Self-harm is a form of repeating what was done to you... by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
Now that you've written your story, Kay, surely you must see clearly that what you've suffered was indeed child abuse. Read through the information pages on this site if you still have any doubt. I do want to point out one thing: You don't want to be like your father, presumably meaning you don't want to hurt your children or be like him personally, yet you are harming yourself in much the same way he harmed you. Don't take the torch from him, Kay. You're much too worthy. Consider contacting ChildLine on 0800 1111 in order to talk to someone. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.donthideit.com
Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.
Darlene Barriere Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir
Oct 26, 2025
I'm sorry by: Melissa
Hello Kay, I know you dont know me personally but, I feel the need to say that I am very truly sorry for what has happened to you and how it haunts your every thought. I am sorry that your father could not be the one to admit to you that what he did was wrong. Have you asked your dad about his childhood?? How did he grow up? With hate toward his own father? Or where did he learn to become so violent? He probably has a story of his own, but that doesnt excuse him for ever hitting you or making you feel worthless. You have a talent painting and or drawing,use that to put your feelings into. If you and your boyfriend have an argument paint it on canvas. Please don't hurt yourself over it. Again, I am sorry. But you are your own person and you can grow and show your father that despite all of his harm, your beautiful, strong, and worth living!
Oct 26, 2025
The sooner, the better...Darlene and Melissa are right! by: Anonymous
Kay, your father has lots of problems and he really needs help! Oh, and he is wrong...you are not crazy; you are not stupid; you are not worthless; you are not a psycho...in fact, my dear, you are truly smart, articulate and worthy of love, dignity and respect. You are not to blame...your father is to blame because he, alongside your mother, should've really protected you from harm. But you need help, too. The sooner you tell, the better! Darlene and Melissa are right! Please tell someone!
Oct 27, 2025
It may be difficult for you, There is help there for you. by: maurice
I'M NOT GOING TO END UP LIKE MY FATHER. I AM NOT GOING TO BE A PRODUCT OF HIS SICK MIND. I HAVE A MIND OF MY OWN. Kay all the comments are sincere words of love to you. Darlene's especially because she has worked through abuse. she has seen the power of Love for herself in seeking help when she needed it. To be now qualified to advice all her many visitors what they need to be healed from abuse. Heed her words to you. I guarantee if you do your whole attitude to yoursefl will change and alot of people will be the better for it but most all yourself. Look in tha MIRROR. begin to see a positive thinking you. I realize I need help, I will go for it, I can, I will, I must. Always believe in yoursefl Kay.
Oct 29, 2025
A good step by: Lois Ducharme
You may not forget but you may be OK. You took the first step. You wrote about the abuse. It is helpful to get out the hurt and anger. keep writing. We're listening.
Disclaimer: To the best of my knowledge the child abuse
stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.