My story of abuse: From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Have you been through abuse? If so, that makes you a survivor. But that doesn't mean you haven't been stricken with effects. Chances are, you've got more than your fair share of troublesome effects.
Those of us who survived child abuse know only too well how challenging it is to get past the effects and take back the control that was so cruelly stolen from us.
I wrote my story of abuse in order to show you how I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and got on with my life. My story of survival will take you on a journey of triumph and irrepressible spirit and show you how you too can go from victim to victory.
Marketer, coach and entrepreneur, Manitoba, Canada
I assure you, you are not alone. I know this because so many of you have shared so bravely with me and with the visitors of this site what you endured as a child.
Some of you have endured unspeakable crimes committed against you. Many of you have disclosed here what you've never before felt safe to reveal.
Every one of you has shown remarkable courage in the face of the residual effects that abuse has had on you.
British Columbia, Canada
British Columbia, Canada
Kamloops This Week
Youth Care Worker, British Columbia, Canada
So many of us—way too many of us—have endured abuse by the very people in charge of protecting us and keeping us safe from harm. So often, those are the very people who hurt and harmed us the most. They are the ones who left us with the devastating, often lifelong effects of child abuse. We trusted them because we HAD to trust them.
We were left feeling alone, betrayed, abandoned, worthless, even unlovable. And worst of all, we were helpless. But we are NOT helpless anymore!
2004 Writer's Digest International Self-Published Book Awards
British Columbia, Canada
I'm here to tell you that you are NOT worthless. That you are NOT unlovable. And that it IS possible to find who You Really Are.
Regardless of the pain you have suffered—and possibly continue to suffer—it IS possible to turn pain into power, and to use that power for your benefit and the benefit of others. That is the premise of this website.
Some of you already know that I lived through some pretty horrific abuse at the hands of both my mother and father. Not as horrific as some, perhaps more horrific than others; but I won't minimize what I lived through. It was hell, pure and simple. I was overwhelmingly affected; and in my view, that is the measure of hell.
¤ I hated my mother
¤ I hated myself
¤ I started smoking to "fit in"
¤ I tried to commit suicide to get out of pain
¤ I started skipping school, and my grades plummeted
¤ I ran away, and ended up in detention
¤ I started hanging with older men and was promiscuous
¤ I got pregnant, and then terminated it
¤ I quit school at 16
¤ I used food for comfort and solace
¤ I ballooned to over 300 pounds as food became my fix
¤ Then food became poison
¤ I wouldn't feed myself, except when I absolutely had to
¤ I had few friends
¤ I had fewer relationships
¤ Terrified I would do to my children what my mother did to me...
¤ I had my tubes tied before I could ever have children
Kamloops Daily News
Attorney, Alberta, Canada
I wrote my story because I want my victories to shine through. Not just my memories, but the victories, great and small, that I achieved along my own path of healing and recovery.
I want other survivors who are wracked with guilt and shame to know that it wasn't their fault. And that I understand why they might still believe it was their fault. You see, I too went through those terrible feelings. I too believed I was to blame because I believed the lies I had been told. But I got help. And with that help, along with a shift in mindset, I was able to let go of all the lies I had come to believe.
I want other survivors who are desperately trying to cope with feelings of hopelessness and despair to know that they're not alone; I too was stricken with those same hopeless thoughts, even suicidal thoughts. And I found Who I Really Am when I got the help I needed. I want other survivors to know there IS hope. Real hope. I'm a testament to that hope.
Student, Camosun College, British Columbia, Canada
I want you to believe in yourself.
You ARE worthy.
You ARE lovable.
You ARE deserving of dignity and respect.
You DO have purpose.
The world IS a better place because you're here.
No one believes that more than I do.
You CAN turn pain into power.
I believe it.
Now it's your turn to believe it.
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Mar 28, 17 12:43 PM
To ALL who took the time to fill in my quiz about what they would want addressed in a confrontation with an abuser, I very much appreciate the input.
Mar 28, 17 08:54 AM
I previously submitted my own story but this concerns my son. Although in his 30's now, my son suffered mental and physical abuse at the hands of his father
Mar 27, 17 10:23 PM
I'm 25 years old. My sexual abuse started at the age of 4 and continued til the age of 11. My abuser is someone I would've thought I could look up to as