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Child Abuse Story From Heather

by Heather
(Houston, Texas, USA)




Living Hell: 
"Wish you were never born!" "Why are you still here if it's that bad?" "Stop complaining!" These are the famous quotes I've heard through out my life. My mother was an alcoholic who had me and my 5 other siblings on "accident", she claims and makes it clear that she never wanted one of us. I was hit, slapped, locked up in the attic, closet, basement, etc; I was burned by cigars and abused - physically and verbally - my entire childhood. I later got into multiple types of drugs that kept my mind off of the abuse, but when i wasn't doing drugs to deal with the pain - i was cutting myself. I remember one day when i came home from school; my mom changed the lock and she wasn't there so my siblings and i were locked outside on a school night. We ended up sleeping on the trampoline - all 6 of us. None of us could really sleep - i got about 2 hours in when my mom finally came home at 3 o'clock in the morning. She yelled at us and forced us inside. I couldn't sleep, but i made sure my little sister - 7 years old - and my little brother - 6 years old - got more sleep. That same day after i was finished getting ready for school, i packed up a bag and left with my older sister. I haven't been back home since and i doubt my mom even knows i'm gone. I have somewhat recovered from the abuse, but the scars are still there. I promised to myself that my children won't go through the same abuse by anybody. Without the support from my friends, i would probably be dead today. That is my story - I am child abuse victim that found a way out and survived.




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Child Abuse Story From Heather

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Jul 28, 2011
Heather:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm delighted you are no longer in that abusive environment and that you survived the abuse and the self-harming behaviours. And I'm SO glad that you were born. If you hadn't been born, we wouldn't have met through this website. And I venture to say that many others are very happy you were born as well, like your siblings and your friends. You are a caring and compassionate person and sister; that comes through your story loud and clear.

Recovery from abuse comes in layers. The scars are still there, as you mentioned, but as you mature and go through the various ages and stages of your life, you may well find that some of the pain will come back to haunt you—pain you may have thought you were done with—at a time when you may least expect. That's why I strongly recommend some form of counselling. A counsellor can help you deal with the repercussions of what you endured, and s/he can help you with the tools and resources you'll need as you get on with your healing and recovery in a healthy and well-adjusted way. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jul 28, 2011
Escape...
by: Stitchface

my only wish to escape but it's so hard with a rope to your legs. i wonder how you escaped.

Jul 29, 2011
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Heather, you were given a raw, crappy deal. Your so-called mom was so twisted and messed up in her own ways of thinking that she didn't even know how to take care of herself, not to mention be a mother to you and your siblings. She didn't know how to love even herself; all she ever knew was hate, so she should've known better and loved and cherished you guys. Oh, and she was a sadistic brute too...and she should be locked up in prison for all those terrible crimes that she committed against you because you and your siblings did nothing wrong. If she didn't want to be there, she should've had the courage to give you up for adoption instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that she chose was and still is inexcusable. Oh, and where was your dad? Anyway, you are not to blame for her sadistic, ignorant behavior; she is to blame because, first of all; something's seriously wrong with her; second of all; she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and only misused it over you and even your siblings. Oh, and I'm glad that you are in a safe place now; I just hope that you try counselling and that you look into reporting that sad, tragic sicko of a mother because abusers don't stop abusing until they're made to stop.

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