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Child Abuse Comments
If you would like me to post what you have to say about child abuse, something that is child abuse related, or something about this website and how it affected you, fill out my submission form at the bottom of this page. Generally, I post comments within a couple of days, depending on my availability--I'm often away for a week or two at a time during various times of the year. So please be patient. I regret that I CANNOT reply to all who send me comments.
This is 1 emotional site. The stories that I read were sad stories. Now I know not 2 complain about the little things I always complain about because some people have way more 2 complain about.
Cool site.
Thank you so much for creating this website. I came across it recently when I was researching child abuse. It helped me a lot when it came to looking at the victim's point of view. I hope your book goes well and helps to fight against child abuse... Thanks again!
I am so upset myself with those who abuse children for no reason. I am in high school and I'm doing a research paper on child abuse. I understand their pain too.
Dear Darlene, I posted my feelings on your site, regarding the emotional as well as physical abuse that I have endured through out my almost twenty one years. I liked your site, because it was informative, helpful, authentic and realistic. Most of all, it has a broad range of areas. You seem like you are the kind of person that is vibrant and has a warm and intuitive presence. May G-d bless you and bestow you with healing and the continued ability to heal others. May G-d heal all those and comfort and wipe away the visible and invisible pain of any adult, child or infant enduring any kind of pain. Take care. Read Chanelle's child abuse story on this site, then offer your supportive words on the comments form below the story.
I am very disturbed to hear these [child abuse] stories. Just today (8/08/07)everyone in New Zealand stood for 3 minutes of silence to make a stand aboutchild abuse. Recently a young girl of 3 years was killed from child abuse. Hermother's boyfriend and his mates had put this girl in a dryer, hung her on thewashing line, buried her in a sand box and many other horrible things. Myfriends and I might only be 13 but we know that child abuse isn't right! Makeit stop! NOTE FROM DARLENE: For more information about the above mentioned case, read my Headline 5: Child abuse an epidemic in New Zealand on this website.
Dear Darlene, I'm glad that you've moved on and did not commit suicide. I am only 13 years old but I am really into child abuse and really want to do something about it, and shaken baby syndrome, I don’t know what I'm going to do yet but I hope it will be able to help kids (and parents) of all ages and I hope kids realize that they can tell people and there's a way to be safe. Thank you for publishing that [book] . . . I will have to get it and read it sometime.
I am a victim of childhood incestuous sexual abuse, and I am also one who abused. It has taken me years of intense professional help to get through this.
I have been abused so I know how it feels so I think that any abuse is just so wrong. What I really want to say I can’t for all the young people that might be on this site. I am only young myself (16) but I know how a lot of the people feel. This is also a word of encouragement to everyone. I just wish I could help more but I really can’t help myself so all of you stay strong I am sorry I can’t help more like I want to . . . .
I am a social worker, and I found your website to be so inspiring. I work for Child Protective Services for the State of New Jersey and this website teaches me more and more every time I look at it. This was a wonderful website you created, keep up the good work!!!
I found your site because I was doing a school project. I have known a couple of kids that would only admit their abuse to there closest friend and would make them promise not to tell so it was really hard to get them help. Even though I am a person that thinks everyone should get a second chance I also believe that people like this shouldn't and that they do not deserve a jail sentence. They deserve to be killed in a slow and painful way. My family is totally against things like this and my uncle is sitting in prison for killing people that have done it so if you are a person that has been abused and you are reading this don’t think that it is right get it out and get help!!!!!!!!!!
The website is so useful with very good information. My favorite part of the website are the stories of people who were child abused, you should put more on there! Maybe even your own story if you'd like...Thank you!
This website was very helpful, and sad.
You need to start a weekly or monthly newsletter.
