It's a healthy thing he's out of your life now... by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Chantal, you didn't LET your father do anything; as a child you were helpless. Period. This is on HIM, not YOU. You consider yourself "lucky"; but trust issues, depression, and unfounded guilt are not to be ignored. Please consider talking to a counsellor about what you are dealing with. Or call Kids Helpline in Canada at 1-800-668-6868. They are staffed with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. You can remain anonymous. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/en/home.asp
Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Chantal, and for taking the time to tell me how this site has helped you. I wish you all the best on your school project.
Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Oct 22, 2025
Your father was out of control by: Anonymous
Chantal, you are not to blame; your father is really to blame because he has lots of problems and he really needs help...but you and your sisters need help, too. Have you guys tried counselling?
Oct 23, 2025
you've taken the big step now get help for yourself by: maurice
It is now over to you Chantal, you've found Darlene's site for a reason, you needed to explode your feelings that have been building up in you all these years now. No better place to relate your true feelings than Darlene's site. A safe place/haven for all her visitors to trust themselves and tell their story. I regard it as the stepping stone to being free, letting go, and getting the heartfelt words of help from Darlene. She know from her own abuse what is the best way forward for all her visitors. especially you Chantal. She's given you very supporting and encourageing words for you to take the big step in geting help. I will, I can, I must just for me. I'm Special, I love me, Do YOU Chantal??? Look in that mirror and begin thinking positive thoughts about yourself in order to build up your own self worth/self esteem. Take heed of Darlene and you'll be fine. You must take action though and speak with a counsellor/therapist. with your trusted and dearest of friend (s) hold hands together and go for that help. you'll think differently and begin broadening your mind from where you have come from in your Family. Your Father was abusive to you not your fault. I must not blame myself. He did the injustice to me, he was wrong, Ok off you go and get the help Darlene encourages you to get and that you need to move on in your life.
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stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.
