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Feb 10, 2016
Marcia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It is so disturbing that you would be punished for what the child molester did and was going to do to you. And that you would be punished for trying to get justice for your niece. This speaks to a vile and long-existing tradition that women bear the blame and shame for being abused. That somehow, it's our fault for being sexual, for "turning on" the abuser. And then, we are to keep quiet about any abuse we are aware of because it's important to keep up appearances, to stop anyone from judging the family. It's so easy to get angry at such misguided and destructive pride and prejudice. It took women, women like YOU, Marcia, to step up and put an end to such absurd notions. Women who spoke up. Women who would not allow the family and community pride to interfere with what they knew to be wrong on so many levels.

You said you've started writing a book to bring about awareness. Keep writing. Keep telling your story. Don't allow your Self to be silenced. You may have to make some difficult choices along the way. There may be people who you care deeply about who no longer want to have anything to do with you as a result of your commitment to the goal of writing for awareness. And that may stop you from going forward with the goal, but it doesn't have to stop you from actually writing the book. Cross those bridges when you come to them. Write. Write. Then write some more. Share your feelings, your emotions, your truth and the truth of what shame is brought to young girls, even young babies. Write of the backlash. Write of the blame put on the blameless. Then write of what that felt like. And don't stop writing until you squeeze out every ounce of emotion. Do this for your Self first, Marcia. Then see how you feel going forward with publishing. You don't have to make that decision now.

I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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