I am about 14 years old and child abuse means a lot to me. Notbecause I have expirienced it, but because I have known people who have. I have grown up in a wonderful family, who have taught me well. My parents have always been very protective of me, and they always know what I do. I came to this site to read about the child abuse stories for an English paper that still needs some working on. We are writing persuasion ads about issues that matter the most to us. I'm writing on why we should have more strict rules on child abusers. As I read these stories and felt tears down my eyes, I realized that we need to do more about the abusers that suffer nothing and the victims that suffer everything. This paper is more then just a grade, it's a way for my peers to know how it is. I love this site and I think it is a wonderful way for people to learn, to know, and to feel some of the writers . . . *keep faith, never give up, and always know that there are people who want tohelp* Love always,Nikki
I came across this site when I wasn't even looking for anythingremotely associated with child abuse. It's amazing how sometimes the universe delivers what you need when you need it. I have spent so much of my life feeling alone, and nearing 40, I've finally taken steps to get help to heal my life. I had a childhood full of emotional abuse and about six months of sexual abuse when I was 9. Everytime I think I've dealt with my childhood, something bad happens that reminds me that I have so much further to go. I find I have the inability to connect fully in relationships and have chosen men who are also like this. I also have an enormous fear of others treating me like a victim or victimising me further, which was the hallmark of my early adult relationships. As an adult I've been hit, raped, emotionally abused, stalked and publicly humiliated. But I've fought back, spent many years healing my life and have strong friendships. I've never told my husband about my past though, just that I had a rocky childhood, just like him. With the help I'm getting I hope to understand how to make my relationships even healthier. Thank you for the site. And thank you to everyone who has shared your stories. That alone is brave and courageous and at a time when I'm feeling somewhat isolated extremely welcome.
I just wanted to say that your website was very helpful for me!I am writing a paper on sexual abuse, and even though I have endured it myself, it was nice to have this kind of information to help me with my paper. I want to make a difference in girls' lives who have also experienced sexual abuse, and I feel better prepared to do that! Thank you so much for this website and everything you are doing! You are making a difference! God Bless You!
Hello. Just wanted to let you know that this website really helped me out with a big BIG research project. Nobody should ever have to experience anything like you and many other children have. But I look up to all of you who have survived abuse of any kind.
I was reading your section on Bullying and how child abuse victims are more likely to become bullies. I was sexually abused as a child by a family member, and even though I didn't become a bully, I feel that as a vicim of abuse I was withdrawn and kept away from other children, causing me to be the target of bullies rather than one. So it can go both ways.
I think that more is to be done to help abused teenagers, adults and children. In the same way that there is great improvement in the fight against HIV/AIDS. This website is good though. Thanks for your help.
This site was very helpful. It gave me a lot of information for my college essay about child abuse. Thank you.
Man, why do people sexual abuse their children? I would like aresponse...Thanks Kiara
Thank you for the information. I am only 14 and it was very very usefull because I have a report to do and this site made it a whole lot easier. Thanks.
Useful information! Thank you.
I am an adult survivor of childhood emotional abuse. I survived it but I still fight the demons that have been left behind. I feel that information is scarce on this type of abuse so I appreciate what is provided on this site. My wish is that society is educated on this brutal form of abuse and the life-long struggle to overcome it. I am 40 years old, and my mother still strikes at me any way she can, even though I no longer have contact with her. She uses other people and situations to inflict her cruelty. I am confident that I can get to a point where I no longer allow her that control over my life. Good luck to all of you.
I think that the government is doing a great thing in protecting abused children by the policies and laws put in place. I think it is fair to charge those who know or suspect that a child is being molested.
Thanks for all the info. It is much welcomed and very informative. John
I really love this website. It helped me express my feelings like I never could, and now people actually know what happend to me and can help me when no one else wanted to. Not even my own mother believed me and that's sad. Thank you for reading my [Amanda's] story and others!! :)
I think that any type of domestic violence is a horrible crime that must be stopped. In the cases where children are victims to this crime, those people should be put to death. To look into the eyes of a child and willingly hurt that child is a sick and coldhearted person, and [that person] should not live to see another sunrise. We as a people must put an end to this crime and give a voice to those who have lived through this life of violence.
I read a short book about this very topic written by a former child protective caseworker. The book was called Imminent Risk: The Child Welfare State by R. Gibbs. An excellent read with real case studies. Check it out. Your website is a great resource.
This site is good because I had got all of my projecthere. Maybe it’s not quite good for me to research, but I thank you that there’s a site like this for me to finish my project. Believe me, I’m very thank you . . .
This website really helped me with my Essay about one of themost controversial and unavoidable problems we still face.
