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Jan 26, 2016
Carol:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Very disturbing. Your mother taking you away from actually seeing what your vicious father was doing to your brothers would have done nothing to stop you from hearing their screams of pain and torture. Witnessing physical abuse (hearing it is also seeing it) is every bit as damaging as experiencing it firsthand. Some would argue it's worse because you are left helpless to do anything about it. And especially when you have feelings of guilt that go along with it, like you did, questioning whether or not it was you who had done the deed that led to the abusive punishments.

If you are still experiencing guilt associated with this, and possibly other terrible incidents of abuse, you really need to absolve yourself of the guilt. Your father was the one responsible for his actions. Whatever his motivation, even if it was misguided discipline gone awry, it he was the one who inflicted pain and harm to your brothers. He was looking to inflict harm. That's on him, not you. Always remember that.

I send you and your brothers love, light and healing energy, Carol. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jan 27, 2016
Witnessing abuse of my brothers
by: Carol

Hi Darlene, thank you for posting my experience here and for your response. This particular incident happened about 50 years ago. There were many more experiences including sexual, religious, animal, mental and emotional abuses. I became estranged from my family about 25 years ago in order to keep sane and help my children learn they don't need to be treated this way and don't feel guilt about that. After much therapy and support from friends, my world has become much smaller but I'm experiencing healthier, loving relationships. Thanks for taking the time.... Carol

Jan 29, 2016
In response:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It was my pleasure, Carol. And I thank you for your patience in getting your story posted on my site. It's been a very challenging number of months for me. Eye challenges that made reading almost impossible, and therefore, posting.

Keep up the great work in your own healing and recovery. And I thank you for all your contributions to others who are sharing on this site. Your comments are thoughtful and supportive. I want you to know that I appreciate that so much.

Love & light to you.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Feb 04, 2016
Darlene
by: Carol

Back at ya.....:) This is a like a hole in the wall....a good hiding place....hard to find but those who need find their way in. Thank you for providing us all with such a place.

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