child-abuse-effects is a Safe Haven

by Maurice
(Eire/Ireland)

I feel the relief and release of hang up feelings/doubts/fears I've had built up inside me regarding having been abused by the beatings on my bare bottom by a so-called guardian my mam entrusted to at the boarding school I went to. Since I admitted to myself that I was abused about 12 years ago is enormous. Reading and offering my comments on your visitors' stories to your website has also been a huge blessing in that relief and release. You sure provide me with a safe place/haven to be totally myself in relating my abuse story to you and your visitors. A family of caring people who value each other, respect each other in their telling of the abuse that happened to them in their lives. For me, knowing you too went through the same pain, overcame it in your own way.


I was told by an expert in the field that each one who was abused has to deal with it in his/her own way. Through the years I've being doing that and I know now I did it my way and it has worked for me. But I know in all that I did to cope with it I would have saved myself years of doubt/fears/hang-ups about the way I was handling it all. Then I had the courage to admit I was abused and now I value more all that I went through and put myself through.

Finding your child-abuse-effects website has affirmed me no end in all the times I've visited the site. Thank you great and wonderful people (Visitors) and Darlene. In the safety of my room I get great support and good feelings from sharing with you all.

A Video Reading by Darlene BarriereNote from Darlene: The volume of contributor submissions has now made it impossible for me to comment personally (especially in great detail) on each and every contribution. If I haven't left you a comment or one that is in-depth, please do not take my lack of a personal response as a slight, or as a statement that your story is somehow unworthy of my time. Nothing, and I do mean nothing, could be further from the truth. If there was a way for me to respond to all of you at length, I would.

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Apr 06, 2009
Synergy...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing with my visitors and me how coming to this site has helped—and continues to help—you, Maurice. Helping others with their pain can be so cathartic to our own pain. And when visitors such as you post a story or article or comment for other visitors to read, there is a synergy that happens, a synergy that is difficult to measure. A comment to a survivor of child abuse may trigger another comment, which triggers another, which in turn can provide a support system for each and every person who reads and contributes to the various pages on this site. I am honoured that you have chosen my site to offer your perspective on the issue of child abuse and its ever-present effects. It's dedicated people like you, Maurice, who help to make this site both interactive and supportive. Again, I thank you for your daily contributions to the many visitors who share of themselves on the various pages of this site. You are the epitome of encouragement. You are a gem.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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