This site really helps people who have been abused. Also, this web site has a great purpose that I completely support.
Hello I'm doin an essay and this webby is hell useful . . . have a nice day.
I would like information on child abuse that kids have told u or that have wrote online. Thank you I'm posting my reply on this child abuse comments page because my e-mail to Tonya came back as a delivery failure. Reply from Darlene: Tonya, I'm not entirely clear what you are asking from me. What I suggest is that you check out all the stories written to me by survivors of child abuse. The Stories page URL is: http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/child-abuse-stories.html Also, check out the individual stories pages on the navigation bar at the left-hand margin. You'll find them immediately below Child Abuse Stories. They are identifiable by individual names or initials. As far as I know, they are all true child abuse stories, and I treat them with the utmost respect. As for stories from children, I'm not in the habit of posting them, unless the child is currently in a safe place. I do what I can to encourage the child who is being abused, or is in an abusive environment, to seek help and report the abuse. I am not in a position to divulge any of the information provided to me by children who are not safe. In order to uphold my own integrity, I maintain confidentiality with regard to communications from children. In fact, I maintain confidentiality with anyone who writes me, unless I receive permission to post. Sincerely, Darlene Barriere
I received the following child abuse comments this morning, September 6, 2006 through my stories submission form on my child abuse stories page. When I replied to Jamie Lyn (the name she used), my letter came back as a delivery failure with no such e-mail address. I've decided to post the comments here, along with my reply, in hopes that Jamie Lyn reads it, in hopes that other adolescents with problems read it as well. I'm sorry, I know this is for abused women, but I wanted to let everyone [know] that I'm proud that you try to find help and that I wish I could be as strong as you, but I can't. Reply from Darlene: Morning, Jamie Lyn. I have a niece with your name. She uses a slightly different spelling, but your name nonetheless; it's a lovely name indeed, one near and dear to my heart. I read your comments, and while I am flattered that you hold me in such high regard, I do wonder why you don't hold yourself with the same esteem. There was a time in my life where I felt as you do now, a time when my whole life was falling apart and the people who were supposed to be loving and nurturing me were in fact severely abusing me. I'm not clear about whether or not this is the same for you. There was no place for me to turn to at that time, but thankfully, there are places for children and youth to turn to now if they need help and support. You did not tell me how old you are, so I don't know if you are a youth or an adult. If you are a youth with problems, I urge you to call Child Help USA. Yes, I have encouraged many of my website visitors and story submitters to call them. Child Help USA have professionally trained counselors on hand to listen, and they are available around the clock. If you don't already have it, the number is: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). Check out their website at: www.childhelpusa.org And just so you know, Jamie Lyn, my stories pages are not just for abused women. I get submissions from abused men, as well as from many adolescents who are abused. I don't always post the submissions I receive; I really do have to be responsible about the way I handle peoples' stories. Not just respectfully, but also with an eye to providing as much help as I can--sometimes posting a story is not helpful, especially if a child or youth is in obvious distress; that's when I don't post the story. But there are so many people that I can't help. I can only point them in the direction of someone who can. If you are a youth with problems, I really do hope you'll be one of those who reach out for someone in a better position than I am to provide the support and assistance it sounds as though you need. So, unless I mis-read your comments, I strongly urge you to contact Child Help USA. Sincerely, Darlene Barriere
You might add something to the affect that just because a child/adolescent has a "crush" on the adult abuser, that it still does not validate the abuse. And that when those around the abused begin to say that he/she "didn't look that young", that their body wasn't the reason it happened either. And that if the child/adolescent had started to become promiscious post-abuse, then that doesn't mean the victim "asked" for it. Note from Darlene: Kim's comments were quite valid. They have prompted me to update both my sexual abuse effects and sexual abuse signs pages to include promiscuous behaviour. I also created a table that identifies societal biases of female victims on my female victims of sexual abuse page.
I was preparing yesterday for a session on sexual abuse when I came across this website. Wow! I thought, this is what I can do to care for me today. Awesome. Thank you again. Note from Darlene: Check out Miriam's child abuse story of healing and recovery on my stories of healing page. It's story #3.
