Looking to Get Out

by Jasmine
(Texas, USA)

I guess you can say that I came from a family that abused me because that is what really happened. I am 13 years old. When I was born, my dad had wanted a boy and instead had me as his first born. And because of that he went to the military to get away from me as much as possible and left my mom to take care of me and my sister. By the time I was 5, my dad had retired and starting being a dad and got a job working as a substitute for my school district. However, him working around the house had made it hard to live because whenever I would ask him to help me with homework, he would help, but at the same time he decided to correct me by hitting me and throwing me across the room. Later the abuse became more severe till I was being abused daily and I was finished of with bruises, black eyes, scars, cuts, and more. That's when my mom tried to talk to him asking him to stop hurting me and he ignored her and continued. This lasted for 6 years. my mom and dad were arguing all the time and finally my dad got so fed he up, he packed up his stuff and left. After that I thought that I would be safe. but I was wrong. My mom, out of frustration started hitting me, cornering me, began hitting my head on any hard surface dragged me head first down the stairs, kick me, slap me, and pull my hair. Currently, my hair is so unbelievably thin, that I might lose it all before I turn 18, the doctor says. My mom has done this for three years already making it almost the fourth. Life is hard for me because I have to live in agony till I am 18, which is the age she is kicking me out, but I still have a hope that I can get out early or make it up with my mom. Lately I have been looking online for close foster homes and hotlines to see what I can do for others, so that whoever I run into who is abused and doesn't know what to do I'm there for them so that maybe they can be there for others too when they need it. This is my life story and I want to share this so that you can relate to this and let you know you are not alone. If you need help as soon as possible, look online for hotlines, if you go to church,ask for counseling, or call the police, tell a friend, or talk to a teacher to see if they can help you. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story and I hoped it helped you as much as it has helped others!





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Nov 18, 2025
Jasmine:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Looking to help others is a very noble cause, one we all need to embrace. But doing so at the expense of you and your needs is not helping, rather, it's hindering your healing and growth. Being selfless is not walking a healing path; it's taking your Self out of the equation, off the path of healing and instead, on a path of invisibility.

Whatever is going on in your mother's life, she's clearly taking it out on you. You are not responsible for either your mother's vile behaviour or your father's. They have challenges in their own lives that they have chosen to take out on you. That's not on you, that's on them.

You're hurting, Jasmine, and you don't deserve to be mistreated. Follow your own advice. Seek out the help you need. Always remember that you are worthy of dignity and respect and love. Start by treating your Self with that dignity and respect and love. You cannot control how your mother behaves, but you can control your response and how you reach out for what you need. Helping others find and walk their healing path can be very cathartic. Just don't allow your Self and your own personal needs to suffer in the process. YOU matter too! Never forget that. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Nov 26, 2025
Hope is how u see ;)
by: Lyes

Hey honey ur so young with heavy deeds. Ur mentality is on the right track but Darlene is also right - it's a harder task helping urself.For being 13, life in general is difficult to navigate, with trying to balance who ur becoming, to friends and social status ,and where u came from (ur home status). Which u know is not the best (that's understating the situation).If u have the mentality and the heart to help someone in the same situation then u will have the heart an mentality to forgive ur parents for the life they have chosen. Which mean u have understood why and from here decide if they r hurting or helping. That doesn't mean the abuse will go away, but it will give u the power to decide what's best for u. I had a friend who went through a similar situation, he was abuse from ages 4 -16 from home. I met him around ur age people says I made a big different but I still don't c it that way. Because life had torture him so much frm the physical and mental abuses then threw in the sexual abuse, by the time he was 19, his mentality was no where near urs to heal so he let life take the best of him (r.i.p.). I still haven't healed, but I see u at the same age I met him, and I know u will find a way out and keep ur head strong just please help urself because u deserve it, u have a whole life ahead of u. Ur smart I hope this helps.

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