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Abuse and DisciplineWhen comparing abuse and discipline, the question to ask is: what is the caregiver trying to achieve in either case?

There is no question that my parents were abusers. Of course, everything they did was with the belief that they were simply imposing discipline. It was a different time. A time when children were taught to respect but were given no respect in return; many of us grew up that way. I wrote a book of my experience. Check it out at my story.


The table below identifies the difference between abuse and discipline.


Abuse and Discipline: A Comparison
AbuseDiscipline
»  Demonstrates anger and hostility. »  Demonstrates love and affection.
»  Make child listen. »  Teach child right from wrong.
»  Teach child that decisions are at the whim of the caregiver. »  Teach child to make healthy choices for him/herself and prepare child for eventual independence.
»  Caregiver has all the power; child is given no respect. »  Based on a balance of power and mutual respect.
»  Involves humiliation. »  Does not involve humiliation.
»  Requires submission. »  Does not require submission.



It is difficult to discuss abuse and discipline without going into the spanking issue.

FACT:  94% of parents of toddlers reported using corporal punishment in the previous 12 months; 35% hit infants (Strauss, 2000, pp. 1109-11141).

FACT:  In an American study, 28.4% of parents of two to four-year-olds and 28% of five to eight-year-olds reported using an object to spank the bottoms of their children (Gallup Survey). Thus more than one in four parents admit to using an object to hit their children in the name of discipline (Gershoff, 2002, p. 602-6112).

In January, 2004, the Supreme Court of Canada upheld Section 43 of the Criminal Code, stating parents had the right to spank their children without fear of being charged with a criminal offence. But this spanking law has some new restrictions. The law now states that spanking is permitted with children between the ages of 2 years and 12 years, that the use of weapons like belts and paddles are prohibited, that strikes to the face and head are also prohibited, and that only reasonable force can be administered.

When discussing abuse and discipline, some would argue that any physical force constitutes abuse, where others maintain that spanking falls under the category of reasonable discipline.

While it is not my intent to tell parents how to discipline their children, I do strongly urge parents to make an informed decision by looking into alternative forms of discipline. An article on what a parent teaches a child when spanking is used can be found at abuse and discipline.

Parents and Educators:  Did you know that some of the 16 personality types are pre-disposed to take most things as personal criticism (rejection)? Did you know that it is possible to accurately determine a child's personality type, even with a child as young as 5? This information can help parents and educators spot abuse signs. This information can also help match personality types with disciplinary and nurturing types. I urge you to check out www.personality-power-for-everyday-living.com for a resource tool that you may well find revolutionary.





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References

Abuse and Discipline

NOTE: Information pages on this site were based on material from the Canadian Red CrossCanadian Red Cross RespectED Training Program. Written permission was obtained to use their copyrighted material on this site.

1 Strauss, M. (2000). Corporal Punishment and primary prevention of physical abuse. Child Abuse and neglect, 24, (9), 1109-1114.

2 Gershoff, E. (2002). Corporal punishment by parents and associated child behaviours and experiences: A meta-analytic and theorietical review. Psychological Bulletin, 183 (4), 539-579.



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