Child Abuse - Voting for Change

by Amanda LD
(Ontario, Canada)

When I was a young girl around the age of 5, my mother's boyfriend beat, rape and molested me. I was placed in C.A.S care where I was kidnapped by my mother and mother's boyfriend stepmom. I was adopted by my mothers boyfriends parents.

My mothers boyfriend only received 30 days in jail on plea bargain. Fallico charges where dropped if he plea bargained to physical abuse.

My social worker took me to their hotel for the night and asked if I wanted to stay with them. Year later I was taken out of my adoptive parents place and placed directly across the street from them in a group home.

I have recently been abused, mentally and financially from my exs family which is another sad an long.

We have outdated attitudes, the system is still experiencing where African Americans are sitting to the back of the bus and this was socially acceptable by the majority of the population.

We need to indentify what are the problems and come up with solutions. Having a board of directors for C.A.S would help people in each city restore some faith and have an opportunity for help. This board will have elected teacher, C.A.S crown wards, child counselors, psychiatrists, parent, lawyer, judge etc.

Judges in Canada will be elected not appointed.

Forms to help power imbalance for C.A.S children and legal aid where both parties on paper sign their names at the end of each visit. Was all your problems addressed, what is your resolution, etc. Once a lawyer signs his/ her name to. My lawyer did not contact me and just showed up for my first court date and did not approve facts presented, by the way where is the ones I submitted because I thought you decided not to take my case?? will change very fast. You now have tangible proof.

Court becomes public and mandatory that transcripts are made free of charge to both parties and no going behind rooms to discuss without the plaintiff and opposing party. We can have politicians have huge salaries from tax payers but not back to the tax payers.

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Dec 19, 2009
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You bring up some excellent points and suggestions. I hope you'll work toward that end. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas with my visitors and me.

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Dec 20, 2009
it is one big struggle by a very small percent of caring people
by: maurice

Every Country has the same difficulties getting changes to defend the rights and dignity of Children, The maginalised, The Rape laws are archival never updated in years. You have highlighted something very important. You can only make a difference where you are at. Let your voice be heard, get committed and dediated trusted people around you to support you. It is still worrying where an abuser can live in a community waiting trial even it has been proved that He/She commited The Abuse. Lobbying politicians is one tough occupation where the Law is concerned. In Ireland only this week even though the Man was found guilty of Rape in a small court house near where he lived 50 or so people walked into the court and shook his hand including a church man. The innocent victim sat there as if it never happened after he was sentensed to 7 years. So even in a small rural part of Ireland The Law does not protect the innocent party. But this is the same the world over State by State in America and even where you are at in Canada. Be brave, be strong and persevere fighting for your rights and that of others. You are the best, you are a carer, you are a fighter for justice to be done. Good on you.

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