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Mar 18, 2010
Trapped:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. You are in an extremely difficult situation. But don't for one second think that this man is a good father to your daughter just because he provides all the "things" he does for her. The fact that he treats her mother so poorly IS emotionally affecting her, and his treatment of women WILL eventually rear its ugly face directly onto her. You need help. Reach out to any resources available to you, such as a women's shelter. And please, for the sake of your precious daughter, keep your own anger in check. While no man has the right to abuse you in any way no matter what, you don't have the right to be violent either. Provoking him should NEVER be an option.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
Talk Before Touching® Series

Mar 19, 2010
He's Hiding Behind a Shroud of Smiles
by: Sakura

This is crazy. He doesn't truly love you if he hits you and threatens you like that! This really isn't good for your daughter. I agree with Darlene: eventually, he'll end up hurting her, too. I was never actually suffered child abuse, and I hope I never do, but I'm doing a big school project on CA and DV right now, which is how I came across your story. Though this is so, my parents do fight a lot. It's never physical with me, but it's been going on forever, and it's always affected me. I felt out of touch with them, and started worrying about the simplest things, to the point that I had to be put on medication for suicidal thoughts. No matter what happens, if you stay, your daughter will be majorly scarred. Even if he gets her the nicest things, she'll never have the nicest formative years with fighting parents. I'm not exactly sure how to help, but you could try calling a special hotline--I found the National Domestic Violence Hotline number just now on Google: 1-800-799-SAFE. I hope I helped; I'm only fourteen, so I may or may not understand enough of your situation. One thing is for sure: I'll remember this project and your story, and probably try to help victims in the future.

From Darlene: Trapped, the national hotline Sakura listed above is only if you live in the USA.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
Talk Before Touching® Series

Mar 21, 2010
If another makes you feel your trapped: True Love and Respect are not there.
by: maurice

I deserve better for myself and my child: That Trapped is your way out of a very unreal relationship: This man knows he is in control of you, He seems tp be an older Man in the relationship. You need a real friend in your Life You seem to have that friend whom you turned to during your pregnancy. If she is a true friend then between you both you can get the help Darlene suggests: Counselling seems a must: to begin with: This man has you under his thumb if you don't take charge of your life and that of your child. Your child is your life now, she is the one that will give you hope. Read Darlene's comment you sure will be making a great new beginnings for you both if you act on her heart felt suggestions. She sure wants what is best for you and that beautiful child our yours. Get into a safe invironment, be around people who will value you, respect you, care for your every need right now. Help you to love and cherish your beautiful child. You'll be fine, you'll be a good mother, You know deep down this control freak will not change, he will let on, he will be, loving of you, but he will beat you again and if you saty in such a relationship your child might suffer long term. beginning even now watching while not understanding what is going on. children are very perceptive from an early age. Trapped your no fool, Always believe in yourself. get professional help in total confidentiality. You'll make sense of Darlene's comment: I know you will even if it just for the safety & protection of your pride and joy child. There's safety in numbers, Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Join a walkers group, join a team, join a cultural group of people of like-minded interests. There are supporting genuine groups around you. Take part in them, great minds think alike. Be safe, stay safe both for yourself and your children. Have self control, be in charge of your own destiny as you are highly intellgent. I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: JUST FOR ME, MY CHILD, BECAUSE WE ARE WORTH IT: Ok off that bottom of yours. be pro-active in all Darlene suggests in her comment to you.

Mar 22, 2010
Get yourself & your child out now!!!!!
by: Mac

Girl.....Love yourself & your child & get out of there now. 211 can help u find a local shelter,etc.Neither of you deserve to be abused mentally, verbally, physicaly. That's not love,& submitting & staying in that hell isn't loving you or your child either. Proud of you for sharing your story. It's a good step ,one of many along your path of recovery. Keepin you & your child in prayers. You can get out from under that abuse, & give your child & yourself the gift of life,love, recovery.You can make that choice for both of you.Girl the only wolf in sheeps clothing, or wolf to think is cool or sexy, is only the wolf in the fiction Twilight Saga. Seriously!!

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