distressing to learn that a friend is having such difficulties. You want to make sure you take good care of yourself. Check out my child abuse intervention page for more information on intervention. Thank you for sharing your friend's story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Apr 29, 2011

Libby
by: Mrs.R

Hallo Libby, like Darlene I also agree that you are a good friend and person. It must have been very hard on you to see you friend suffering like she was. The little niggle that I have is was this the first time? Yes it sounds like her father has a problem and usually problems such as those generally are not acute they develop over time. I hope for your friends sake that she is not repressing previous episodes.
I encourage you that if you begin to notice any changes in your friend like mood swings, eating problems, feelings of sadness and or withdrawal that you try to get her to speak with a professional. Sometimes abuse of any kind can come back and bite you so to speak.
I wish you and your friend a healthy happy peaceful future:)

Apr 30, 2011

Friends like you have Friends like your Friend
by: maurice

I value having true and real friends: I have just three that know me and I know them we are friends Libby how lucky your friend is to have you to share her feelings and the pain of being emotionally abused, made feel as if she has no worth by an alcoholic step-father: You sure received loving, caring concerned words from Darlene: Affirming you as the best friend someone could be blessed to have: Please value and respect the intteligence, the courage, her giftedness, her tallents: help her to stay in education: Between ye have healthy minds in healthy bodies: Libby this may mean you and her taking part with your own age and gender in team sports, sporting and cultural activities: This is one sure way to make natural and real friends and have many aquaintances like-minded to cheer you up when ye meet: Libby you are the best: Who am I? I AM THE BEST:I hope you have a friend other than your friend to talk things through with who will be a support to you in all you are doing for your friend:

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