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Child Abuse Story From Chantal

by Chantal
(Oshawa, Ontario, Canada)




Emotion abuse story: 
I was the youngest of four children, all girls. My father had very explosive anger problems and was fairly emotionally abusive. I've read a lot about abuse for my school project I am doing, and it fits my childhood to a T. Finally realizing why I have the trust issues is really empowering.

My father used to call us names and kind of torment us. My eldest sister suffered from a long last eating disorder. My other sister had become very suicidal, and my other one has become addicted to heavy drugs. It is fair to say that I am the lucky one; by age 11 I was free from my abusive father. But that also means I've spent the majority of my life without any father figure, be that good or bad.

I feel very sorry for what I allowed my father to do. Not only did he call us names but he had violent outbursts and on a few occasions actually physically abused my sisters. He also destroyed my mother's family heirlooms on many occasions.

I'm very lucky compared to my sisters. The only emotional problems I've seem to obtain are trust issues, and I do often get depressed. I feel guilty a lot of the time for allowing my father to hurt my family. I also feel guilty for not being a drug addict, or having an eating disorder or being suicidal. I wonder why I was so lucky.

Thank you for this site. It's really helped me learn, and sharing my story is like getting a load off my shoulders because I do not trust even my closest friends enough to tell them about this.

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Child Abuse Story From Chantal

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Oct 22, 2009
It's a healthy thing he's out of your life now...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Chantal, you didn't LET your father do anything; as a child you were helpless. Period. This is on HIM, not YOU. You consider yourself "lucky"; but trust issues, depression, and unfounded guilt are not to be ignored. Please consider talking to a counsellor about what you are dealing with. Or call Kids Helpline in Canada at 1-800-668-6868. They are staffed with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. You can remain anonymous. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/en/home.asp

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Chantal, and for taking the time to tell me how this site has helped you. I wish you all the best on your school project.

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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Oct 22, 2009
Your father was out of control
by: Anonymous

Chantal, you are not to blame; your father is really to blame because he has lots of problems and he really needs help...but you and your sisters need help, too. Have you guys tried counselling?

Oct 23, 2009
you've taken the big step now get help for yourself
by: maurice

It is now over to you Chantal, you've found Darlene's site for a reason, you needed to explode your feelings that have been building up in you all these years now. No better place to relate your true feelings than Darlene's site. A safe place/haven for all her visitors to trust themselves and tell their story. I regard it as the stepping stone to being free, letting go, and getting the heartfelt words of help from Darlene. She know from her own abuse what is the best way forward for all her visitors. especially you Chantal. She's given you very supporting and encourageing words for you to take the big step in geting help. I will, I can, I must just for me. I'm Special, I love me, Do YOU Chantal??? Look in that mirror and begin thinking positive thoughts about yourself in order to build up your own self worth/self esteem. Take heed of Darlene and you'll be fine. You must take action though and speak with a counsellor/therapist. with your trusted and dearest of friend (s) hold hands together and go for that help. you'll think differently and begin broadening your mind from where you have come from in your Family. Your Father was abusive to you not your fault. I must not blame myself. He did the injustice to me, he was wrong, Ok off you go and get the help Darlene encourages you to get and that you need to move on in your life.

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