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Feb 18, 2009
Once again, the system fails the helpless victims...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you, Tara, for allowing me to move your comments above onto a page where more of my visitors can read and perhaps learn from yours and your twins' experience. Perhaps someone in the system will read what you have written and work toward a better way to ensure the littlest victims are heard, and that the offenders are both brought to justice and stopped from re-offending.

Keep hugging those two precious children of yours. I send my own hugs to them and to you too.

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Feb 18, 2009
Young and Innocent
by: Mrs S

Hallo Tara, my heart bleeds for your children, it's terrible when a parent has to go to work and are forced to hire child minders. I was a nanny for about 3 years, and I heard some horror stories. One friend of mine started a new position with a professional family only to learn that the former Nanny was thrown out. Apparently the mother came home early one day and found the nanny in the bath with her 4 yr. old son. Upon questioning her son she found out that this happened often, the nanny would rub his little penis and try to insert it into her vagina......
What my friend and I were both really disturbed about was that the mother immediately threw the nanny out but never reported the incident; this nanny was free to go on and work for another innocent family. These people are pedophiles and should be charged and imprisoned.
I am so happy for you that you managed to find out before further damage was done.
I did Daycare from my own house when my children were very young, when I interviewed the parents I encouraged parents to drop in at any time and any function I would always invite the parents. Any one that states that they do not like the parents to drop in because it might disturb the children, I would really be hesitant. And having a caregiver in your home I would recommend that a parent drop in occasionally unannounced. It is awful to have to be so suspicious but unfortunately we live in a very unstable world. I pray that your children will heal quickly and not suffer from long term trauma. Children are so precious we must care and protect them they are so very innocent and vulnerable.

Feb 18, 2009
Learn to listen
by: Scott Canada

As a child, or should I say as an adult who remembers how it was as a child,yeh...that's it how we remember.That seems to be the key really....what I remember,what your children remember.I remember my abuser going free,I remember my mommy did nothing.Did she not see bruises on my bottom?I remember shame as a child,I remember incredible shame as a child and no one did anything. I remember after a certain,(THE CERTAIN)punishment at school there was a phone call that night in which my mommy answered the phone.I remember my mommy asking me to show her how far the teacher pulled my pants AND underwear down before she spanked me(during the phone conversation with that...teacher)I remember showing my mommy.I motioned to my knees.I remember life going on as if nothing had happened.I remember being constantly teased for months after by school mates/witnesses.But things didn't really go on as normal did they? No! Here I am as an adult and I remember. Your children will remember how you stepped up and saved them.Your children will remember.My abuser goes free,unpunished yet here I am,remembering.....my mommy is old now and still in denial.She says I'm still going on about things that happened long ,long ago.I'm still waiting for my mommy to step up and say it was wrong.Like I'm crazy! What drives me crazy is when people dont step up and stop this stuff from happening. Your children's memories are of a mommy who saved them.My memory is of a mommy who still doesn't care.

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