Hope this year, child abuse may lessen . . . let us continue to face and solve it.
Note from Darlene: I received this comment from my Emotional Abuse Effects page, where there is link to my story of child abuse. This story could help me and encourage me with my problems that I am currently facing.
I just had to THANK YOU for your work here. My dad was shot and killed by my mother. He was a VERY abusive man! He died in 1977 so I have had many years at dealing with the abuse he put on all of us. My mom went to her grave 3 years ago never healing for all the abuse. With websites like yours it sure does make it easier to find help. Even though I can't afford your book right now I will get it when I can. May God Bless you and all that visits your website. Thanks again Note from Darlene: Since Peggy's comment bordered on a story but was not submitted on one of my stories submission forms, I wrote her, asking her permission to post this comment. Peggy's reply: You are very welcome to use any comment I have used that you think might help others! Anything I could do to help. The nightmares still plague me about my past, but with websites like yours, it gives me hope that maybe someone will seek out the help they might need and never have to know the horror of abuse. Thanks again & God Bless!
I really had a good time reading the researches about child abuse and it was indeed a great help for me especially in the accomplishment of my thesis paper. I hope you would make more researches regarding the common social issues today.
Hello. Your site was very informative, as I am doing a speech on abuse for my oral communications class at my college. I have some experience behind me on abuse. If you have any other information, I'd greatly appreciate it if you'd inform me please.
Hi! I just wanted to say that your website is excellent! I am doing a research essay on Child Abuse and I found very useful information here! Thanks so much! I will be reading your stories too. Good Job
In seeking out the details of sexual offences against children, I have found the following to be true. So true that our team has actually incorporated in our checklist for identifying abuse victims: - Acts of bullying Our organisation is a self funded group of educated volunteers. We found that although you could not identify a typical offender, you could with great accuracy identify a victim by these behaviours and begin to investigate or watch them to confirm suspicions. This list is not exhaustive. Note from Darlene: I updated what wasn't already listed of Michael's list to my sexual abuse effects and sexual abuse signs pages.
Your site is very important. My child was sexually assaulted repeatedly by her step-granddad and has come forth to tell me. We are still in the shock stage, but I am reading and trying to learn as much as I can to help my child and myself. I was also molested as a child myself and I found that kids don't lie about things like this. It's sad to think that those we turn to in trust can and may betray us. Note from Darlene: When I wrote Fran back, I urged her to contact Child Help USA: 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
I want to be a counsellor to children, especially those that were abused, and adults alike that still live with its effects in their subconscious mind. I believe that with you as a link I can do better. Thanks
[The] Physical Child Abuse Statistics and all of the [content] is really interesting. I got much information about child abuse by this site. This site is good for Malaysian people since we here haven't enough information about child abuse. Anyway this site is really interesting and full of information and I hope I can share with the others about this site and be a member of any organisation which is anti of child abuse. Thank you.
Here in Australia the age of legal majority is 18 in all states and territories. It is also the marriage, smoking and drinking age. The driving age in most states is 17.
I think this is a very informative site as it caters for the preservation and protection of our children. I am in the process of starting off an agency to assist the poor and neglected families, especially with children who don't attend school and have no means of financial stability in the home. I love children and want to see their future survival. I am 24 years old and will do all that I can to see the development of the agency and its objectives: want to stamp down on poverty by running a Making Poverty History campaign, along with many other programs. Look forward to onward communication. Keep up the good work and may god bless.
I just wanted to say that all of you social workers have done a great job!!!!!! I would also like to be one some day and I am doing a lot of research on it, so I hope to be one some day and that you keep up the good work!!!!!!! Note from Darlene: I wrote Tiffany back and explained that I am not a trained social worker. I also encouraged her to pursue her dream of becoming a social worker.
I checked out your new website... really awesome... I spent a lot of time reading and also really appreciated reading the stories from other survivors ... I am going to mention this site at work ... the women can read it and perhaps purchase your book... Keep up the good work ...
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This page is dedicated to posting the child abuse comments from visitors to my child-abuse-effects.com website. Comments may be received from any of the pages on this site using the forms I have included at the bottom of each of my pages.
Child Abuse Comments From: Jessica from Chicago, Illinois, USA 
