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Jun 12, 2015
Keith:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I can hear and feel the pain in your story. You were abandoned and rejected SO many times. You were screaming for help, but those screams went unanswered. And then, those screams became a test. A way for others to show you what you had already come to expect: that you would be rejected and abandoned yet again.

It comes as no surprise that you cannot cry. It's a coping skill. A way for you to protect yourself. A way for you to ensure you don't feel because to feel means more pain and rejection.

Staying strong doesn't mean not crying. Staying strong means surviving in spite of what you endured. And I can assure you, no matter how strong you are as a survivor, tears that flow naturally can be very cleansing. The fear of never stopping once you start does enter into the mix, but if you can allow yourself those tears, it can offer a fresh place to start your healing.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy, Keith.

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Darlene Barriere
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Jun 17, 2015
Keith,
by: AnonymousT

You're writing because it feels good. I'm not even kidding. When we have pain...or any intense emotion, writing helps so much. We can SEE the words, we can SEE the feelings...and then, we can make a little sense of where we're at.

So write as much as you need to. A spiral notebook for your thoughts is a great start.

The people in your life - they had nothing to give you. They are empty. Sure, they all have a backstory as to WHY they're empty but that's the plain truth - they are without.

So, it's ok not to have them around. It's ok to say goodbye to your start in life and say hello to what you make of tomorrow.

Be kind to you.

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